Bettie - posted on 03/26/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
My husband pays child support for his only daughter in joint custody. The mother, however, is the residential parent. Can she be legally made to show proof of what the child support goes to? We know there are things she buys for herself that she alone can not pay for since she doesn't work but with a total of three children (only one is my husbands) and receives support for at least one other (we know her father, is a very messed up lifestyle) and the older one possibly gets SS from her dad.
We have looked up several different searches on this subject and the mother promised their daughter she would get a laptop (she just turned 16) this year from her taxes (which had been filed by the youngest's dad years past but he no longer lives with the mother) and she wasn't getting the amount this year she received previous years. She and my husband took turns claiming their daughter and since she took hers out of turn, he was able to file this year, but the mom expected him to buy his daughter a laptop of her choice (and price). From our search, we have seen that any thing needed for education was to come from the child support solely (she is home schooled and although the online school provides the computer, she wants a laptop with the excuse she can't concentrate while her younger sister is too noisy while she is also online schooled.) My husband told her he would buy her a longer cable so she could move to another room, but her mom has forced the issue to the point of his daughter taking sides and outing him for three months now.
She says, her mom says, what he did to keep mom from getting any more tax refunds. She was told he turned in the younger child's dad since he no longer lives in the home and has no legal right to claim another's daughter on his taxes. They can not file jointly now that he has a different address and that has been proved since she took him to court over his child support and now that is in the system. Never has actually heard his daughter speak that she doesn't want him in her life now, along with me, but has always gone through text on facebook and we both know some of the texts aren't how she would word certain things.
Like I said, a very complicated mess. Should my hubby go see a lawyer and stir up this mess even worse, or just let things go until the mother actually forces her own children against her. She has had at least a dozen or more boy friends/lovers by now and a few while still legally married. We have enough against her to make her life very miserable but what would that do to the children still under her lies and other low underhanded ways.