what if a girl is 18 years old and she got her own house and a car. and she go to collage. and she dating a 40 year old. i'm just saying personal i don't think nothing wrong with that. can sumbody help me out on this?

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Good point about the name...I didn't notice that.
I'm an entrepreneur. I create businesses then sell them.
I guess $100k might be a lot for some people. At least $10k though, and one should have a secure hold in the job market--marketable, up to date skills, and a good network--to make that amount work.
Like I've said, I've been married 11 years. It's highly unlikely I will ever use my emergency fund, but it will be there until I'm dead.....just in case. You never can trust another person completely, you know.

Julie A - posted on 11/07/2013

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Wait a minute. Ooh SHe nerdy girl ? Really?? Lately alot of these posts are put on here to start Arguments and entertainment only by perverts and ppl with no life abusing the site. This one is worded very poorly and unclear. I highly doubt it's even real. Ooh she nerdy girl? Please if you really need help, by all means explain yourself..

Julie A - posted on 11/07/2013

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Nothing wrong with it. Men like younger women for obvious reasons. Young women like older men USUALLY because they have money and lots of it. Nothing wrong with a sugar daddy. Most the time it ends up like Kelly said. $100,000 at least in a bank account before you get married?!? Wow. Thats ALOT of money. Most people don't have $10,000 saved, not these days. That's a VERY unrealistic number there Missy. But hey, more power to ya. You must be a doctor or lawyer . Most ppl never even see that kind of money. I think having around 10k would be more realistic . Like they say, whatever makes you happy..

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My husband is 12 years older than I am, and we just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary. I prefer older men, they have their lives together, they've gotten over their "wild years," and they have learned a lot of the valuable life lessons on relationships (not just romantic relationships, but all of life's relationships and dynamics) that young men haven't learned yet. They're also more considerate in bed.

My advice. Go ahead and date, but don't commit too early or too strongly--keep your independence. Not all, but a lot of older men who like significantly younger women have some issues that can make a relationship dangerous for the young woman.
Some are very controlling. They like young, naive girls whom they can easily control. They target girls who "seem" strong, but whom they can easily cage. You say you have your own house and car, and you go to college. If you have debt from a mortgage, a car loan, or student loans, he can very easily put you in a financially vulnerable situation in which you will depend on him. Then it will be very difficult for you to leave, and you can easily be forced to follow his orders. I see this happen all the time in my work.
Some have an appetite for young women, and as soon as you hit 25, he will be trading you in for another 18 year old. This seems to be most of them--they use women as arm candy or trophies then discard them when no longer needed.

That said, many of them are just great guys who are young at heart. That would be like my husband--he is bored by the women his age. When we met, the women his age were looking to get married and have kids as quickly as possible because they were running out of time. He wanted a relationship with some travel and adventure first. Women his age were more into social status and conformity, he didn't care for status symbols or social conformity--he just wanted to do what he enjoyed with someone he enjoyed. We fit well together--the age gap does present some obstacles, but we overcome them with general ease.

Of course, I still took the same precautions with my husband--you can never tell at the onset what kind of person another person is. Before you get married, or move in with a guy, make sure you have at least $100,000 in a savings account that you will retain during the marriage, that he will have no access or rights to. EVERY woman should have an escape plan.

Danicia - posted on 11/07/2013

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what are you wanting help with? my personal opinion is big age gaps (over 5 years) are not for me. I have seen many age gap relationships end VERY badly in comparison to close age gaps. people do whatever works for them, but for me, more than 5 years is taboo.

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