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Lisa - posted on 05/21/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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what is the best way to juggle a child , school and work?

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As a single mom to a 2 year old who juggled all three for 18 months, the best way is to go day by day. Don't set high expectations. I thought that I could work, complete all my school work, enjoy all my sons waking time with him, along with have a wonderfully clean house and amazing dinner on the table. I took me a while to accept that the house may not always be spotless, there may be laundry to do, and my school work may be done a little at a time (usually late at night) rather than when I thought would be a good time to do it. Do what makes you happy. Sometimes a little play time with the kids is more important than making sure every single chore has been done. Do what feels right at the time and feed off your kids. They are in fact why you do everything else you try to juggle.

Leslie - posted on 05/22/2012

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I have three jobs and a 18 month old. me and my husband work opposite shifts. Cause we can't afford daycare. I'm done with school. in fact I just graduate a month ago. now soon be looking for a job in my field, but in no hurry. My child is on the waiting list for preschool. for early preschool ages 12 months to 3 yrs old. I'll volunteer and that should get my foot in the door. I'm a childcare major with a degree. I manage my time well. plus my house is clean most of the time.

Louise - posted on 05/21/2012

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Hi Lisa
Im a single Mum and have a five year old (just started school)and I work full time. Its not easy and I think childcare is essential to be able to manage. The school environment is fantastic for kids and Im pretty sure they learn a damn sight more there than they would at home with the added benifit of social skills and making friends. Just because you're a mum doesnt make you a good academic teacher, Im sure I'd be rubbish. I have a live in aupair and I could manage without her. Its not that expensive and if you have a spare room its a godsend. They help with cleaning, school pick up, some light cooking and babysitting. They become like a big sister/brother if you get the right one. Good luck

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Whatever way is best for YOUR family. What anybody else says really doesn't matter. One sizes does not fit all. However, if you are asking what the best way is for MY family, the answer is: "It depends". I have been a sahm, a wohm, and a wahm. I have used dc, both part time and full time. I have sent my children to public school and I have home schooled. Every decision has been made based on each child's needs, the needs of the family as a whole, my needs, and my husband's needs.

Chris; currently home schooling our youngest, age 14 ending 8th grade and wah full time.

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Home schooling children so that they can be close to Mum. My concerns would include things like are the children able to socialise with other children their age in local after school activities like Scouting/Guiding, swimming and youth clubs, which helps them to develop social skills.

For me, the best option for my girls are attending the local primary and secondary schools where they get a rounded education, that I could not provide in a home-school environment. Also it has meant that they have been able to speak/learn another language from a young age, so now they are all bilingual (English and Welsh), as where I live is a very Welsh speaking area and in the schools that my girls attend they are taught through the medium of Welsh.

Whether a child is home schooled or in the state/private school system is up to the individual family. Important questions, that it boils down to is - will they get a well rounded education, what is the best route for the child(ren) and parents involved. If home schooled, then looking at making sure that the child(ren) also have the opportunity to mix and socialise with their own age group so that they can learn the social skills that they might otherwise have the chance of missing.

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Lisa - posted on 05/23/2012

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Thank you all for the comments i really appreciate them i hope i get this job at this daycare i just sign up for that way me and my child can be in the same place and i can also see whats going on and have time for school ... thank you once again moms :)

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yes a good daycare is fine. but to be sure it has no problems. The daycare needs to be looked into because some has problems. I think it is best for child at home, but if mom can't. then of course a goodcare of someone trusted is good .

but if mom is able to stay at home is better. Some people may get affended by that and i'm not trying to affend anyone.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/21/2012

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I guess I'll go ask my 2 HS age kids if they ever felt "unsafe" or "unsecure" because I worked...LOL

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/21/2012

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Ok, and in Michelle's perfect world, that will work



HOWEVER, if you don't have that luxury, I'd recommend a good support system and daycare.



IMO, it's kind of rude for people to assume that someone asking for specific advice wants to hear someone give such an answer as Michelle's. I mean, if you'd asked about What peoples opinion of the "best" thing for your kid, then, perhaps that answer would have been helpful.



Do not, EVER think that you are less of a mom because you cannot "stay home, school your child, etc".

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the best thing for a child is to be home with mom, to be schooled by mom and mom to be a stay at home mom. the child is safer and more secure and is closer to mom

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