What do you think ? Home school vs. Online public school vs. Private School vs. Public School

Nicki - posted on 06/04/2012 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Which in your opinion is the better option and why? Here is my view:



* Allow me to apologize my comma button does not work.



I have a personal issue with public schooling. For one thing they basically treat all the kids the same because they don't have time or resources to come to each individual child's level. Also with all the reports on bullying it terrifies me. I was bullied throughout my school years up through my senior year.Bullying is so much worse now then it was even when I was in school which wasn't long ago because it follows children home in the form of social networking sites. And unfortunately it's not just kids bullying other kids it's sometimes the teachers too. I experienced that. I was bullied by 4 teachers throughout my schooling and 2 of them physically hurt me. I don't want my daughter going through that. And your kids have no defense. It's frowned upon when a parent sends their kid's with a hidden camera but if something's happening and the child tells it's not believed because a bully teacher will just deny said incident ever took place. It's a lose lose situation. The only plus I see about public school is the socialization part. You learn how to deal with people different from you.



Private school I don't see as much better than public school and it costs to send your child to one. Also I don't like the school uniform thing. They say it's to cut down on bullying but it also stifles personal expression. Also kids still find something to bully about. For instance with the uniforms if one kid's mom buys them some top of the line name brand uniform clothes for school and another buys her kids walmart brand you think they're not comparing?? Think again. Kids will always find something to nit pick at.



Home school takes time and dedication unless of course you can afford a private tutor to do the homeschooling for you. I don't like home school because it can stifle the child's social development if you don't keep them in other activities. I do like though that you can get to each child's individual level and work with them on their own pace. I like that kids can wear what they want ( within reason of course I know I've actually personally written out my own dress code for when my little one is bigger). I also like that you have the right to omit things you may not want your child learning about example you can teach evolution or creation it's your choice depending on how you feel about the subject.



Online school seems to be what I'm personally leaning more towards for when my Alaina gets big enough to go to school. Actually I think I might send her to public school for maybe kindergarten through 4th grade then pull her out and do online it will all depend on how it goes though. I like the fact that with online school kids are required to participate in class discussions. I like yet again that she is free to wear what she wants and isn't stuck in a stupid uniform. I'm not sure if they work at their own pace. I know when I did independent study senior English at school it was work at your own pace. Any body know anything about that? However yet again *there is a down side. Yes they have class discussion but there is no real socialization on it. If I do online school I plan on putting my daughter in a few extracurricular activities to help socialize her and keep her around other kids. But with homeschooling and online school I like that I don't have to worry what is being said or done to my child because I can monitor and know what's happening.



It's a personal choice and I want to know your opinion. Remember please be respectful everyone has a right to their own opinion.

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Dove - posted on 06/04/2012

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You haven't been attacked here. I do believe that your horrible personal experiences (that NO child should ever go through) may have clouded your judgement on public schooling in general... which is totally understandable. Though I don't understand why you would put your child in public school just to pull her out at some point... and you are already 'predicting' trouble when your child isn't even of school age yet.

Stifler's - posted on 06/04/2012

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I went to public schools my whole life. It's what you make of it. I think I'll be sending my kids to either a public or private school.

Sherri - posted on 06/04/2012

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Interesting my kids would absolutely hate being homeschooled and even in 8th & 9th grade they want to go to school. Even when they are sick I have to fight for them to stay home because they would rather be in school. They get bored staying home all the time and love to go to school to see their friends and get a break from their mom & siblings too.

Sherri - posted on 06/04/2012

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What if your child wants to stay in public school and does well, has no problems will you allow her to make her own choice and decide what is best for herself?

Sherri - posted on 06/04/2012

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I wasn't attacking Nikki but I was speaking from a now stand point vs. what happened up teen years ago when you were in school. Things have changed since we were in school and I know because I have 3 kids going through the public school system as we speak. I have a 9th, 8th and Kindergartner.

Here you can't put your children in enrichment classes the only people who can or will is the school and that is only after evaluations. Also our school truly has a no bully policy and there is none of the situations you describe, I am sorry that happened to you but I would be willing to bet that is the exception and not the rule.

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Nicki - posted on 06/04/2012

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My nephews would give anything to do online school. When me and my brother were discussing it my nephew ron said "UH! Laina is soooo LUCKY!! Dad won't LET me do online school...." His dad said "Don't encourage him he's been trying to talk me into letting him do online school since he first saw a commercial for it."

Nicki - posted on 06/04/2012

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obviously if she enjoyed it and didn't want to do online I wouldn't make her. But I will let her know that she has the option. And most kids that I know would love that option. hmmm....have to go to school all day or be able to stay at home all day? Then hang out with my friends after they're out of school...

Dove - posted on 06/04/2012

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And if your child ends up thriving in public school, loving it, and not wanting to do online.... Will you consider it?

Nicki - posted on 06/04/2012

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Well I personally as a kid would have LOVED to be given the option of doing online school. My parents didn't have the time to do something like that. I know my nephews and nieces are all jealous that I'm going to allow my child to do online school they all want to do it too. I will put her in public school for a bit then she will do online. After fourth grade the children where I'm at go to different schools anyway and would be separated from some of her friends anyway in that instance. And she would be allowed to maintain contact both hanging out with her friends and online, phone, etc. I know she may never have a problem, but I also want her to be able to work at her own pace, not put into a one size fits all system (and yes I know enrichment classes). I wish they had one of those schools where kids choose what they're going to study and how long and all that. I can't remember what they're called I read about that before online. I'd be more than happy to send her to one of those schools. They don't have any in this area though.

Nicki - posted on 06/04/2012

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I was in school about 5 years ago. And I'm sorry I took it as otherwise. Yet again I'm glad you've had no problem. I hope for the few years mine will attend public she has no problems. But I am one of the those people that if I sense somethings wrong I'm going to be putting a hidden camera on my kid and I will let the school know it at the beginning so they have fair warning.

Anyway thanks for replying

Nicki - posted on 06/04/2012

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Just so you know I'm just coming from personal experiences. There are awesome schools and great teachers I'm not trying to hit any sore spots with anyone.



I just want to know personal opinions. Please don't attack my opinions. I wont attack yours. I'm happy to hear that many haven't had any issues and I hope none of you do.



Yet again my responses are just personal experiences. I'm not saying that schools are all bad I'm not saying home school or online school is perfect. Everyone has their own opinion and every child and every experience is different. Personally school is one part of my life that I wish I could delete the majority of memories about.



So please don't attack and don't take me wrong. I'm just curious what everyone else thinks. If you read in my original post I plan on sending my daughter to public school for a least a few years unless she runs into problems at which time she'll be pulled out. And I plan to put her into online or home school before middle school anyway. It's what I believe will work best for me and my child. You have your own opinion. I want to hear yours.

Nicki - posted on 06/04/2012

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With the enrichment classes most of the children that were in them when I was in school were kids whose parents insisted on it (even if the kid was struggling) or kids of teachers and people like that. I went to public school. Please don't reply in a downgrading tone. I'm not misinformed I've lived it.

Also schools CLAIM to have a no tolerance policy but I've seen first hand them take a report of bullying and brush it under the rug. From sixth grade to eleventh grade I was tortured by this boy. He was two years older than me but still in my grade. He hurt me to the point I had to have surgery on my shoulder. He never really got into trouble because his uncle was our school's superintendent. In eleventh grade he put a knife to my throat and told me he was going to bring a gun to school to kill me and my brother. I immediately told. His uncle told me that I was making something out of nothing and that kevin didn't have a knife. I saw the blade. I felt it against my throat. He told me that I wasn't allowed to tell my parents and if I did that I would be suspended for insubordination. The next day I pleaded with my parents to allow me and my sibling to stay home. Eventually they got out of me what happened. He had my brother stay home with our mom and he went up to the school. He told Mr. T (the superintendent) that either he expelled kevin (who was then 18) or that me and him would be on the news that night and Kevin would be arrested for terroristic threatening and assault on a minor (I was barely 16 at the time). His uncle allowed him to quit school instead of being expelled.

And I have a right to my own opinion just as you do hon.

Sherri - posted on 06/04/2012

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#1 Public schools do not treat all children the same they have extra help one on one classes or smaller group classes for the children that are struggling, They have enrichment classes above and beyond for the kids that are way ahead. So you are ill informed in that aspect.

#2 Bullying is actually much better than it was when I was a kid. Schools now have a NO tolerance policy for bullying and it is taken extremely seriously. Your child can often report it anonymously and it is dealt with. I was bullied horribly as a kid now my son was having an issue reported it and it was dealt with immediately and has never had an issue since.

Nicki - posted on 06/04/2012

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I'm glad it works for you and your child. I know not all kids have a problem and there are plenty of wonderful teachers out there. I just don't want to be in the situation that my parents were in. My physically abusive teachers were in first grade and fifth grade. The first one used to pull my hair and pinch me. She didn't like that I was left handed and would slap my hand and call me satan's child whenever she saw me use my left hand. Until my parents saw a bruise on me from her pinching me. Of course she denied it but they were adamant and my mother ended up coming to school with me everyday for the rest of the year to keep me from being hurt physically or emotionally by that teacher.The teacher took a disliking to me because she openly did not agree with grandparents raising children. My fifth grade teacher there was only one incident but that was enough. My friend had gotten a "pink slip" and was to go to the office after class. In my little fifth grade mind I didn't understand why she had gotten in trouble now that I'm older I understand it wasn't WHAT she did it was HOW she did it. Anyway I was going to go to the office with her. Well another girl Casey told on me to the teacher and she stormed out grabbed me by my bad wrist squeezed and twisted it then threw me against the brick wall. By lunch time I had a hand print bruise around my wrist and a bruise across my shoulders. If she had let me go to the office Mr. J would have just told me to mind my own business and sent me back to class anyway. I went home and told my parents and showed them the bruises. My dad lectured me about minding my own business and not getting involved when teachers were disciplining other kids. The next morning he took me up to the school he showed Mrs. L my bruises and told her that if she had another problem with me that she was to call him and he'd deal with it. He told her that if he saw another mark on me that I said she put there that he would have her teaching licenses revoked and she would be arrested for child abuse.

I don't want to be put in their shoes with my own.

Dove - posted on 06/04/2012

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We've had 6 years of experience in the public school system so far with no issues whatsoever.

My little one is currently in a private preschool, but we don't HAVE any public preschools. He'll be in public once he starts kindergarten.

I do know people who have gone the home school and/or online school route and they make sure their kids have plenty of social interaction and it works for them. I know others in private school and it works for them. Public is our choice for the cost, practicality, socialization, etc... I haven't yet had a kid who was suffering (academically or otherwise) in the public school system, but if I did then I may have to reevaluate my stance.

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