What is it like to be a Single Mom?

Helen - posted on 01/20/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )





I am new to the community and would like your advice.

I am a mom with two young children (age 5 and 5 months old baby). I’ve been trying to get out of a relationship for a year now, but was unable to do it because of financial reason. I tried to work things out with the father of my children and it is just not working out. And it is taking a towed on my body. I feel helpless.

I quitted my full-time job 5 years ago so I could stayed home with my son. Since then, I was unable to get a regular full time job. Now I am working off and on with Temp agencies.

I asked myself all kind of questions. Should I stay in this relationship for the kids and ignore the my happiness. If I left, will it be worst than now? I don’t have a stable job. I have very little savings. I am just too afraid to go on my own.

Please help!



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Kaleigh - posted on 01/21/2012




Never stay with someone you are unhappy with for the childrens sake. I grew up knowing my parents hated each other but my mother stayed until I graduated high school. It's easier to adjust at a younger age and I no longer have a relationship with my father and haven't spoken to him in over a year. You're a mother which means your strong, reliable, and responsible, or at least that's how mothers should be (we all know that's not always the case) you will find strength you never knew you had to do what you need to do for your children. Believe in yourself! Money Always sways our decisions but there is help out there for those who need it. If you're not happy, your

Kids aren't happy either... Good luck!

Chrystal - posted on 01/20/2012




That's really only a choice you can make but if leaving is what you want then since you've got kids you need be smart about it. Unless he's dangerous and you need to get to a safe place right away plan for your leaving before you tell him that it's over give yourself time to set up a place for you and your kids to go and a way to pay for that. Look into assistance options in your area. Look into the daycare options. Talk to a lawyer about what legal right you have to property. Talk to friends about if they can help in some way. If you've got family that you can call for help then do it they can give you a place to stay while you make the adjustment or help with money. And please start doing as my mother taught me and squirrel away some money every month no one notices 10-20 bucks missing in a budget and I know that if this afternoon I needed it I've got a few thousand dollars. It's not a save up for that computer or vacation money my husband will never know that I have it until the day I die and my kids inherit it or goodness forbid I had to use to leave. As mothers it's our job to ALWAYS be ready to take care of our kids no matter what. DO NOT stay with a man because you can't afford to leave figure out how; there is always a way to take care of yourself and your babies.

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