What is a good curfrew for 13, almost 14 (8th) girl

Julie - posted on 01/30/2012 ( 15 moms have responded )

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What time do you think I should have my daughter stay at a V-day, co-ed party. She's almost 14, 8th grade. The party is 7-12 a.m. and parents will be there. However, I do not know this boy having the party or his parents.

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Lori - posted on 02/01/2012

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Wow! tough one. I have a daughter the same age and she has not gone to a coed party yet. Midnight seems a little late espeically since you don't know the boy or the parents. 10 pm sounds fair.

Christy - posted on 01/30/2012

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Meet the rents first, then make a decision based on how you feel about them. If you choose not to do this, I would pick her up at 10 or 10 30 at the latest.

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Keri - posted on 02/01/2012

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Unless I was involved in after-school activities, my curfew up until middle school was "when the street lights come on". Up until high school, my bedtime was about 9 or 10, so of course, we had to be home and in for the night before that. Just because a party has an "end time" doesn't mean your daughter has to stay the entire time.

Sandy - posted on 02/01/2012

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Meet the parents of the child hosting the party beforehand if possible. If you can't, then stick around the party for half an hour or so, before telling your daughter when you will pick her up. If you are going to ding dong ditch the kid, then 9 p.m. is strict but adequate.

Julie - posted on 02/01/2012

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I'm not worried at all on "what goes on at Jr. High" party. These kids are good kids. I know most of them. I'm was looking for more of a curfew advice then anything else. Yes, I'm going to meet the parents when I drop off. I have also made a few phone calls to parents who know them and they spoke very highly of them. Not to mention, I trust my daughter. I'm thinking 11:00 :) I'm sure my daughter thanks ya all for the advice since I gave her an extra hour!

Sherri - posted on 02/01/2012

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@Angelita with adult supervision nothing is going on at Jr. high parties then kids hanging out together. Oh and before you say I don't know. I most certainly do I have a high schooler and Jr. High student and have been to many co-ed get togethers for them over the years. Nothing has ever happened that shouldn't.

Sarah - posted on 02/01/2012

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I never hosted a jr high party that was scheduled to go past 10pm. As the host parent, I can tell you that some parents are going to drop their kids and not come back until well after the time the party is supposed to be over. I've had parents come to pick up kids at midnight from a party that was supposed to be over at 10. I have also driven kids home so I could go to bed since there were only one or two left and it seemed like the parents were never going to come. You could always keep some time free and show up at 10:30 and hang out till you figure your kid is ready to go. I would not show up later than 11, especially for a 13 year old... And, in general, be prepared for your child to ask you to give a ride to at least one other unfortunate soul who's parents are not able to come get them... You'll be able to tell if your child is tired and wants to go. Then, you can rescue her if she needs it!

Amie - posted on 01/31/2012

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I agree with the other posters. Meet the parents first.



I'm also the sort to flat out say no though if the parents gave me a weird vibe. So I wouldn't have said yes or no until I had met them.



Go from there. If you are ok letting her stay until 12 and the parents are decent enough then there's nothing wrong with that.



However, it seems you have an issue with letting her stay out that late and thats ok too.

Sherri - posted on 01/31/2012

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I am not saying this should be a standard curfew but for a special occasion I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Julie - posted on 01/31/2012

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I will meet the parents, but midnight just sems a bit late. I mean what will the curfew be at 16, 2:00¿



thanks ladies I appreciate your advice!!

Sherri - posted on 01/30/2012

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Well my child would not be attending if I didn't meet the parents ahead of time. So meet the parents and if all goes well, I would have no problem with midnight. Nothing is going to happen at 10pm that happens at midnight.

Julie - posted on 01/30/2012

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Thanks. I told her earlier 10 it eas even if her other friend can stay the entire time.

She will have many more parties in her future :)

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