what is friendship all about ??????????????

Buma Sebastain - posted on 11/18/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




Friendship is a type of relationship between two people who care about each other. But such a dry definition doesn't do the concept of friendship justice. Consider these examples: A friend is the first person you want to call when you hear good news. A friend remembers that you don't like pickles on your sandwich. A friend will accompany you on the most boring of errands and make them seem fun.

In other words, friendship is wonderful, and much ink has been spilled in citing the virtues of having friends. That's not to say friendship is easy, though. It demands time and effort, and it requires that people put someone other than themselves first sometimes. But in exchange for that work, a friend can provide an immense amount of support and comfort in good times and in bad.

Many qualities are necessary for a good friendship, including honesty, trustworthiness, loyalty and unconditional acceptance. A friendship should make both people in the relationship happy; both people should have fun when they spend time together. To be perfectly frank, that's a tall order. Human beings can clash very easily, which is why it's hard for some people to maintain many friendships. It's possible that friendship can exist between two people at one stage of life, but life changes and personal growth may make friendship impossible at another stage. It can be hard to meet the people who would make the perfect friend. A 2006 study found that people living in the United States had fewer friends than ever, with 1 in 4 Americans claiming they had no one to confide in [source: Kornblum].

Pop culture often reflects what our society thinks about friends. In recent years, the concept of bromance, or a close friendship between two men, has taken center stage in films such as "I Love You, Man," and television series such as "Scrubs." Male friendships, if these examples are any indication, include everything from playing video games to listening to music to talking about girls. "Sex and the City" is often cited for its influence on female friendships. The long-running television show and subsequent movies depict female friends shopping, drinking and gossiping together. Opposite-sex friendship, or friendship between a male and a female, is a bit trickier for our society; thanks largely to the film "When Harry Met Sally," people tend to think that sex will elevate a friendship to a romance. For that reason, opposite-sex friendship is usually depicted on-screen between a heterosexual woman and a gay man, such as on the show "Will & Grace." Because sex is off the table, people will buy in to the idea that these two people can be there for one another as friends.


Ariana - posted on 11/18/2012




":Friendship is a type of relationship between two people who care about each other. But such a dry definition doesn't do the concept of friendship justice."

Actually I agree with this definition. Why do you call a person up, why do you try to create interests with a person? Because (in a good friendship) both people are interested in what the other persons wants. Does that mean every friendship goes smoothly and they continuously get along? Of course not.

The great thing about friendships that you can't have in a romantic relationship is that you don't have to like or agree with a lot of the things you friend does. Your friend can do super irritating things, you can sometimes go 'wow, my friend can sure be an idiot' and you'll still treat them with respect and like them. You can let go of it a lot easier than someone you're trying to be romantic with because they don't have to be your soul-mate it can just be someone you like hanging out with because they're funny, interesting, like things you do, bring a different perspective, like having you around (we all know that's true).

There are also levels of friendship or a 'peer-a-mid' that people have created.

Level 1. Friendly - Greeting - Friendly to this person (look, smile, greet) but donot really know him/her or talk to him/her. There should be many of these each day in school, work or the community.

Level 2. Acquaintance - May have short verbal exchanges on a regular basis because you share a class or work with him/her. May be a 'friend' on Facebook but don't really hang out with him/her. Someone with whom you use 'small talk'.

Level 3a. Evolving Friendship - May begin to seek out this person to talk with, have lunch with or hangout at school Will text fB or call occasionally.

Level 3b. On Again-Off Again Friend (A lot of friendships are these!) - Connection with this person is based on circumstances (class, club, stage in life, sport, job, family friend. May 'hang out' with them a lot during that common time but connection may taper off as activity or event ends.

Level 4. Bonded Friend - Will spend time with this person outside of more structured times. Bonded friends 'look out' for each other and spend time together often. It's expected that both people will initiate planning time together.

Level 5. Close Friend - This is a VERY close friend with whom you share deeper thoughts and conversations. Not EVERYONE has a close friend ALL of the time and we may only have 1 or 2 in our entire life. Spouses, partners and romantic connections are often these.

So really friendship is an evolving thing. Some people may only have a couple really close friends and other people might have lots of on and off again friendships. The best advice I ever got about friendship was this - to have a friend you need to be a friend.

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