What is the best way to deal with accidents in school?

Hailiecooper5 - posted on 08/29/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 5 year old daughter has been in kindergarten for one week and has had 4 accidents. She comes home from school with damp pants, I don’t know if she wets herself during class or on the bus; my daughter says it happens in the class room. This is an even bigger issue if it is happening in the classroom because it goes unnoticed; there are 17 students in my daughters’ class, one teacher and one assistant. Before starting school my daughter had expressed the only thing she was nervous for about school was that she didn’t want to tell the teacher when she had to use the restroom (she is embarrassed about such things, I am not sure why), I explained this to her teacher on her first day and was assured that it wouldn’t be an issue and she would remind my daughter about using the restroom and watch for signs that she needed to go. I’ve sent a spare outfit everyday just in case. It was brought to the teacher’s attention so it is very frustrating for me that my daughter has had to sit in wetted pants for who knows how long. Surely someone would notice if a child is sitting in a puddle, right? I have talked to my daughter with a non-confrontational attitude everyday and explained that everyone uses the restroom, her teacher is there to help, and that it is nothing to be embarrassed about, but it isn’t acceptable to have an accident every day. I know this is only happening because she doesn’t want to say she needs to go, she was potty trained at an early age and has had very few accidents ever since. I don’t want the other children to notice this keeps happening and to make fun of her for it. I know my daughter feels ashamed when she has an accident. I feel like somehow this will reflect that I am a bad parent. It just needs to stop. Any advice would be helpful; I don’t know what else to do.

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Dove - posted on 08/29/2012

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That happened to both of my girls a number of times in K. They would always start by telling me that the teacher wouldn't let them go to the bathroom, but it turned out they weren't even ASKING her. It's normal for kids to have accidents in school at this age. That's why they are required (at least in schools I know of) to have a spare change of clothes at school up through first grade. Just keep reassuring your daughter that it is ok to ask the teacher to use the bathroom. Perhaps going back to talk to the teacher in her presence and getting you both to tell her that it IS ok to ask to use the bathroom would help. Most of all just be patient and keep the lines of communication open with your child and her teacher.

Cherish - posted on 08/29/2012

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I would be mad if my child had 4 accidents and the teacher did not notice ANY of them!

You talked to the teacher already,so she obviously forgot.

I would email or call either the principal or assistant principal and tell them your concerns.

There is only 17 kids,2 adults...most pre-k programs I have seen take a toilet break every 2 hours or so and make ALL the kids use the bathroom

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