What is a good age to take the silly pacifier away?

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Katherine - posted on 03/08/2009

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I took my kids pacifier away at age 2 it was easy with my little boy. My little girl was a lot harder she cried alot but she had to have three pacifier's to sleep with, she had to have two in each hand. But she finally got better.

Tania - posted on 03/08/2009

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It depends on every child. I did not want my son to use it once he turned two.  I thought it was going to be hard but not really it took only two days.  I would say get rid of it as soon as possible (if possible) it will get harder as they grow older. 

Abby - posted on 03/08/2009

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Quoting Terri:

This is a tough one! It depends on the child and the circumstances. My eldest is 15 and took his away when he was 3. He was ok with it, but my 12 yr old still had his at 5! In the end we left it out for father christmas to put on dummy mountain - lol!



hehe - when my daughter was 2 1/2 we left her dummy out for the easter bunny to give to her new baby bunnies!

Mandi - posted on 03/08/2009

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I took my little girl's pacifier (or binky and we called it) away at about 2 1/2 or 3 years old.

Terri - posted on 03/08/2009

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This is a tough one! It depends on the child and the circumstances. My eldest is 15 and took his away when he was 3. He was ok with it, but my 12 yr old still had his at 5! In the end we left it out for father christmas to put on dummy mountain - lol!

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My son is 15 months old and we took his away from him about one month ago but only through the day, at nap times and bed time he still has it. In the next month or so we are hoping to rid it altogether fingers crossed

Karrie - posted on 03/13/2009

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Quoting Sally:



obviously it is impossable to prevent a child from Never ingesting Toothpast.  So to prevent them fromingesting alot be very careful about how much is put on their toothbrush.  They make toothpast for children to taste so good now that the kids want to eat it.  I found with my son (whenhe was little)that we made brushing and spitting a game.  He loved to spit in the sink. 






a child doesn't need that much toothpast on their toothbrush to  begin with...... and my kids use my toothpast most of the time.... (only asmalll amount) mine don't like the taste of the kids...

Becky - posted on 03/13/2009

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Personally as soon as you can as long term use can lead to a lot of problems with teeth and speach.



I have not used one with either of my two children, partly through choice and partly because my mum kept saying "such lazy parenting blah blah blah" so was a little frightened too!



I think some children may need them for long than others if you do give them to your children. But you could possibly try telling them they are for babies and get them to through them away.



My friend had a nightmare removing her sons, and he ended up sucking his thumb until he was 11!

Sally - posted on 03/13/2009

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I know it is sad to see young children with rotten teeth.  I have worked in the Dental feild for a long time and with the department of Health in Florida and have seen and met alot of parents young and old who have no idea what causes tooth decay.  Or didn't realize it was what they were puting in the bottle or cup and not the bottle or cup itself. 

Sally - posted on 03/13/2009

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obviously it is impossable to prevent a child from Never ingesting Toothpast.  So to prevent them fromingesting alot be very careful about how much is put on their toothbrush.  They make toothpast for children to taste so good now that the kids want to eat it.  I found with my son (whenhe was little)that we made brushing and spitting a game.  He loved to spit in the sink. 

Karrie - posted on 03/12/2009

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its funny i read everyones answers and they are all different..... lol.. you will know and your child willknow... me its not a big deal to me.. there are more important things to stress over then a binki.. its their security.. try if its easy continue... if its not stop... my son wasy way too hard... and i chose to wait.... but thats not the case for everyone+

Heather - posted on 03/12/2009

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Here is how I did it with my daughter...she was pretty attached to her "micky" as she would call it, because she had to be hospitalized quite ofter the first couple of years...about a month before Christmas (she was 18 mos)...or any other special day...we started telling here that when Santa brought her new toys, that he was gonna have to take her micky in order to leave the new toys there...I would tell her about every other day up until about a week before christmas, and then every day the week about 3 times a day...then when she went to bed on christmas eve, I let her fall asleep with it, and by the time morning rolled around, the new toy was set up for her to play with and all the "mickys" were gone...the first couple of nights were rough at bedtime, but all I had to do was reassure her that Santa took it and left her favorite toy, and it went great. She is now 3 and whenever she sees someone with a "micky" she tells them to give it to Santa for a new toy!

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3 months. I have 4 children and only one of them wanted a pacifier to suck on and by 3 months she didn't really want it anymore. Most parents continue giving it to them just because its an easy way to keep them quiet. They need to learn internal soothing skills rather than external. All my kids are excellent sleepers and know how to soothe themselves in stressful situations instead of whining for a binky or clinging to my skirt.

I also take away their bottle at 1 yr. because that's when they are developmentally ready for it. It is our job as parents to teach them to be responsible self-reliant people as they grow up and i've learned that if you know what is developmentally right for their age and expect that of them then they will do it.

Allie - posted on 03/12/2009

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Just before my son turned two i had "misplaced" it and he was doing just fine without it until one night after i had hurt my arm at work, i took a tylenol pm and zonked out...my silly husband (im trying to be nice about it lol) gave it back to him in the middle of the night during a thunderstorm instead of just comforting him...now it is back in the picture and im about fed up with the thing again, and ever so nicely told my husband that since i didnt give it back to him i wasnt the one taking it away again, and it also has to be gone before mothers day.....and i had it sooooo close to gone GRROWL!

Mary - posted on 03/12/2009

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My now 14 yr old,only sucked on her binky for maybe 3-4 months,and she was off the bottle before she hit a year old.My 11 yr old was never a binky sucker,so she didnt really want it,the bottle on teh other hand for her was very hard.She was almost 3,then we started taking them away 1 by 1,until she had 2 left and then we told her we needed to give them to a new baby in the family,because she was our big girl now.IT WORKED!

Alicia - posted on 03/12/2009

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As soon as possible. I took my son's away at 5. He sucked his thumb until a few months ago and he's 13. He got braces last year, and up till a few months ago, sucked his thumb WITH the braces. He woke up one day and he said to me, Mom, I'm done with my thumb, OH HAPPY DAY!!!

Christina - posted on 03/12/2009

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You'll know when your child is ready. My oldest was almost three when we "accidentally" left it at his aunt's house. I knew he was ok when he asked for it and didn't freak out when I told him the trash man took it. My middle daughter, who is 3 today, wouldn't give hers up until she had broke it apart. She was mad for a week when she realized that she wasn't getting anymore. Now my youngest will be 2 in Aug has four of the same kind that she carries around. I will wait until I know she is ready to give them up. But I will start taking them away one at a time.

Jennifer - posted on 03/12/2009

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I took my oldest's away when she was three and it was hard so I say take it away at two. The binky "fairy" sometimes works

Andrea - posted on 03/12/2009

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My son was 2 1/2. I think that was too late. I'd say by 9months or one year old if you want less of a fight.

Eve - posted on 03/12/2009

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To be honest I don't know. However, I wouldn' t stress about it. I let them give them up when they were ready. My youngest quit when she was almost 3, and my middle when she was almost 4. So my answer would be when they are ready they'll do all the work.

Jen - posted on 03/11/2009

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We introduced the concept of the Pacifier Fairy :-)

She comes at night and takes all the pacifiers in exchange for toys.

We did this when the girls (twins) started waking up at night and crying because they couldn't find theirs. About 2 years and a couple months.

Lisa - posted on 03/11/2009

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I did this with my son at  2 1/2.  At this age, I could explain to him that he didn't need it anymore and that he could put his away for his baby brother that was coming soon.  For about a week or 2, when he would find a binkie, we would just put them in a special box that was put out of his reach and save them for his baby brother.  He only asked for his binkie again at night twice after that.  Then it was all over!  It is totally an instance where the mom worries more about the outcome than how it actually turns out! 

Shawna - posted on 03/11/2009

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I let my 1st child use 1 and she was 2 by the time, i took it away, iwas as dependant on that damn thing as she was, i had 5 or 6 of them around all the time, but sometimes they went missing, and i tore up the house and got mad and i even cried when i couldnt find any of them, lol. so i just one day, after i got her a toddler bed, took some sissors and cut the nipples up, and lived with her being upset and her laying down in her new bed with out a sucky...then i had a boy and another girl since then, both did not use a soother...cus i figured i wasnt going through that again no matter what. My baby is 10 months old and she uses other ways to soothe herself.

User - posted on 03/11/2009

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All my children were 2 1/2 to 3 years old the youngest on was the hardest as she always had 3 dummies one to suck and one in each hand. I tried a few things ie leaving them out for santa's reindeers, the faries took them away etc. nothing worked we had tears and angry fits. Eventually id give in and give them back to her. Then i decided i had to be strong so i took them away and explained she was bigger now and really didnt need them. Again she cried and was angry but after a few nights of not having them she was ok and never asked for them again.I do think you have to be strong and realise the crying wont last forever.

Amanda - posted on 03/11/2009

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After my children turned a year, I stopped buying them. One by one, I kept throwing them out until there were no more in the house. Then I basically sain no more. My oldest was 14 months when he had lost his last suther and I told him that I didn't have enough money to buy a new one. He was fine with that. (two days later the bottles dissapeared) My youngest lost interest in the suther around the same age (i think he was trying to be like his older brother) Once they are gone, the children tend to forget about the suther after a few days.

Heidi - posted on 03/11/2009

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I would only take it away if the child is 2.5-3 yo.  Passie's are only for naptime and bedtime.  Definately not let out of their bedrooms.  Be consistant and be firm.  It the time is right, Easter is coming.  The Easter bunny takes the passis and gives them to new babies.  So, have the child place the passies in the Easter basket, and place the basket on the from porch.  Have the child yell to the EB, "Here EB, this is for a new baby".  Close the door and head to bed.  There will be a few rough nights, but it's only a stage.  My boys were real attached, and this was advice given to me.  Sometimes, the still sooth-suck themselves to sleep with no passie. 



This is a huge step, but, you don't want the passie affecting their teeth and bite.  They need to learn to put themselves to sleep.  Between 2.5-3 yo is the best time. 



 

Melissa - posted on 03/11/2009

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I find any time is a good time. the sooner the better. My daughter stopped all on her own at 2 months old, so i never had to worry about it. I know of friends that have had a hard time. When they cry try giving them a toy instead of their soother.



 



Good Luck!



 



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Thelisha - posted on 03/11/2009

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I t depends on the child, but most children are smart enough to know.  I took my daughters paccy from her when she was 12 months but my mother was my babysitter and kept giving it back to her.  But my daughter knew not to ask for it when she was home.

Marie - posted on 03/11/2009

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I am here with ya on this one honey. I have always just laid him down with one instead of getting him a bottle all the time... teeth rot.
I would have to say just take them away during the day and only give it to your child when he/she is tired and gonna get ready to go lay down.
I am really now sure what your situation is at home with your child wanting it all the time. Is it bad like your child needs it 24/7 LOL

Tammy - posted on 03/11/2009

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Hey there, taking away the paci is hard.  It offers a sense of security and can be a very hard habit to break.  I never did the whole pacifier thing because potty training and bedtime are enough obsticles to overcome.  I am a dental hygienist and feel that pacifiers are really bad for the shape of the childs mouths.  The way that the teeth come into the mouth is effected in a negative way.  It would be a good idea to get rid of it as soon as you can.  Offer a game of having the child put the paci in a bag and sending it to all the other babies who need one.  It makes them feel good about it and gives them a sence of accomplishment.  Good Luck with that one!

Kadeishia - posted on 03/11/2009

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That's a tuff one! I didn't totally get rid of my sons pacifier until age 2 1/2, but it was extremely hard! It also inhibited him from talking. The longer I allowed him to keep it the longer it took him to actually speak. As soon as I took it away he stopped pointing all the time and started talking. I would suggest you get rid of it as soon you're able to do so because they become so dependent on it.

Tina - posted on 03/11/2009

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Quoting Karrie:



Quoting Sally:




I see alot of people suggesting to let your child use it only at night and it is actually the worst time to let your child use a pacifier.  At night is when children do a majority of their growing and this is also when the pallet can be most deformed by using the pacifier or thumb sucking.  It is also never good to allow a child to sleep with a bottle or sippy cup especially if it has any thing in it with can cause tooth decay ie: milk (white, chocolate or strawberry) juice, koolaide, soda, etc)  If you put them tobed with it it should only be filled with water.  If your child needs it warm just warm up the water.  It is also important to brush their teeth with floridated toothpaste before they go to bed.  Just make sure they NEVER ingest thre toothpast.  The best oral hygeine for young children is prevention.....










do you know how hard it is to keep a child from ingesting toothpaste.. i only use a tiny bit on my childrens toothbrush... i try and get them to spit it out... but my children have swallowed some i'm sure.. and they are fine.






I agree you have to be careful with night time soother....BUT I only let my kids fall asleep with the soother after they were sleeping I would take it out of there mouth and put it in the sooth container on the dresser....they never woke up and didn't cry for it at night(if they were sick then ya I would give it back to them to help them fall asleep,but take it away again..)and as for tooth decay...if your child has a mouth full of rotting teeth then u need parenting skills not advice on how or when to take the soother away........

Julie - posted on 03/11/2009

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I have talked to differnet dentist and my daughter's ped nad they all asy the same thing ......that as long as you take it away before they start to get their adult teeth you don't have to worry about them have bucked theeth or any other problems.  thier mouths don't stop changing til then.  If you are worried what people think...just remember you are there mother not them

Julie - posted on 03/11/2009

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I have talked to differnet dentist and my daughter's ped nad they all asy the same thing ......that as long as you take it away before they start to get their adult teeth you don't have to worry about them have bucked theeth or any other problems.  thier mouths don't stop changing til then.  If you are worried what people think...just remember you are there mother not them

Jessica - posted on 03/11/2009

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Quoting Terri:

This is a tough one! It depends on the child and the circumstances. My eldest is 15 and took his away when he was 3. He was ok with it, but my 12 yr old still had his at 5! In the end we left it out for father christmas to put on dummy mountain - lol!
i took my youngest


I took my younget son's away at 10 months, I was tiered of trying to find it so holding and conforting seemed to do the samething

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Okay....if they are younger like less than one I would say that you should probably be able to take it away and replace it with a lovey or something....and deal with them throwing fits about it for like a week or so....it's not going to hurt them, you just keep giving them love, cause that is what it is something that soothes them...if they are 1-2 they may not be able to let it go and I would just hope that they grow out of it.....if they are getting to be 2 1/2 or older(depending on how much the child understands) you can find someone else that has a little baby like less than one, where it is obvious that they are littler than them, and try what Jon and Kate did, and ask them if they will give it to the baby, cause they are getting to be big boy/girl and the baby needs it, cause they are little...if that doesn't work....wait a little while and one day they will really want a toy, book or something like that....and tell them that they can have it if you can have their pacifiers(if nothing else throw them away and when/if they ask about it tell them they are a big boy/girl and they don't need it anymore).....Good Luck

Debbie - posted on 03/11/2009

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i took my childrens dummy (pacifier) away about 2 yrs old , i dropped it on the floor and told them it was dirty, they didn,t want it after that

Christy - posted on 03/11/2009

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We took it away from our oldest two weeks before she turned one.  One weekend I took away the bottle, formulat (went to straight milk) and the binky.  It was a rough couple days, then everything was fine.  My second daughter will be 1 on the 18th and still has hers for sleeping and when she is sick.  I am thinking the week after her birthday I will do the same, take away bottles and use straight sippies, she is already on straight milk and get rid of the pacifier.  The hardest part is making them cry it out at night when they want that pacifier.  Good luck!!!!!!

Karrie - posted on 03/11/2009

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Quoting Sally:



I see alot of people suggesting to let your child use it only at night and it is actually the worst time to let your child use a pacifier.  At night is when children do a majority of their growing and this is also when the pallet can be most deformed by using the pacifier or thumb sucking.  It is also never good to allow a child to sleep with a bottle or sippy cup especially if it has any thing in it with can cause tooth decay ie: milk (white, chocolate or strawberry) juice, koolaide, soda, etc)  If you put them tobed with it it should only be filled with water.  If your child needs it warm just warm up the water.  It is also important to brush their teeth with floridated toothpaste before they go to bed.  Just make sure they NEVER ingest thre toothpast.  The best oral hygeine for young children is prevention.....






do you know how hard it is to keep a child from ingesting toothpaste.. i only use a tiny bit on my childrens toothbrush... i try and get them to spit it out... but my children have swallowed some i'm sure.. and they are fine.

Sally - posted on 03/11/2009

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I see alot of people suggesting to let your child use it only at night and it is actually the worst time to let your child use a pacifier.  At night is when children do a majority of their growing and this is also when the pallet can be most deformed by using the pacifier or thumb sucking.  It is also never good to allow a child to sleep with a bottle or sippy cup especially if it has any thing in it with can cause tooth decay ie: milk (white, chocolate or strawberry) juice, koolaide, soda, etc)  If you put them tobed with it it should only be filled with water.  If your child needs it warm just warm up the water.  It is also important to brush their teeth with floridated toothpaste before they go to bed.  Just make sure they NEVER ingest thre toothpast.  The best oral hygeine for young children is prevention.....

Jeanette - posted on 03/11/2009

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I was very lucky. None of my 6 kids would use a pacifier. I tried them but they spit them out. But my thoughts are that once they start to walk, get rid of them. The pacifier, not the kid. I always hated seeing kids walking around with them in their mouth. But that is just one woman's opinion.

Katie - posted on 03/11/2009

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I found that two years old is a great age...at least by two. It was hard, but we chose the 'three night' challenge. He cried for three nights straight (and we didn't give in). He learned to put himself to sleep, and by the third night, he was sleeping on his own,and so were we! Good luck!

Sally - posted on 03/11/2009

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My son (who is now 11) stopped using his "binkey"when he was almost 2.  He looked for it for a couple days but I kept him busy so it kept his mind off it.  He was also off the bottle at about the same age and used sippy cups or cups with straws.  Orthodontically it is better to stop the pacifier or bottle by the age of three, so that there is less chance of damage to the pallate ( it can c ause an anterior open bite that can also be caused from thumb sucking.)  which gives people a bucked tooth look. 

Catherine - posted on 03/11/2009

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hi there , my daughter tiegan will be 4 in may, she has a dummy and blanket they go everywhere with her, although she never sucks her dummy in public she is slightly embarrassed, but she loves it for bed and chilling out at home, i dont see a problem afterall its there childhood x

Vanessa - posted on 03/11/2009

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It depends on how you use the pacifier. If your child just crawls/walks with it in their mouth for no reason, 10-12 months. Any longer and it messes up their teeth and can cause speech problems and is WAY harder to take away. If you only use it to 'pacify' (which is really what it's for) when your child is really upset or going to bed, I think 2 is reasonable.

User - posted on 03/11/2009

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My son had 3 and they slowly disappeared over a week or so when he was about 2years old. As one went I would ditract him with a new colouring book or picture book good luck.



 

Naomi - posted on 03/11/2009

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before six months really but before they r 1 for sure or u will have a hell of a time

A - posted on 03/11/2009

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Wanted to add that at 6mths of age, I made them only use their dummy at night. So by 11 or 12mths, they were ready to ditch it at night time too. I also got rid of bottles by 12mths. Made life so much easier. No more cleaning dirty dummies that fell on the floor etc. I also dont really like seeing kids old enough to talk with a dummy in their mouth and trying to speak....looks and sounds really funny...lol. But you have to do whats best for you. Dont let anyone sway you or make decisions for you. You know your child best :)

A - posted on 03/11/2009

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I have 2 boys and each had their dummy taken away at 12mths :) Not to be mean, but because I didnt want them becoming attached to it. Neither of them missed it. I was worried they wouldnt sleep properly, or wouldnt be able to self settle, but never had any trouble and am SO glad I took it away when I did.

Angie - posted on 03/10/2009

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I would say, before the child turns two. It was a heartbreaking experience but the sooner you do it, the better. We tricked our son who was 22 mos then and told him, another baby need his binky and we have to pass it on to him. Then I pretended like I threw it up in the air and wave bye bye binky. He waved and said his last bye bye himself. Untill now, whenever he sees pictures of him with the binky, he looks up and wave bye bye. He never asked for it ever again! He's 29 mos. old.

User - posted on 03/10/2009

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I have heard of a family that actually set a date on the calender (when they are old enuf to understand...3??maybe??) and they "mailed" all the pacifiers to a "little boy or girl" that needed them and didn't have one. They put all the pacifiers in an envelope and "put it in the mail!" Kinda different but i thought it was a cute story LOL!!

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