what is the age limit of a girl and boy sharing a room
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Corvetta - posted on 10/11/2012
I HAVE A FRIEND RIGHT NOW TRYING TO FIGURE OUT THIS SAME QUESTION. IN MY RESEARCH OF THIS TOPIC I HAVE READ SEVERAL ANSWERS. BUT IN MY OPINION I THINK IF YOUR NOT ON GOVERNMENT HOUSING YOU PICK THE AGE WHERE YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH SEPERATING YOUR CHILDREN. I HAVE THREE MY FIRST TWO WAS A BOY AND GIRL THEY SHARED A ROOM UNTIL I FIGURED THEY HAD TOO MANY THING TOYS AND STARTED COLLECTING THINGS THAT INTERESTED THEM AND ONE COMPLAINED ON THE OTHER I KNEW RIGHT THEN I HAD TO SEPERATE THEM. MY SON MAY HAVE BEEN IN 1ST GRADE AT THE TIME OF SEPERATION FROM HIS SISTER. SO TO MRS HOLBROOK QUESTION YOUR KIDS ARE FINE AT THAT AGE SHARING A ROOM. NOW IF YOUR LIVING IN GOVERNMENT ASSISTED HOUSING AND IF YOU HAVE A BOY AND GIRL 10 AND UP THEY ARE SUPPOSE TO BE IN THEIR OWN ROOM AND THATS THE LAW FOR GOVERNMENT HOUSING NO IF ANDS OR BUTS. A BOY AND GIRL ARE ONLY SUPPOSE TO SLEEP IN THE SAME ROOM ON ASSISTANT UNTIL THEY R 10.
HOPE THIS WAS SOME HELP TO YOU.
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The idea that children should have a room to themselves is only in the western world (ie USA/Europe/Australia) and only in the last couple of generations... elsewhere people tend to all sleep together in one room. Not sure how couples "get it on", but they must find a way!
User - posted on 12/23/2011
My son is 4 and my daughter is 11 months and Im expecting my third child (a boy) in march. My 2 kids are half siblings and they share a room (I know its younger then 5 or 6 but still) They love it! My daughter shared my room with me until 6 months and she always woke up to try to sleep with me (I didnt let her though) and I decided to try her and her brother together and she has slept so much better through the night! And this boy will be sharing my room until about 6 months and from now until then I will be looking for another place, a 3 bedroom, but even then if my kids want to share a room I will keep them together until they need their space. I will eventually put my sons together though but only when the time is right.
Katty - posted on 10/04/2011
me and my brother shared a room when my parent split up we kept sharing a room in the unit my mum rented untill i was 12 it was only 2 bedrooms so my mum then shared with my brother whos three yrs younger then me untill my mum buyed a big house 3bdrs to living areas and a study when we started spending over nights with r dad we had to we wanted to share me so i could protect my brother from r dads bad temper and shared right up to when i turned 18 and stoped having to go to my fathers would have ask for my own room at my dads when i 16 but hm and his patner down sized then and we had to sleep in the living room every second weekend cuze they got a 2bdr house and his patner had a teenage girl and they never wanted me to share with her which i think was unfair on us his patner made it quite clear she didnt want to rasie us cuze she had had her children both girls i did get along with her due to me being a girl which she was use to but never got on with my brother
Gale - posted on 09/11/2011
I have 3 kids 8, 6 and 3 and they all prefer to share a room. We have a futon that they all sleep on. right now its al we have. we are in the process of getting bunk beds for the girls and letting our son have the futon in his room. For now they are fine with it and so are we.
we have one big room for all our kids... boys and girls.... we have hanging bunk beds around the walls. we can fit 6 in the room. and they each have their own space under the beds. heck, we could put 4 more beds in there :-). seriously though we have girl's side and boy's side but they share. and they will always share. maybe someday the oldest will get to turn the little tiny office into a bedroom for their last two years in the house but probably not. they do have a giant playroom and we have a backyard, a nice living room, a sun room and live in San Francisco so what do they need their own room for? :-) all that to say i don't think it matters unless you have foster kids in which case the laws get more specific about age and sharing.
Janessa - posted on 08/05/2011
Is there a legal age. That's what my daughter does right now with her 2 brothers, she is 5, and they are 3 1/2 and 2, but actually we'll be moving her soon into her own room with her baby sister. I would say when they start wanting privacy from their brothers is a good time.
â¥âªMeganâ«â¥ - posted on 08/05/2011
I don't believe there's an actual age limit in the US or Canada. That said I did live in an apartment complex in TX that insisted that I have my cat licensed and that children of different sexes couldn't share a room after a certain age, but again that was Texas.
My brother and I had our own rooms and I'm 3 years older than him. But there were pleanty of times up to when he was in grade 4 that he was coming into my room and sleeping in my bed because he was scared. And we're not biologically related. But there was nothing happening except he was scared for some reason and wanted to stay with me.
I'd say that wait until your daughter feels uncomfortable changing in front of her brother or is asking for her own space. That's when she should have her own room.
Amanda - posted on 08/05/2011
I don't think there are any laws in the US about sharing rooms. I thinkit all depends on your family. I have 3 kids and one on the way the oldest is a 7 year old boy, then a 3 year old girl, and then a 2 year old boy. I wouldn't put the 7 year old with the 3 year old because he is very cruious about girl's bodies. Until recently the 2 and 3 year olds shared a room. Now that we have another boy on the way we moved the 7 year old boy and the 2 year old boy in together and the baby will sleep in our room until he is sleeping through the night and then he will share with his sister at least until we move again( we are a military family).
Sylvia - posted on 08/05/2011
I don't expect there are any laws about this -- think of all the families who don't have enough space for each child to have its own room.
If you do have the space, I would say the age when they need to stop sharing a room is the age when one of them starts complaining specifically about having to share with a boy/girl (as opposed to the usual complaining about having to share ;)).
My brother (4 years younger) and I shared a bedroom for a year when I was 7/8 and he was 3/4, because we were on sabbatical and living in a small apartment. Having had our own bedrooms all our lives, we didn't like it much ;), but we survived.
Sherri - posted on 08/05/2011
I am currently pregnant with my 4th. I currently have 3 boys. My 14 & 12yr old already share a room. If this child is a girl she will share with her 5yr old brother till one of the older ones move out so probably most likely till my son is almost into his teens.
Elizabeth - posted on 08/05/2011
Congress recently passed a bill mandating that all boys and girls must be separated, for the purposes of sleep, between the hours of 8pm and 6:30am, when the eldest child reaches the age of 7. In cases where one or both of the children is/are very naughty, one or both must sleep outdoors or on a dog mattress in the kitchen or risk fines, imprisonment or both.
Heather - posted on 08/05/2011
If there were to be a CPS/DFACS case open, children.of.the.same gender cannot share past the.time the oldest child is 8 years old. It's based in children BEGINNING puberty around this age. I know that sounds odd, but its more comon than you think to start that young. Anyway, I would say (not knowing for certain that there is a legal age otherwise) maybe decide based on similar principles. But if you start seeing signs you may wanna split them up.
Darlene - posted on 08/05/2011
I had friends that shared a room at 13 and 20. Their parents just did not have the money to move or build on the house. Both are fine adults now. The rule was if the door was shut they had to knock before entering. Just in case the other one was changing clothes.
Stacy - posted on 08/05/2011
Brothers and sisters that have grown up together will not be "interested" in each other. There is a strong genetic aversion to incest. But the might start to become grossed out with each other and demanding their own room. lol But it is a legal thing. I think it is more a monetary thing.
Laura - posted on 08/05/2011
My landlord states my 9 year old daughter and 3 year old son should not be sharin, since she was 8, the council in worthing, england state she has to be 10 before they can't share, hence me sayin depends on ur council and where u are in the world, x
Sakile - posted on 08/04/2011
Children of the opposite sex who are now aware of their sexuality must not share a room, especialy with the may they have all been Eroticised by television. In my country there is a sharp increase in cases of incest, when siblings are left home alone overnight although in most cases it is related to the watching of ponography. They claim to fail to control themselves after wards.
Katty - posted on 08/04/2011
there is no law unless they foster children then after sge of 2 if u live in housing turst typr place they say it has to be at age 12 im in australia so not sure what it would be else but for me ive only got one child but if i had more and they were sharing id be doing it by the time she turns 12
So true Deb. They USED to fund based on number of people AND their ages/sexes. Due to budget cuts... they no longer fund based on anything except 2 people per bedroom... regardless of ages or sexes (which would be why I may never be able to get my son out of my bedroom...).
Lynn - posted on 08/04/2011
My son will be 10 in a couple of weeks, and my daughter is 7 1/2. They have their own rooms, but they have been sleeping in one room or the other (together) for the past two years. It started when my husband was in Afghanistan for 10 months, but even after he came home last August, my kids still want to sleep in the same room most of the time. Sometimes, they are both in one bed or the other, or sometimes they're on the floor, but they always want to be together. It's really more that my son doesn't want to be alone, not my daughter. I thought about making them sleep in their own rooms, but I just don't see any harm in it, so I don't fight them on it. I figure that they'll decide eventually that they want their own space. Until then, I'm just glad they get along well enough to want to be together. I've joked about renting out the other room, since they only use one, anyway.
Melissa - posted on 08/04/2011
some housing aid places will have their rules saying boys and girls cannot share rooms together, only same sex children can share rooms together. So if your receiving government aid they will tell you to have at least 1 room per gender of child you have. It is recomended to seperate them when they start wanting their privacy, my son is 5 and he is showing he wants his privacy changing from other children so i would never let him have a room with his sister when she's old enough unless it's like a pj party! He hates nights i absolutely have to bath him with his 1 year old sister, which is very rare but i have to on occasion!
Melissa - posted on 08/04/2011
My little girl is 5 and my little boy is 4 and they share a room. We are in the process of splitting them up mainly because my daughter s going to kindergarten and will have to be up so early. But it will still be a few months til it's done,
Maggie - posted on 08/04/2011
There is no legal age where kids need their own room. You have to decide when they need their own space and/or privacy. I think at 5 and 3 they are still fine sharing a room as long as they get along pretty well and there is enough space. If you have the space and it wouldn't be hard to transition then do it whenever it feels right to you. If you would have to buy a new house or rearrange a lot then leave them together for now.
Genevieve - posted on 08/04/2011
All I can think about is tha show 19 kids and counting on TLC, don't they have like only a few room for all those little ones? I think if there was a legal issue it would have been resolved before going on TV? Mind me I am from Canada and don't know the rules for the US!
Darci - posted on 08/04/2011
I dont think there is a legal age maybe more like when is it not appropriate for them to share a room together? I think 3 and 5 are still young enough to share a bedroom i remember even having baths with my brother at that age and we turned out fine. I dont really know when they should get their own rooms maybe like 7
Faye - posted on 08/04/2011
My daughter was 16 years and 4 months and my son was 12 years and 10 months when we moved into a larger home before they had thier own rooms. They each were taught to respect each other's privacy and if the door was closed to not barg in. Now granted that is a bit old for both to be in the same room BUT when I could not afford anything larger it worked. Ideally I would have seperarated them long before I did by ages 8 and 5, IF I had had the means to do so.
Danielle - posted on 08/04/2011
We don't have much room so we split the basement in half for two rooms. We have a 15 year old son and a 12 year old daugther and then a 2 in a half year old. We put the older two downstairs and they love it! My daugther has to walk through her brothers room but both seem fine. I also adopted them in June as they are my husbands kids from his first marriage and when the social worker came out to see their rooms nothng was said. So don't worry until they start they want their own room
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