What is a good amount of time to wait to have a second child?

Alicia - posted on 05/25/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




My son is 2 years, 3 months now and were thinking about having another baby but I dunno if its too soon or not.I miss my little boy being a baby. He is getting so big so quick. Plus he is all alone. I think he would be a good big brother and I think he would love it. Any advice??


Faye - posted on 05/25/2012




Each family is different. Some want the children close together (10 - 24 months apart), while others want them further (3 years or more) apart.

Our decision to have another child was more of a money issue than a personal decision. We were ready for another but just had not made a final decision yet. We had to comply with a court order (to withhold money from the paycheck), so we had to stop buying the BC pill each month. We had insurance BUT that $20 co-pay was going to that court order so, after 4 months of no BC pill, we got pregnant with #2. By this time the oldest was almost 3 and ready to be a big sister. Other things we cut in order to comply with that court order was the newspaper and travels back home (we lived about 4 hrs from both sets of parents.) Brother was born when sissy was 3 years 6 months and 20 days.

If you feel your family is ready then I think your spacing is correct.

I will reccomend that once you are pregnant, about 6 - 10 weeks before the baby is due, enroll the oldest in the class BIG SIB, LITTLE SIB. Most hospitals have the class. It is a 2 hour class on Saturday morning. Our price was $15 or $20, I think, 17 years ago. The kids learn: to wash their hands before asking to hold the baby and to always sit before they hold the baby. They also learn to not carry the baby at all. They may see a room where mom and baby would stay while at the hospital.

After the baby is home, have the older one help you by bringing diapers and the wipes to you. Also choose 2 or 3 outfits for the baby to wear, then allow the older one choose between those.


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I don't think it is too soon. A couple of my kids are a little more than 1 year apart. It is all up to the person, how they feel about it. Wether they are ready or not. If ready, go for it.

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