What is the age to let them sleep in their own room?

Sabrina - posted on 03/25/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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I have a 13 month old who sleeps in the same room as me and my husband. But he can't sleep in his crib. He has to sleep with me at night while my husband is at work. Any suggestions? All would be greatly appreciated.

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Amanda - posted on 09/17/2013

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I have a 6 year old and a 4 year old and a 5 year old and they all sleep with me and my husband they wont sleep in there room for nothing and it is so nice and clean and very pretty room and they got. Tv and everything they will not sleep in there room and if we try they keep screaming at our door screaming very loud im scared please let us come.in and I.do what do I do? .help please feels like im being mean when there crying and If i don't let them come in but I always do !

Miranda - posted on 03/26/2009

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My husband works nights also so had the same problem. I got sick of the kickign and such so i started with day naps to teach my son to sleep n his own room as well as to self settle. The easiest way i found was to tuck him in and tell him that it is time for a nap. they will get used to their room so long as you perserveer. Don't give up you just ruin it for yourself. After a few weeks of him getting used to the day naps in his room try for night time, i put my son in his room with the door slightly ajar with the hall light on so its not really dark in there. Try a toddler bed if you don't want to move straight to a normal bed also. Best of luck.

Angela - posted on 03/25/2009

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It could just be a comfort thing, maybe on both sides. Try putting something of yours in the crib that smells of you, a teddy or blanket this may comfort him. If you do it every night you will break the cycle I promise. Angie xx

Sabrina - posted on 03/25/2009

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Quoting Cara:



We had our son sleep in our room (but always in his own crib) till he was 6 months old.  We did this for 2 reasons...1) he was close by for night feedings, and mostly 2) we lived in a 1 bedroom!  After 6 months we moved and he got his own room.  He didn't notice a difference, it was my husband and I who were stressed!  I think he actually slept better as there wasn't the constant presence of us in the room.  And we were very happy to have our own space back (we just made sure we have a good monitor!).






Can I ask why he has to sleep with you when your husband is at work?  Try to start putting him into his crib in a different room for naps to get him used to it, then gradually start putting him there after he falls asleep at night.  Then start when he's a little bit more awake each time.  Our 14 month old goes to bed at 7:30, while still awake and falls asleep on his own.  Then he sleeps straight thru till 7:30am!  It's great!





It's kinda wierd.  I put him in his crib at about 7 p.m.  Then about 10p.m. (usually when my husband leaves for work) he wakes up and can't go back to sleep until he's in my bed. And he still doesn't sleep all the way through.  Plus he has about three bottles a night.  And he eats a good supper.  So I don't really know what else to do.

Karla - posted on 03/25/2009

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well both my children have slept in their own bedrooms since they went into cots roughly 5-6 months of age

Deborah - posted on 03/25/2009

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Zoe slept in a pack n' play in our room for 4 months and then she went to a crib in her own room.  We all slept better that way.

Lori - posted on 03/25/2009

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AAP says to room in until 6 months then off to their own room.  They sleep better without you in their space and will have fewer sleeping issues later on.  We did it a 4 months because he outgrew his co-sleeper.

Laura - posted on 03/25/2009

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What ever age you feel is appropriate. We moved our daughter at 6 months. I just wanted to do it before she developed an opinion on the matter and figured it would be easier...(she's 3 almost 4 but I still use the baby monitor. Hubby thinks I'm crazy but old habits die hard)

Shannon - posted on 03/25/2009

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We had our daughter sleep in a bassinet next to our bed until she started sleeping through the night. For us that was 3 months. Then we moved her into her own room which was just across the hall. We had no problems with it at all. Oh course, we used a baby monitor.

Natalie - posted on 03/25/2009

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I let my little boy start sleepin in his own room when he started sleeping all through the night which was 2 months! i would start now as my mum did that with me when i was little an i was 4 before i would sleep alone! Good Luck! x

Amber - posted on 03/25/2009

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Hi,



 



My little girl is 4 now but when we moved into our house after living in a one bedroom flat i put her into her own room, she was 6 months at the time and i used something that sounds awful but really works but you have to have alot of will power. basically i read her story then told her it was time to go to sleep, kissed her and put her in bed and walk off out of the room, then when they cry you go back in pick them up until they have calmed down then tell them 'go to sleep' and put them back in bed and then any times after that don't say anything just pick them up then put them back down again when they are calm!! it took about an hour and a half the first night but only half an hour the second and haven't looked back since, it is hard as she didn't like it but i suppose you have to cruel to be kind sometimes.



 



good luck!

Jacquelyn - posted on 03/25/2009

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I would get your baby to get used to the idea of going to sleep on his own.

Introduce it gradually: When your baby is drowsy, but not yet asleep, lay him down. By putting him down when he's awake.-- but still feeling loved and cozy -- he may associate falling asleep himself with such feelings.



http://www.babycenter.ca/baby/sleep/slee...



try reading that site! Good luck!

User - posted on 03/25/2009

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Hi Sabrina,



This is a hard one....I am sure everyone has there own idea here. Does he fuss/ throw a fit when in his crib?



I had my daughter in a basinet her first few months. then into the crib for this reason. I didn't want her be 2,3,4 sleeping in our bed. I have several friends that have kids that are still sleeping in there beds and theya re clearly to old to be doing so.



My opinion is to start now. Start weaning him slowly maybe have a bed time routine where you do a bath ( if time allow) read a book then in the crib. Maybe two times a week, then go to everyother day. He will become comfortable with sleeping in his crib.



I hope this helps!

Jennifer Quimby

Cara - posted on 03/25/2009

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We had our son sleep in our room (but always in his own crib) till he was 6 months old.  We did this for 2 reasons...1) he was close by for night feedings, and mostly 2) we lived in a 1 bedroom!  After 6 months we moved and he got his own room.  He didn't notice a difference, it was my husband and I who were stressed!  I think he actually slept better as there wasn't the constant presence of us in the room.  And we were very happy to have our own space back (we just made sure we have a good monitor!).



Can I ask why he has to sleep with you when your husband is at work?  Try to start putting him into his crib in a different room for naps to get him used to it, then gradually start putting him there after he falls asleep at night.  Then start when he's a little bit more awake each time.  Our 14 month old goes to bed at 7:30, while still awake and falls asleep on his own.  Then he sleeps straight thru till 7:30am!  It's great!

Emily - posted on 03/25/2009

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I don't think there is a perfect age to let them sleep in their own rooms, it really depends on what works for mom, dad, and baby. My oldest moved into her own room before she was two pretty much on her own and never had any intention of coming back to the family bed. My youngest is two and a half, she is nowhere near ready.  Are you getting to the point where it is bothering you? If so you can probably begin the transition. You say he can't sleep in a crib? When he is in bed with you does he sleep through the night? If so, I think the solution may be to put a regular bed in his room and put him to bed in it the way you'd normally put him to bed in yours. Then just sneak out after he falls asleep. Slowly stop putting him down and let him put himself to sleep.

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