What is it with people?

Amomof2miracles0207 - posted on 07/06/2011 ( 96 moms have responded )

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I was in the store earlier today going towards the check out and a woman tried cutting in front of me and I wouldn't let her so she started making all sorts of rude and ignorant comments and making sighing sounds.

Why do people feel they have the right to try and cut in front of you? What ever happened to common courtesy?

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Elizabeth - posted on 07/06/2011

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When someone is being rude and I have my children with me, I start telling them about the rude behavior they are seeing loud enough for the rude person to hear and teaching them what the right well mannered thing to do instead.

A - posted on 07/07/2011

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I agree that kids these days do need a good spankin on the butt. It would make for more disciplined children. What I find sad is that women my age- 25- won't do that.

BONNIE - posted on 07/07/2011

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I loudly tell my grandkids that the reason adults are rude is because OBVIOUSLY they didn't have moms or grandmas to teach them to be polite. Then I laugh all the way to the car.

BONNIE - posted on 07/07/2011

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Esther my dear, I am a great grandma and I was in Walmart with my then 3 yr old granddaughter who decided she wasn't going to stay in the cart so I popped her on the butt and told her to sit down and behave because I was not going to put up with her behavior. Some woman came over to me and said she was going to call the cops because I was abusing the kid. I told her if she didn't get out of my face and mind her own business I would abuse her. I told her that parens are so afraid of being accused of child abuse that normal discipline had gone to hell and the behavior of many children show that. here are rules for everyone including children. You did the right thing and if I had been in your line I would have cheered for you. I also would have asked the idiot if SHE would like to carry the kid to the car.

A - posted on 07/07/2011

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Since we are on the topic of rude people, I hate when people let their children run around out of control and they do nothing to discipline them. I took my 3-year old to the community pool the one day- it has a lazy river in it and my son was floating along with his floaties and some kid ran through and pushed him under the water twice! The kids mom was sitting right there just watching it. I helped my son out and helped him cough the water up. Normally I don't tell other peoples kids what to do but I was livid, I told the kid to watch what he is doing and be more careful then I yelled at his mom and told her to do a better job and taking care of her kids.

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Kim - posted on 07/16/2011

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i was in the store and the women sent her 10 y.o. looking child to stand in front of me in line. everyone behind me was mad at the girl. The mother just stood over in the corner looking stupid while the other customers made the girl feel so awkward. i was going to cuss the mother, but i just left it alone

Constance - posted on 07/15/2011

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@ Dawn I was a teen mom with my daughter and she had to have eye surgery. That doctor as as rude as she could be. My mom came with me to the first appointment so I wouldn't forget to ask things. I would ask and she would answer to my mom not me. Finally my mom looked at her and said. " This is my daughter's child not mine. Yu need to address her." The doctor was very put off by this. The followig appointment my mom helped me write down questions and she sat in the waiting room. It was so disrespectful that she wouldn't even address me about my own child. People educated or not are rude.

Lisa - posted on 07/15/2011

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Some people were not taught the manners we were taught growing up. If my parents yelled for me from one end of the house and I said "What?" they would just keep yelling for me as if they never heard me until I either said "Sir?" or "Ma'am?" That's just the way I was raised. I can even remember telling my parents that I would never make my child say that when I grew up. What a bunch of bull that turned out to be! LOL!! Ever since my son learned to talk I was teaching him 'yes sir', 'no sir' please, thank you, you're welcome, bless you, excuse me, yes ma'am, and no ma'am. He is 5 years old now and even holds the door open for people he doesn't even know including for me! I LOVE IT! If someone drops something he's the first to run over and pick it up for them even if they are a stranger. If he finds change on the floor and there is a person standing next to it he'll ask if it belongs to them before he puts it in his pocket if they say it's not theirs. Because of all this that I have taught him, I have heard on several occasions that he is the most polite child that they have seen in a long time. This has even come from the parents of some of the children in his pre-k class and random strangers with their children with them. Sorry you had to go through what you did. I would just say to do as my grandmother always said, "Ignore ignorance and press on with pride."

Dawn - posted on 07/14/2011

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Also, I find It Incredibly rude when moms stop In the middle of an Isle when tons of people are trying to shop, GET THE HELL OUT OF THE WAY! Remember, you're not the only one trying to shop. I also hate when parents let their kids run around In restaurants, no one thinks that It's cute. Teach your children boundaries and manners.

Dawn - posted on 07/14/2011

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I'm now 36 yrs old and my son Is almost ten, when I was pregnant with my son people thought i was 16 yrs old, I always got rude comments because I looked so young. One time while shopping ( I believe I was 8 months along) a ladies toddler was having a tantrum and the lady turned to me and said, LOOK WHAT YOU GET TO LOOK FORWARD TO!!! I was shocked that she was speaking to me like that as If she was scolding me for being pregnant. I really wish I would have told her that I'm 26 yrs old and to shut the hell up. When my son started school i received the exact same treatment, one teacher scolded me because my son was bored In her class, I Informed her that I wasn't a teen mom and that she will always speak to me with respect.

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Carol the next time someone looks at you with those God offal stares because you disciplined your child, do like I did one day when my Precious 2yr old whose now 16 & 6' tall.... the woman looked at me when I spatted my hefty at the time who looked 4yrs old instead of two as he's always been a tall child, she looked at me like I just committed the unforgivable, I politely said, this child is going to be twice my size one day, as I am only 4'11" and if I don't correct him now, he or I will be sitting in jail some day. Now, if you don't like the way I'm correcting MY CHILD, then you might want to consider raising him....lol I walked away.... Look on her face was then TOTALLy priceless... I had to laugh under my breath.... as I was kissing on this baby boy who btw.... does what he's told. Spare the Rod but, spoil not the child... it won't kill him.

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Oh here's a Good one... went to the local Dollar General for floured tortilla shells for a quick dinner fix. Okay, here I am backing into a spot that no-one and I mean no-one ever wants to park in because it has a hugh yellow pole that prevents you from hitting the electrical pole when you back out. So, instead of pulling inforward I'm almost into the spot when the clerk of the store whose in her car, starts yelling at me.... Hey I was parking in that spot... she kept yelling at me, you can't park there I am parking in that spot. Seriously, you left your work station to go outside instead of tending to your JOB to specifically part in this spot... really? I went into the store, reported her to the manager on Duty and she says she has to report her to the manager. I frequent that store, so, the next morning I went to the owner making sure my point was made. He looked at me with, wow she did this again? I'm like since when do we yell at PAYING customers from our vehicle? He was so imbarrassed he looked like he wanted to crawl into a whole. But, she seriously wanted me to move from my spot are you kidding me.... LOL now there's some TRUE GRIT NERVES....

Allyson - posted on 07/13/2011

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Heck Angel, at least the mother cared enough to watch her kid abuse yours. My very favorite thing when my kids were younger was going to McDonalds (a treat for us back then) and if there was an issue with a kid being obnoxious, I often had to leave the play area only to find the parents way over in the other part of the restaurant totally oblivious to their kid.

One time I stopped the child slapping my 4 year old special needs son (apparently for not moving out of the way fast enough) by grabbing his arm mid swing. I wasn't hurting him, but boy howdy did he wail because I made him take me to his mother AND tell her what he'd been doing. She had the nerve to get in my face screaming about "who was I to discipline her child." Please lady, someone has to.

Michelle - posted on 07/13/2011

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I so totally agree with you on this account! My mom used to have a saying that she would always use to describe people like this or thought they were better then you. She would say...."Oh, they just think they're Hot S_ _ t on a silver platter, but are actually nothing but a cold terd on a paper plate like the rest of us!!!" Maybe they just feel their time is more important than yours? Tell her next time to put a tune to her sighes and work on a one hit wonder while she waits. LOL! If nothing, it'd give her another thing to think about.

Tonia - posted on 07/11/2011

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Some people have no respect. I strongly believe in karma and assist anyone in need as well as let those who are wrong know that they are. It drives me crazy sometimes but I attempt to confront the person, and end it with one word, "Karma".

Lauren J - posted on 07/10/2011

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It's just some people DON'T have any courtesy. They think they can do whatever. Keep your position. If she was nice about it, she could have gotten in front. Now take your butt to the end of the line. LOL

Gudrun - posted on 07/10/2011

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We went to a festival yesterday. That festival has a Parade. All the spaces up front were taken by older people with no kids. SO we went to the end of the road and stood there. AN elder lady shot up from her seat cursing at us and yelling that we are taken her view. We stood on the side and not in front of her. We told her that don't mean to. She then yelled for us to move and ran after us. We had our 3 children with us. One of them is 8 months old and in a stroller. So we stood there with the kids in front of us and she positioned herself in front our children because the floats were throwing candy. And she tried to grab it from our children. As we moved our children to our other side she decided to stand next to our stroller with the baby in it and started to push the stroller into it's side to scare the baby and move the stroller. That is when I had enough and told her off. My daughter later told me that she was cursing at her under her breath the whole time. Horrible old woman!!!!

Carol - posted on 07/10/2011

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not to mention, about some of the children's behavior stories.. I try to make it a point to reward my childrens behavior, by pointing out how proud I am that they AREN'T acting like the screaming fit throwing kids thru the stores or in restarauts. And oh my gosh, if they ever do get even close to acting out, I bust their butts before it continues. Yeah, I get the looks and comments under the breath... But I would rather someone threaten to call the cops on me, then to have to worry about my kids going to jail because I DIDN'T discipline them!!

Carol - posted on 07/10/2011

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People feel like their "rush" to get out of there is more severe than your own.... And I think people have forgotten the golden rule, big time.

A - posted on 07/10/2011

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My problem I have a lot is when I am standing in line and the person asks if they can help who is next, the person behind me will start to order or check out. They completely overlook me because I am 4"11 and look like I am 15. But I will put people in their place if they disrespect me. It doesn't happen that much anymore now that I have my son. Now I just get looks or have heard comments about the fact that I look like I'm a teen and have a child. I just smile and think when I am their age I will look a hell of a lot better/younger than they do at the age they are now.

Catherine - posted on 07/09/2011

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I was opening a door to a Barnes and Noble and had my daughter in my hands, my backpack to study for an exam.r diaper bag, and etc. I had to shuffle things numerous times to even get to the handle of the door for it to open and when i was finally able to a woman walked right out the door. I said "you are welcome" and she gave me an attitude and told me I had nerve. REALLY???

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I'm with you, what good is it if you blow off steam at someone who is trying to be considerate. Many people don't even think before they speak, that's another reason why our society is the way it is... oops, ms the word? Society? Anyway, you get the general ideal. If many would think, access the situation then speak, who knows what kinda of world we could create around us... Sorry about your Father... hope your doing better, I'll be praying for you and your family situation. God Bless your heart.

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What's common courtesy, here it is, how about your at the courtesy desk at walmart and the GUY who's in his mid 40's didn't get a check be it work or for someone else cashed so he calls the rep a f....n idiot, how stupid she was because he didn't have the proper id to cash a check that wasn't his? Seriously, I'm sure his Momma would have been PROUD, who was the real idiot? What makes me madder than anything is that my 15 1/2 yr old was standing there having to listen to his vulger "example of and adult" mouth... I wanted to ask him, Seriously, would you talk to your Mother this way... but, I'm sure he would, he so looked the disrespectful type. I was embarrassed to say the least, not just for my son, but, for the woman behind the counter who was just upholding Company Policy.

Janessa - posted on 07/09/2011

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Wow I feel really blessed to live where I live, because as a whole I don't experience most of what all of you have experienced. I know there has to be rude people, but I haven't experienced it firsthand, and in fact most people smile at me and my kids and offer help. It might help that most people here have either been in my shoes or are in my shoes so they understand. So there is hope, there are good people out there, but unfortunately it is getting worse, because the rude people are having kids too. So sorry you all have had to experience that.

Liz - posted on 07/09/2011

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My recent experience involved trying to help a woman on the plane get her carry on in the bin by moving my suitcase around while a whole line of people breathed down my neck. I then scooted out of the way into the nearest row of seats. It was her seat and she got all huffy, breathing heavily with me and stated that's my seat. I couldn't get back to mine 'cuz people were waiting to move down the aisle. I thought I was helping but I guess she felt I was not. I had to burst into tears because I was already stressed, traveling with a child to help my father die at home on hospice. I just wanted to download. We need to be aware that the people around us could have all kinds of HUGE stuff going on in their lives. I try not to get too huffy or impatient and try for some common courtesy

Marie Jayne - posted on 07/09/2011

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Dont i know it, Some of the things she comes out with.. I think OOOOPS Did i just say that. LOL

Marie Jayne - posted on 07/09/2011

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They sure do Constance. Whats that saying.? Out of the mouths of Babes??. x

Marie Jayne - posted on 07/09/2011

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People can be sooo ignorant The same happened to me, As it happens my LO turned round and shouted "Mummy you tell me off when i push, That Mester is naughty isnt he?". Shes a Little star. I could see the back of his neck turn pink.

Naomi - posted on 07/09/2011

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I agree that manners often seem a thing of the past these days and its difficult to teach your own children how to behave when they see other children misbehaving. It is very difficult to make your two year old sit quietly up at the table when you're out eating when other kids are running around like crazy! My son is two and can already say please and thankyou, pardon me, bless you and I'm sorry so its not that difficult to teach basic manners but the number of times I've heard children demand this or that and parents just do it or give it is amazing.

Unfortunately I think we remember the rude people more than the polite ones as they get us worked up and seething and that sticks with us yet the people who show common courtesy are easily forgotten. We definitely need to live by example you know the oldy but goody - be the change you want to see in the world.

Cali - posted on 07/08/2011

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People are really rude!! I think it's worse when you have WIC coupons and are using more then one of them.

Katherine - posted on 07/08/2011

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That's amazing Constance. People can be kind. Not everyone is a jerk....

Constance - posted on 07/08/2011

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Hannah That is completely wierd tthe samething happened to me on my 6 yr olds birthday. I went to the grocery store so she could decide what she wanted for dinner. I was talking to the cashier and told her I am basicly bankrupt from the beginning of Mar - easter. I was about to swipe my CC and the lady from behind me did it instead. I was completly in shock. I had a 100 in groceries. All I could muster up was Thank You.

Hannah - posted on 07/08/2011

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People are crazy. The other day I was at the grocery store, I was picking up a bottle of water so that I could go and workout. I got in the speedy checkout behind a lady that only had a few items. Next thing I new the cashier had rung up my water bottle, and the lady in front of me was paying for it! I didn't even know this lady and she went and did something like that. Now I owe someone a random act of kindness, and I hate owing things!

Constance - posted on 07/08/2011

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For the most part she does handle it well. But every now and then she will snap. A couple of days ago was a snap day. I don't cone it but kinda the proud mama bear.

There are a few trouble makers in the neighborhood. One has beat up my 10 yr old son and the kid is 14. That was the first time the cops were involved and we are going to court for medical costs. Anyway. The kids were outside on their bikes and skateboards. She has been working on a 360 on her bike. She was in mid air when this kid put something in her way and she ended up slamming into the ground. She slammed her head pretty good. I love full face helments. She got right back up and was pissed. There was no holding her back this time. She got a hold of tackled him to the ground and gave him a beating he will never forget. She broke his nose and his eyes ae swollen shut. Cops again, I knew after the damage she did she was going to get arrested on assalt charges. Nope I was wrong he got arrested. The cop said it was self defense so he was going to take her too. The DA agreed after he ead the 15 police reports filed against him that I had to file because he was always doing things to my kids.

Like I said I don't condone it but I am glad she stood up for herself and her siblilngs.

Denise - posted on 07/08/2011

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@Constance. People can be really mean. I am sorry that your daughter had that experience.

Constance - posted on 07/08/2011

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They always are. About 2 weeks ago my mom was with me shopping because within an hour I can't walk anymore so she has to finish for me. Well I was sitting on the bench inside the store and my 15 yr old asked me what I needed. I told her and just turned aound to go tell her grandmother. Some old ass man was right there and started flipping out on her and then turned to me to yell at me for her being rude. My daughter hung her head down and went to her grandmother for protection. As painfull as it was I was up on my feet in his face screaming at him. I told shut up you F@#$ing ass@#$% she has Aspeger's she didn't realize you were there. Don't you ever speak to mine or antbody else's child that way again. I don't give a s@#$ how old you are you aren't too old to get your ass beat.

Of course my mom was looking at me and everybody else that was in front of the store but he just started to walk away in a huff. The best part was the store manager happened to be in the front as well. He escorted the man out of the store. I apologized to everybody for my language and reaction. Not one person thought I was wrong even my mom. She just said maybe next time I could curb the language with all the little ears around.

Denise - posted on 07/08/2011

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@Constance Thanks! We are crazy about her. When we were in the line with all the people at customs after the flight, many people from that flight told us how good she had been. They were just 2 old crabs.

Constance - posted on 07/08/2011

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@Denise, Old people are idiots. You have a beautiful little girl. I beat you smiled all the way home.

Constance - posted on 07/08/2011

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@Gudrun, I am born and breed military. The majority of the families I have been around don't act like that. That being said the Commisary is like a war zone on payday. I think the women believe the money or food is going to disappear or something. I find the rudest people in the military ae officer's wives. The have their heads so fa shooved up their own asses. They think they are better than everybody and I love revenge. When they try to pull the my husband is an officer I oull out my ID and they see my last name and shut up and huff away.
I have 8 children and they know bette than to act up in any store or be rude to othersl.

A - posted on 07/08/2011

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I tried posting this earlier but it didn't go through so I shall post again. I took my son into Walmart when he was a little over a month old- had to get some things- and a strange woman felt the need to ask me if I am breastfeeding because that is best and I should make sure I do this and that- I told her that that was none of her business at all. Another time, again in Walmart, it was mid July, 90 degrees out and my son was sweating (2 months old). So I took his hat off. We were not going to the freezer section so I knew he would not be cold. As we were walking in some older couple walking behind me goes that poor baby is probably cold, should have a hat on. I turned to them and said my son is just fine, don't need or want your help.

Denise - posted on 07/08/2011

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When we flew home from China with our newly adopted 13 month old daughter, the people in front of us were so rude! They looked like they were in their 50's and dressed like they were going to a fancy dance instead of a 14 hour flight. Our baby was pretty good but a baby further back cried a good bit. The man kept turning around and glaring at us (our baby was sound asleep!). I guess we were guilty too since we were in coach with a baby too! LOL

Sarah - posted on 07/08/2011

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I personally, would have let her go in front. Maybe not without first, letting her know I was doing doing a kind service for her. I may have said, you look like your in a bit of a hurry, you go ahead.
That way the tension would be gone, and I'd feel better about myself for having thought of the other person!
There are the downright rude people though, who don't really deserve that kind of courtesy. However, I'm the person who always will say, "Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you."

Gudrun - posted on 07/08/2011

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It was the same in WA state. Not only NY. Not all Military families are like that. We are not like that. But try to look around in the PX. You have kids running between the clothes. Pushing things of the shelves. Driving tricycles through the store and leaving them somewhere. And the parents sit there and do nothing. I once worked in the PX and got a doll thrown in my face by a woman because her kid had chewed off the price tag and it was the last one. SO it took us a while to find the price. Once I asked a woman to not sit on a display bench because I just noticed that the screws had come out and she called me some names. We had to restock the shelves and a mother let her children crawl into the shelves and push everything out and got upset as she was told it was not safe for her child. As the child got hurt she threatened to sue the company. There are military families that are wonderful and respectful but I have not met many of them.

Danielle - posted on 07/08/2011

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Gudrun, that must be just New York, because I have NEVER seen a military family act like that where I'm from! Here, military children are typically the most well-behaved. We are military, too.

Joanne - posted on 07/08/2011

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I hate when your at the gocery store and the cashier yells out "Can I help the next person in line" then the last person who just got to the line runs over while the rest of us who been waiting the longest get stuck still waiting. :(

Gudrun - posted on 07/08/2011

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OMG I'm so glad that I'm not the only one feeling like it. I especially do not like military families. We are one too so keep your pants on. For example if we go to a store or an event you always know who is military. The kids run wild and cursing each other out. My kids are not allowed to act like this. But they see other kids running around like crazy. My neighbor has 4 kids and every time we went to Old Navy they had to close the store because her 4 year old was allowed to run througth the isles and she could not find him. Try to go to the commissary...I once had a 4 year old kid yell at me out of the shopping card that his parents pushed to get my f....a...out of the f....way because they are coming through. The parents thought it was funny. I told my children who looked at that kid with horror that this is bad behavior and if I ever catch them acting like this there would be consequences. The parents just looked at me like I was crazy. ANother time there was this lady cutting the line to the register and then had the nerve to get angry because people told her to get in line. What happened to common courtesy? What happen to being nice? The other day we drove into the Walmart parking lot and some women cut us off with her SUV not even slowing down. ALmost ramming her car into the side with my 8 month old baby and she rolled her window down and yelled profanity out of the window with her 5 year old son in the back seat. I try to cross the road at a crosswalk and almost got ran over by some dude. Apparently I was not fast enough so he screamed profanity at me out of his window. Maybe it is just Upstate New York but people are horrible!!!!

Kathie - posted on 07/08/2011

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Common courtesy went out the window along with cell phones and texting. Everyone thinks they're more important than anyone else. Have you ever seen someone talk on their cell when a store clerk was trying to wait on them?? It's a sad commentary on the state of things these days.

Amber - posted on 07/08/2011

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I hate it when I'm stuck in road construction and the arrows clearly indicate that they lane is closing and you need to merge. So, while we're all sitting there in stop and go traffic, the cars behind you start whipping out and speeding to the very end of the closing lane just so they can get ahead 3 cars. Seriously?? I'll tailgate and not let them in.
If it looks like a lost or confused driver, I let them in. Not the assholes that I just watched pull out of line a couple cars behind me.

Amber - posted on 07/08/2011

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I hate it when I'm stuck in road construction and the arrows clearly indicate that they lane is closing and you need to merge. So, while we're all sitting there in stop and go traffic, the cars behind you start whipping out and speeding to the very end of the closing lane just so they can get ahead 3 cars. Seriously?? I'll tailgate and not let them in.
If it looks like a lost or confused driver, I let them in. Not the assholes that I just watched pull out of line a couple cars behind me.

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