Kayla - posted on 02/09/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
I am curious as to what the standard modern day role of grandparents should be in their grandchild's life, assuming that the grandchild is not being raised by their grandparents and has both mother and father present?
The reason I am asking is because I am bumping heads with grandma as to who should fulfil which role. For example, who should take baby to see santa, and who should buy her Easter dress?
I was raised by a single dad, so my grandma was my mom and grandma to me. We had a lot of traditions that I want to have with my daughter, but my grandma seems to want to have those traditions with my daughter too which is one of the reasons we are bumping heads.
Also, I know that grandparents are known for spoiling grandchildren with cookies and treats, but my daughter has anaphylactic allergies to peanuts and tree nuts, so these types of foods are risky, but she still gets them. She tries to read the label but that doesn't always mean it's safe, and so I asked her not to and bring fruit or veggies instead. Now she's upset with me and feels like she can't do anything grandparents do, so I'm not sure if I was completely in the right? I feel a little guilty. I have the utmost respect for my grandma and don't want to hurt her feelings, but mine are constantly being hurt and I don't know if I'm just being too sensitive or if I am in the right. Basically I am trying to find out what the typical traditions should be for grandma and what they should be for me because I didn't really have the normal experience growing up to learn these things.