Angela - posted on 09/29/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )
My mom recently started dating this guy, 4 months, but I made it very clear that I don't want my child to call him grandpa or papa. She got pretty upset because she thought I was being hurtful. I just feel like:
1. They havent' been together that long
2. He hasn't done the work necessary to be rewarded with the specialness a grandpa has. Why should he get to stoll off the street and become grandpa?
3. I have only met him 4 times and my husband has only met him 2 times so, to us, he is essentially a stranger.
4. I feel it diminishes the value that the real grandparents have.
I don't think I'm being unreasonable with my request but it have been pretty upsetting to my mom and our relationship. I don't want him to be called grandpa or papa but I don't mind if they call him some other term. I know that my mom doesn't want him to be called by his first name so I need to find another term to call him.