What it's like to be a single mom

Freda - posted on 12/14/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am a writer (63 years old and a grandmother) and am writing about single parenting (which I did since my daughter was 3.) I need to understand the viewpoints and feelings of younger single moms today. I sincerely admire what you are doing! I know it is hard!

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Freda - posted on 12/17/2015

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12 and 5 are both tender "threshold" ages for children and for their parents. That must have made it especially hard.

I see by the statistics under your name, Evelyn, that you have experience in Circle of Moms. If you have time, I would really value your suggestions on the tone of my posts at my blog www.unjealousheart.com.

Freda - posted on 12/16/2015

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I admire you for the courage that decision took! How old are your children now?

Carol D L - posted on 12/15/2015

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Being a single mom is life's greatest joy. Would not trade it for the world. I love the numerous kisses and hugs and the frequent I Love you. Priceless.

Ev - posted on 12/15/2015

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Freda--I am one of those moms who had to endure the non-custodial path via joint custody. It was not an easy thing to do. It was done based on choices I had to make for the sanity and stablity that the kids could have. There dad wanted out of the marriage but he did not want to pay child support and that is the main reason why I did not fight him for custody besides the point he had money and resources I did not. The kids came first as far as I as concerned.

I know a lot of moms usually do not get custody due to criminal activities, drug and alcohol abuse and other issues and that makes a non-custodial mom look bad. But not all of us have done this to deserve to be treated badly. Some of us made the choice to let the kids go with dad because of financial burdens, illnesses, or as in my case because it was going to be a bit easier on the kids in some respects.

Freda - posted on 12/15/2015

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Wow and thanks so much again, Evelyn!!! Your comment really made me open my eyes and mind - I had the good fortune to have full custody, but I know that was decades ago and court decisions have changed a lot.

You've put me on the right track to think about how to encourage these moms, who have a special heartache and burden to bear.

Freda - posted on 12/14/2015

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Thank you soooo much for that story, Evelyn! Yes, single parents MUST be strong to do what they have to do.

If you know of a single mom who needs encouragement, I am blogging a book about it at www.unjealousheart.com. It shows that although you and your child may be poor, you do not have to FEEL poor.

You and your loved ones have a blessed Christmas and thanks again!
Freda

Ev - posted on 12/14/2015

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I have a friend that has been a single mom since her oldest was about 7 years of age. She had two other children trying to make things work out with the father though it ended in a divorce. She was tired, stressed, and worried much of the time because she did not at times know where the next meal might come from, where she would be living with three young children, two who were babies basically. She had child support and she worked some until one of her kids had a medical issue that caused her to have to quit because he had to go to the hospital where they specialized in his condition from the age of three on. She would never be able to hold a job because of all the surgeries and medical needs he had. So for the next 10 plus years her family had to live on assistence in rent, food, and utilities among other things to make it. She did not falter during this time but made due with what she had. She found she was as stronger person than she had been otherwise.

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