What is the most effective way to ground my teenage daughter?

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Trisha - posted on 03/02/2015

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You have to be careful with things like that.
I make it VERY clear to my stepson of what he is expected to do when he is gone. If I leave the house to him, and want the house cleaned I will straight out tell him "I want this house clean when I come home. No dishes, nothing."

As she saw it, since you expected her to be gone for the weekend, you weren't expecting her to do those things. It wasn't a matter of her not doing what she was told, she just wasn't being overly responsible and considerate.

I probably wouldn't ground my stepson for this. I would probably make him clean the house exclusively for a period of time, ramp up his normal chore set to get my point across, and have a conversation about being considerate of the people in the house.

I try to avoid grounding unless I have been very clear about my expectations. Or, if it happens a second time after I have already communicated it. And usually I ended the first conversation with "If this happens again, you will be grounded for x days."

Ali - posted on 03/01/2015

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She's lazy honestly, which is kinda why I have to do something. I went out of town for two days, she was supposed to go to her friends but instead they stayed at the house. I figured they would and trust her enough normally to do so, but she wasn't clear on the fact that she was home. So On my way back, I let her know I was coming and knew she was home b/c I asked. In my crazy mind I though for sure the house would be picked up, but nooooooooo!!! The dishes that I had loaded Thursday and the Mac n Chz that she had cooked was still present. Along with the mess that she had made over the weekend. Grrrrrrr

Trisha - posted on 03/01/2015

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What does your daughter like to do? Grounding for my stepson usually involves all of his electronics getting taken away, and his access to go out and hang with his friends.

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