What if...you learned that your College Grad (female) is shoplifting. How would you handle it?

User - posted on 08/02/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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In this case, our thief is "quietly" rebellious, not poor, and not in line with how she was raised. I am divorced from her father, but she has a close relationship with both of us and has great friends. As her parent, how would you handle it?

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Dove - posted on 08/04/2014

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If you know for sure that she is stealing... Let her know that she needs to stop and seek help (even offer to set up an appointment w/ a therapist for her) and if she doesn't... I'd report her. I don't condone illegal activities. She's not a 'child' even though she is YOUR child... she's more than old enough to accept the consequences of her illegal actions.

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User - posted on 08/04/2014

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Thank you Dove. I totally agree. I do not condone illegal activities either. Yes...great word...she's 'my' child, not 'a' child, I concur and will do just as you suggest. Thank you for being so helpful. Clear thinking when the crisis isn't happening...but in the midst, other emotions arise, and I think it's important to speak and acting wisely with her. Thanks much.

User - posted on 08/04/2014

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I agree Chet. So, are you suggesting I let her know, I know, and bring up the idea that therapy would be helpful?

Chet - posted on 08/02/2014

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How do you know that she's shoplifting? Do you know what stores? How often? What details do you have?

The thing is, a lot of shoplifters aren't poor, they don't need the things they steal and they "know better" on a logical level. They're suffering from a psychological disorder and need therapy. The problem is that your daughter has to want help in order to be helped.

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