WHAT IS THE TRICK TO GET RID OF A PACIFER

Heidi - posted on 05/10/2009 ( 173 moms have responded )

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I HAVE AN ALMOST 3 YEAR OLD I NEED TO GET RID OF THE BINK AND POTTY TRAINING IS GOING VERY SLOW

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Elizabeth - posted on 05/15/2009

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The Paci Fairy worked for my daughter. She was two and we gathered all her pacies and put them on the table and told her that the Paci Fairy will come and take her pacies and leave her a present. After that she asked for it just two times and I just reminded her that the fairy got them and gave her a gift and that she was a big girl and didn't need those pacies any more!



For the potty training it is something that they will just do. I know it can be aggravating because you know they know how to do it....but they will when they are ready. Just keep encouraging going on the potty, ask every time you go. Get some panties/underwear to wear around the house, help feel big! But it will happen; hang in there!

Julie - posted on 05/10/2009

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The potty training will come, as for the binky... pop a ho;e in it and tell him it is broken...

Denise - posted on 05/15/2009

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Quoting Heidi:

WHAT IS THE TRICK TO GET RID OF A PACIFER

I HAVE AN ALMOST 3 YEAR OLD I NEED TO GET RID OF THE BINK AND POTTY TRAINING IS GOING VERY SLOW



Both of my boys had a pacifier. My youngest until he was about 3.5 years old. I cut a piece of the end each week and they just slowly got used to sucking less and less, after about the third or fourth week, he threw it away and said it was broken.  As for the potty training, try not to stress about it too much, it will come when they are ready.  I pushed my first and ended up creating problems by pushing him too much, as for number two, I decided to wait until he was ready and within a week he was out of nappies during the day and at night full time.  He was the same age 3.5 years.  Ignore what others say about how they should be potty trained by now, that is their problem and your child will come to it when the time is right for them. Good luck.

Hermoine - posted on 05/15/2009

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Don't plat games just loose it or get rid of it, there will be tears, but they soon forget! Because if you don't soon the teeth start growing wrong, a friend of mine had this trouble. good luck Hermoine.

Rose - posted on 05/15/2009

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Oh and for the Potty training. I got a sheet of construction paper and made 20 boxes. I told her that every time she used the toilet we would put 1 star in a box and when she filled it we would go to Toys R Us...it worked within 2 weeks.

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Jennifernider - posted on 02/11/2014

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Get rid of it all of them it will be a ruff few days but they will get over it some might think it's not the way to go but I did it with my girls and it was a few days of crying and it was over

Michelle - posted on 06/24/2011

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My3 year old daughter couldn't find her dummy last night before bath,she only has it for bedtime and hasn't had it downstairs since she was about 11 months, so i looked for it,we only have 1 thats kept in her bedside table, but she kept leaving it in different places I said to her that she needs to remember where she has left it, after looking for a while I found it, but kept it hidden and said I couldn't find it, we continued to look for it, then we explained that she had lost it and we didn't have any more so she would have to be a big girl and go to bed without it, she was fine and went to bed without a fuss, we will see how tonight goes!!!

Emma - posted on 05/17/2009

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To get rid of my little girls dummy we put them on the xmas tree for father christmas to take. potty training comes in its own time.

Amie - posted on 05/17/2009

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My son is 3. I started potty training like 7 or 8 months ago and he has accidents all the time. Don't worry, he get it eventually. In the mean time positive reinforcement is always best. Have you ever done the "pee pee dance"? My son gets a kick out of it and encourages my niece whenever she has to go! Its sooo cute.

Airon - posted on 05/16/2009

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I use lemon juice on the binky but didn't work too well, so my son dropped his on the floor one day and I said "Oh binky is all gross now" threw it away and said "No more binky buddy sorry" and he was happy with that...I know not all kids are going to be but it worked for me...As for potty training if your potty training a boy I found it easier to make it a game, but cheerios in the potty and try to get him to hit them but only hit the cheerios in the water...Girls tend to be harder I didn't really have to "train" my daughter she just took after big brother...I did ask her about every half an hour tho if she had to go potty if she told me no i waited another half hour waited for the answer no matter what it was she had to sit on the potty and try.

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Send the paci to Grandma's house. Make her be the bad guy. Have her send a "big" girl present in return for the paci's.



As for the potty training, do NOT use pull ups, they are just another diaper. Put her in underwear with a plastic pant over it. Good luck.

Kristin - posted on 05/16/2009

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When my daughter was 18 months during her nap, I gathered all the pacifiers around the house and cut off the sucker part and placed them all on the coffee table. When she woke up she tried to put one in her mouth and it wouldn't stay, I told her they were broken and she needed to throw them away.... she threw them all away and I never had a problem, no crying no asking and never needed another one....

Shoshonna - posted on 05/16/2009

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my son had a binky since he was 2 days old. when he was 3 months he just stoped sucking on them and just play with them until it was bedtime then he would pop it into his mouth. after about a month of just at night binkys he just quit the binky. Im really glad he was and easy quiter.



potty wise, he is not potty trained yet. he is only 18 months old and he will watch me and when i go to the bathroom he will squat down as if he is on the potty not me. so i think he is ready but i dont have a potty for him. It is still on order so we are waiting on it and i am watching him for more signs that he is ready.

Debbie - posted on 05/16/2009

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Hate to say this but easiest way to get rid of a pacifier (or dummy as we call it in Australia) is to not give one to start with. I made the mistake of giving my 5 older children dummies as babies and had a lot of trouble getting rid of them but with my last one (now almost 4), he never had one so there was never the issue of getting rid of it.

Beverley - posted on 05/16/2009

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hi both my kids sent there dummys to santa and neither of them was that bothered we said santa had taken them for another baby and they got lots of pressies from santa to say thank u .as for the potty it was my little boy i struggled with he is 3 next week and he has just started on potty he got a frog potty from argos he loves it it has special splash guard for boys expensive but worth it he wouldnt entertain the basic potty and found it difficult it squashed him then we put his underpants on and made a really big fuss clappin when he goes on and does something we have never looked back now i have even started goin on short journies without potty or nappie i never thought he would do do well as he was addermant he didnt want to come out of nappies but soo proud of him good luck to you

April - posted on 05/16/2009

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My oldest was 3 and the nukky fairy came on his birthday, We put them in this plastic container and left them out. When he woke up all the nuks were slit down the middle and there was about 10 pks of gum to replace them the first night he was mad and didn't like the nukky fairy at 7 he loves this story! My youngest has aspergers and one of his OCD fixations is his nuk so we are struggling the nukky fairy idea sent him into a panic so with him we will set a date and for a good month before tell him he is getiing to big and on this date we are giving them away and he gets a special toy or something! The biggest thing I have seen (past teacher) was when you take something give something back to be excited about!

Amy - posted on 05/16/2009

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My first child "mysteriously" lost it on vacation. It took a couple of days but he quickly got over it. For our 2nd child, we left it for santa to recycle for other children. Wasn't sure if he was going to fall for it but it worked because santa brought all kinds of stuff the next day. I made sure that there was a special prize left in the same place where we left the binky.

Jane - posted on 05/16/2009

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Put the bink on a string and tie it to a door knob. If he/she wants to use the bink, she has to use it where you tie it.

Zimmersgirl - posted on 05/15/2009

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We were blessed that we didn't have the pacifier issue. My oldest never liked them and my mid-kid just stopped on his own once his teeth came in. My youngest never took them, but was a finger sucker...another story.



But some friends of our had the same trouble, and my SIL did.



In SILs' case, she asked the pediatrician to talk to her daughter and the doc simply looked at my niece and said, "You're too big for them now, got it little lady?" and my niece didn't take one again.



In the friends' case, they used the binky fairy, but instead of giving them a gift, the binky fairy would cut the nipples off the end of any binkies they found left out (essentially weaning them) then when they got to the last one, they did leave a little gift for her, a shiny new toothbrush (lit up and had glitter) to take care of her teeth for the tooth fairy when she finally came around.

Leanne - posted on 05/15/2009

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We told my son that the angel babies in heaven needed the pacifier and that he was a big boy now. God needed the pacifier to give to the angel babies. The ones that make it rain, snow, thunder... He was upset at the angel babies for a few nights, but then it was fine. Good Luck. Potty training. It will happen, dont stress.

Mariann - posted on 05/15/2009

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when we had to break my daughter of the bink, we would let her have only 1 and when it broke SHE threw it away, then on to the next until we were down to the last one. I kept telling her that if she broke it she would have to throw it away. when she finally bit a hole in it she threw it away and asked maybe 2 times for it and after that never wanted it again. Hope whatever you plan works. there is nothing worse that seeing a 5 year old walking around with a bink.

Lily - posted on 05/15/2009

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We took my son's paci when he was around 4 months old. He didn't care much for them anyway and we were told that since he isn't that interested with them that at that age their memories aren't that long yet and he won't even notice it being gone. Worked wonders!



As for the potty training, doing it right now! We just started yesterday and we make a big game out of it. He loves to take his animals in there too and show them how to use the potty (just be sure to not let him hold them too close to it and drop one in). He has already tinkled once so we are getting somewhere.

Jessica - posted on 05/15/2009

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My daughter was about that age when she had to lose her binky. We got a puppy about that time and the puppy chewed the binky. So I got rid of all the others I could find and showed her the chewed one and told her it was broken. I held onto it until she stopped asking for one and then threw that one away too. Bet you could make one "broken" with a pair of scissors pretty easily too!!! That same logic works with bottle breaking too actually.

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My husband and I went to a camp. We saw that as an opportunity to lose the pacifier. I think 'we left it home'. She never asked for it when we got home, either. Guess she realized she didn't need it anymore, or forgot about it.

Rose - posted on 05/15/2009

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I cut the the top off the Pacifer, the one's that had that little bump on them. Then there was no sucking power so they got bored and stopped using it for a few days then I told them they were yukky and got them to throw them away themselves.

Jaye - posted on 05/15/2009

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I had a hard time getting the pacifier away from my son. I let it get yuky and told him it was nasty so go throw it away. He did!! to my surprise. Maybe thiswill help you but tell him its nasty now.

LORI - posted on 05/15/2009

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i told my daughter that the hospital called ad they were all out of binkys for the new babies. we packed the binkys in a baggy an went to the nurses station on the maturnity floor. the nurses were great and took us to see the babies that needed them (wink wink). my daughter was so proud of herself fr helping the new babies and never asked for one again!!!

Cherry - posted on 05/15/2009

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You have prob alreafy had plenty of advise, but im new and just thought i would say i had trouble esp as i have a baby that still has a pacifier. Intried the fairy but she found some, so in the end i just told her she is a big girl as she is starting pre-school and we just threw her pacifiers away with her helping. She occ took her sisters pacifier but she soon grew out of it.As for potty training unfortunatly it takes as long as it takes, ive potty trained three and they were all different.

Traci - posted on 05/15/2009

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I told my son that we left it at grandma's house...she lives 4 hours away. It worked. There was some crying, but I kept reminding him that it was at grandma's and that we would get it when we went back to visit. He forgot by then and we were all good. :)

Annette - posted on 05/15/2009

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You can tell that child that the pinky had to go bye bye to new babies who need them. Or rid all of them and offer sucker/lollypop instead, or something like cut a hole in them.



For Potty Training - all child are different, every child are not the same. It will take times, just ofter say I will give you 2 M&M if you go pee or 4 M&M for poop in the toliet, maybe it will make that child that she/he still going and able not to use diapers anymore. Use it at nite, my child pee alot and she is only 3 now, she pee in bed like maybe 2 to 3 times a week overnite, but she is trying. Always tell that child over and over with same words "You are all grown up, it time to use the toliet everyday, no more pull up/diaper. If you got to go pee or poop, go to the bathroom. If we are in public, ask me or whoever that you gotta go." For overnite sleep "Now you are not wearing pull up/diaper, you need to get up and go to the bathroom, we do not pee in our bed or pants anymore." Also try to stop give them drinks like an hour half to two hours before bedtime. I stop give my daughter drinks by 730pm and she goes to bed by 9pm. It works, and make sure that child go bathroom before bedtime, and you have to drag yourself up and make the child go bathroom when gets up or they will pee in it.

LIDEL - posted on 05/15/2009

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Get rid of the pacifiers. Either make up a story or just throw them away. The child is way too old and you will have future dental problems. Also, there is no way you are going to make the child feel like a big kid till you get rid of the binkies so that he/she will us the potty.

Anne-Marie - posted on 05/15/2009

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used to leave out either for easter bunny or baby reindeer and it worked everytime

Jocelyn - posted on 05/15/2009

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To get rid of pacifier....what i did was rub garlic on it not too much though.

Lisa - posted on 05/14/2009

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my oldest gave his to the easter bunny in exchange for some goodies..We just went through getting rid of the paci for our 2nd son. He kept chewing on them. I told him when we get to the last paci that i would not buy any more and we would have to throw it away. when that day came he watched me throw it away and i explained it to him again and he has been fine ever since. he was being potty trained at the same time he is 3 as well. it will come, and it will have its ups and downs but stick with it, it will come.

Kathy - posted on 05/14/2009

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my son loved his binkie! for weaning off...first we started only using it for sleep. we got down to only one binkie left (put the others in recycling to be turned into somthing new). Then we went to toys r us and he picked out a CD. at sleep time, i asked if he wanted to take the binkie or the CD. he picked the binkie, then said, "no, cd." we only used the cd for sleep time to keep it special. the first time he chose the cd, he was then upset when he laid down and realized he would not get a binkie too. the first night was really hard!! after that, it was no big deal for him and i just stopped leaving the binkie out as an option. Potty training...be patient! It takes time. Encourage the good behavior (sticker chart with a reward at the end, verbal praise, etc), gently remind him of where to put the potty when he goes in his pants. dedicate a couple of days when your home to only focuing on that and put him on the potty every 30 minutes or so. for boys, i found a paper cup works better for pee when in public restrooms...just make sur it's only a pee first ;-) it's too hard to hold boys on the seat with their ___ pointed down when their pants are on!

Sarah - posted on 05/14/2009

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Honestly just through the bink away and tell them that the bink fairy took it for someone else who needed it more. And explain that they are a big kid now. They will cry and throw a fit for a couple of days, but honestly they will get over it fast.

Junie - posted on 05/14/2009

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Wow! There are a lot of good ideas for paci disposal! I just threw them out with the second child and ignored the meltdowns. Now she tries to take her sisters pacies to the garbage. Potty training...if you let them decide it is time and not force them, it will only be a matter of days! My son was out of diapers within 5 days of starting and my oldest daughter was out of diapers within a week! If you try and they are not ready, you only will be frustrated and they will pick up on your frustration. Just wait for their signal and go from there...but if they are 3 1/2 or older and not potty trained, I suggest consulting their pediatrician. Good Luck!!

Marina - posted on 05/14/2009

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Hi Heidi.. I luck out with the pacifer.. no trick with my daughter when she turn 1 she was already off of it one day when she left the pacifer just lying around and pay no attention to it I took it and got rid of it and she's been off of it since and she be 2 in aug. not I feel ur pain in the potty training I've been trying and trying and still she rather not go until she had the pull-up on so annoying.. I will keep the pull-off all day she won't do anything until I put it on her to step out or ready for bed.. she a smart little girl. haha

Sandy - posted on 05/14/2009

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My daughter was very, very attached to the dreaded binky, would not go anywhere without it. In order for the Easter Bunny to come for a visit, she had to put in in a basket for the bunny! When she asked for it about a week later, I told her the bunny took it and we couldn't get it back. Never asked for it again! Santa also works too!

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Good luck Heidi! We had a binky bye-bye day. We collected all of the binkies in the house, cut them in two, removing the rubber from the plastic base. Then I handed both pieces to my daughter to throw in the trash. We tied up the trash bag & carried it out to the trash can. When the garbage truck picked it up later that day, I called her to come to the window and wave goodbye to the binkies. Success!

Megan - posted on 05/14/2009

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What I did for my daughter since she was totally in love with her binky. I was taking my son in for his hair cut and decided to get her bangs trimmed. WHen she was in the chair the lady took her binky out and placed it out of sight. She got her bangs trimmed and walked out a big girl. She asked a few hours later but I told her she was a big girl. We did have a few melt downs but stick to it! Good Luck

Becky - posted on 05/14/2009

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I was lucky, I took it away from my son at 10 months and he through a little tantrum but was fine since then.

Laura - posted on 05/14/2009

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It truly depends on the kid. I tried taking away his paci by cutting it and when he found it, he threw it away. Two weeks later, he was not falling asleep well and would wake up at odd hours. Grandma gave him a paci and things were "back to normal".



What worked was the dental visit. The dentist pretty much told him he couldn't use it because it was gradually changing his mouth. My son cried but again threw away the paci. (he was four) Now he sucks his thumb to fall asleep. It's just hard being a parent!



As for potty-training. Leave it alone. My son did it at 3.5. My sister's two boys the same; my neighbor who has three boys, the same. What I did do, was have him run around the house with nothing but his t-shirt. When he had to go, he would run to the toilet.

Mary - posted on 05/14/2009

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I took my little girl to the zoo and we gave it to the pigs! She loved that idea, especially beause there was a baby pig there. My little boy wanted to go fishing, so my husband took him to the dock and told him give the fish your bap bap (that's what he called it) and he did. He never asked for it again, but everytime the go fishing he does say, do you think the fish has my bap bap, but that's been 1 1/2 yrs ago, he just remembers that.

Machelle BestMommy - posted on 05/14/2009

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My nephew was about two when I kept him for a weekend while his mom went out of town and his binky was so wore out that my boyfriend and I just told him to throw it away and he did and never looked or asked for it again.

Shawna - posted on 05/14/2009

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What worked for me was to wean down to only at nap/bedtime and then the old out of sight out of mind trick usually works

Lindsay - posted on 05/14/2009

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we got our 3 year old to put them in a basket for the easter bunny who then turned them into chocolate eggs seemed to work for us in fact we initially started by taking it off him throughout the day and only giving it when he was tired so he was used to the idea. dont worry about the potty bit that will come when there ready the more anxious you become the more they will feed off it good luck

Melissa - posted on 05/14/2009

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I just took my 2 year old sons and made it disappear. Just told him it was all gone time to be a big boy. That was about 2 weeks ago now and he is paci free!!!!

Iona - posted on 05/14/2009

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with my youngest I told her on her third birthday we would give up the paciy, and I took her shopping and let her pick a doll she had been eying for months. I told her the price was the paciy, and after a discreet chat with the store clerk we "paid" for the doll with the paciy. It worked. She had her doll and only asked once were nuknuk was. I ask her where? and then she knew it was gone.



With my son, he bit the nipple part off, so I showed him it was broken so we can't have it. and that was it.



My other son threw his away cause it was old of his own accord. But the key with him was to get rid of all the back ups in the house and just have one to get old.



Good luck. God bless your parenting

Nicola - posted on 05/14/2009

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We used the fairies too. We talked it up for a couple of months and as the time approached we popped a few of them, then the week after her 3rd birthday on a Friday night (so hubby was home for the weekend to help with any distress) she washed them and wrapped them and put them out for the fairies to collect for the fairy babies. She hasn't asked for them once and it has been 2 weeks! She needs a tad more comfort getting off to sleep at night but once she is asleep she is fine - and we hope to get her settling herself to sleep again within the next week or so. Good luck with toiletting! I have no idea - both of my kids took ages and we are still going thru toilet problems 18 months later with my boy - I guess when they decide to stay clean and dry they will!

Nicola - posted on 05/14/2009

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We used the fairies too. We talked it up for a couple of months and as the time approached we popped a few of them, then the week after her 3rd birthday on a Friday night (so hubby was home for the weekend to help with any distress) she washed them and wrapped them and put them out for the fairies to collect for the fairy babies. She hasn't asked for them once and it has been 2 weeks! She needs a tad more comfort getting off to sleep at night but once she is asleep she is fine - and we hope to get her settling herself to sleep again within the next week or so. Good luck with toiletting! I have no idea - both of my kids took ages and we are still going thru toilet problems 18 months later with my boy - I guess when they decide to stay clean and dry they will!

User - posted on 05/14/2009

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some one told me when you clean the dummy dip it into vinegar and tell your baby as you get older it will start to taste funny...it worked for them. good luck

Kristie - posted on 05/13/2009

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When I was pregnant with my yougest daughter my oldest daughter was not quite 3 and she still had her dummy and we told her that the new baby would need it so she gave it up. And with her bottle she was 2 when she gave that up we told her that if she gave it to the "birthday bear", he would leave a surprise for her and for my youngest we used the easter bunny to get rid of her bottle.

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