What's one thing nobody told you about pregnancy/child birth?

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Victoria - posted on 02/24/2011

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No one told me that around the time baby was 4 months old, I would start to feel human again. It was awesome to wake up one morning and feel the most like myself I'd felt in a long time.

Amy - posted on 02/23/2010

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No one told me how lonely it can be to be a first time mom even if you are married.

Beth - posted on 02/02/2010

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I'm with Samantha S. NO ONE told me that the nurse would come over AFTER THE afterbirth and push on my stomach to make sure that nothing was left. OUCH! AND i read all the possibilities of what could happen, good and bad.

NO ONE TOLD ME that i could pass out just from going pee the first time after labor. i had to stay in the hospital for two days because every time i pee-ed, i passed out, so they took blood, which makes me pass out! I think it was from the hormones being released when you pee; something like that.

Michelle - posted on 02/02/2010

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you shouldnt eat more than your normal portion of food at each meal . what you would normally eat amount wise is enough for you and your baby all eating extra does is give you more weight to lose after you have your baby.

Leanne - posted on 01/30/2010

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Nobody told me it actually isn't all that bad. I heard a ton of "it will hurt", "you will be tired", "it can take hours to give birth"... But really.. it wasn't so bad now that I look back on it.

Sure I was uncomfortable when I got really big, but it was fine.. and suuuuure it hurt to give birth and I was tired after... But I look back now and think it wasn't so bad and im more than willing to do it eight or more times!! haha

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That my girly area would change COMPLETELY, from the inside out and it was all for the worse.That even though I am smaller than i was prior to pregnancy, I could not wear my old clothes because my hips grew and I am just thicker around the middle.

Chris - posted on 03/01/2010

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that the birth could be such a beautiful experience. I heard all the "war stories" before my first son and had a missed epidural (spinal headaches for a year) and a horrible long labor that was painful and a major episiotomy to heal from. I swore off having more kids - and then 8 years later got a happy surprise - I knew there had to be a better way I wasn't going through that again - so I went to a midwife who helped me learn a lot about water birth and natural pregnancy/birthing and my second sons birth was a beautiful wonderful experience with no episiotomy and no tearing! and only 5 hours of real hard labor and he popped out in 15 minutes of pushing..... a whole different experience when I approached it as an experience and right of passage and not just some horrible thing I had to endure to get to the baby.

Ranyia - posted on 02/28/2010

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No one ever tell you how your hair and skin changes when you get pregnant. Or how you don't or can't hold your body functions. Or that your breast grow out of control. I went from a B cup to G cup and have only shrunk back to DDD. My hair was straight then started getting curls. You sneeze, cough, bend down, lift something what ever and you leak.

The worst I would have to say is there is a thing called hyperemesis gravidarum (severe morning sickness) that I had with both kids starting from 6 weeks of pregnancy until the day I went into labor. That stops me from having anymore kids. If I can do the labor only I would have more but not the 9 months of pregnancy.

Nancy - posted on 02/28/2010

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nobody told me about the afterpains (after baby #2). after baby #1, i felt fine, great afterwards. no pain at all. after baby #2, the afterpains started immediately after birth, felt like i was right back in labor again, and lasted for about two days. the afterpains were really hard!

Shannon - posted on 02/28/2010

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I am right there with you, it was awful! I kept beating myself up for not feeling the way I was "supposed" to feel

Larissa - posted on 02/28/2010

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Oh and no one told me that because I went into labour at 26 weeks first (then later to have him at 40) tat it brings the milk on and contractions made your milk let down. Lovely.

Larissa - posted on 02/28/2010

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no one told me a lot.

I didn't know about the bleeding after your waters broke. Or the fact that you keep leaking fluid until the baby comes! I thought once it popped, that was it. No body told me that after your waters break you would have time (as per the nurses) to have a shower, something to eat (and that I would be able to eat), and then potter on in (40 min drive). No one told me that you can't have pethidine 2 hours before delivery. No one told me that gas can make you throw up. No one told me that when you feel like you need to push it can be mistaken at first for "I think I need to do a poo". No one told me that when the head actually does come out that it really really STINGS, like a rubber band getting stretched. All I heard about was labour pain!?! No one told me what happens if there is complications with the baby, or where NICU was so I could get there to see him. (I was on pethidine drugged out trying to find NICU) No one told me how much you actually just wanna have a shower and get all clean and right again pretty much straight after the birth! I thought I would want to lay there forever, soak it all up. But nope, I was keen on a shower the second I could. Yuck.

Jessi - posted on 02/28/2010

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No one told me about the after pains. My labor with my first was very uneventful. I dialated fast, got an epidural, pushed a few times and my beautiful baby girl was born. Then came the AFTER PAINS. Every time she nursed my uterus contracted as if I was still in labor. Even worse were the after pains with my second. I felt like I wasn't going to make it. His labor was a little more complicated because I had too much aminotic fluid, but it was still relatively smooth. The after pains killed again. My mom (who had 5 children) explained that for her they after pains were increasingly worse with each of her births. Take the pain killers they offer you right after the labor... You're going to need them.

Rachel - posted on 02/28/2010

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noone told me that the nhs sucks, and that the consultants are allowed to call you a strain on the dept...

Lisa - posted on 02/23/2010

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Noone told me that my hair would fall out after she was born and that using a breast pump REALLY hurts!!

Melanie - posted on 02/23/2010

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Quite a lot, actually. The most annoying thing noone told me was: leaking breasts ... forever ...!

And my Nana had posterior births. I didn't know about these until I had one. A bit of prep for the PAIN of them might have helped.

User - posted on 02/03/2010

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noone told me how hard breastfeeding was.... it HURTS!! 2 years later it still annoys me, but I do it for love. Noone told me how hard weaning was....

Elizabeth - posted on 02/03/2010

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Nobody warned me about the leg cramps... all of a sudden at night my cabs started cramping really bad, I screamed, my husband got scared thinking something else was wrong, but i'm like my leg!!!! till after I mentioned that, them my mom, sister, cuzns were like oh yeah that happens

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That I'd have trouble with my bladder and pee my pants if I ran/jump up and down - makes exercising a tad difficult, or interesting!

User - posted on 02/03/2010

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No one told me how common Brachial Plexus injuries are in babies which is VERY serious nerve damage in large weight babies. I had gestational diabetes & the doctor kept say the baby is gonna be big but NEVER told me any bad things that COULD happen during labour. If he had I would have had a C section & save my son all the pain & physio. No one wants to think of anything negative happening during labour but you need to ask so u will be prepared to make those decisions ahead of time.

Michelle - posted on 02/02/2010

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The other things they dont tell you every pregnancy can be different . I have been pregnant 5 times the first one i had a miscarriage the next 4 i had to have by c-section due to not dilating. I was very sick with the my oldest son my morning sickness lasted til i was 5 months and when i went into labor he was breech,the next one i tried v back delivery and he was trying to come shoulder first i never got sick at all with him, the next son i would pass out at least once a week while i was pregnant with him during the first 3 months i was pregnant with him,my youngest son i got migraines the whole pregnancy. They also dont tell you if you have a c-section once chances are you should have all othert births the same way

Trina - posted on 02/02/2010

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nobody ever told me how difficult breastfeeding could be. the first month was the worst. i didn't sleep the entire first week of my son's life because he was in the N.I.C.U. and he was "on demand breastfeeding" only. my son is now a week away from his first birthday, and has NEVER had formula. i managed to stick to breastfeeding, and would recommend it to any soon to be momma. my son and i have an incredible bond and he is healthy as a horse!

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no one ever told me that it would be a good idea to invest in an enema or even a bottle of metamucil! Wish I knew that one. Let me tell you that a week and a half after a C-Sect, your only friend is a rubber glove, some lubricant and an hour on the toilet while dear hubby is pacing outside the lavetory with a screaming child desperate for a feed.

No one told me that when you are all desperate, its ok to breast feed a child of you are stuck on that tolilet after another hour! LOL!

Kailee - posted on 02/02/2010

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I never expected the cervix checks to be so painfull..and delivering the placenta...that hurt more then the baby!

Shannon - posted on 02/02/2010

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that you can have placenta problems i use to watch all kinds of baby stories and all kinds of stuff on TLC and discover health and never did any of them say how a placenta can get stuck and not come out like it should i had to have a doctor pull it out not good lol but i will have another child in a heart beat well as soon as i get pregnant and carry the baby 9 months that is lol

Stephanie - posted on 02/02/2010

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My first was 37 weeks and I was induced. He got stuck for so long they talked about pushing his head back in and doing a c section! after 2 VERY LARGE women laid on mys tomach and I pushed with all my might, ds came out gray and floppy- I had the shakes so bad they thought I was having a seizure. I had a 4th degree tear- the whole area down there- requiring 42 stitches... son was on cpap for 2 days and came home on 3rd day with me. vowed not to have more and 5 mos later found out 2nd boy on the way! had hyperemisis and after having sex at 32 weeks went into labor! finally went to hospital and was 4cm dialated- stayed 2 days then went home... had 2 go back 3 days later for contractions, had an amnio (very painful for me) and after water breaking the dr didnt have time to dress before my 2nd ds was born! this time I only needed 3 stitches and ds only was in NICU for 8 hrs.

Codye - posted on 02/02/2010

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how much your pelvic area and lips down there will hurt when its time for the baby to get into position....

Emilie - posted on 02/02/2010

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nobody told me that while you are breastfeeding you need to drink constantly, if you don't you won't be able to have a bowel movement and when you do it hurts very, very, very bad. Also nobody told me that in the last month of pregnancy that you will pee yourself whenever the baby kicks.

Amy - posted on 02/02/2010

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No one told me that I'd suddenly become telepathic to my kids feeling and grow eyes on the back of my head.

Heather - posted on 02/02/2010

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My biggest revelation was the pain. If everyone that had a baby told me it was menstrual cramps X's 1000. I wouldn't had been worried. I kept expecting this mystery pain to show up.

All of you that are ready to have your little one. PLEASE try to have your own experience. Accept what comes and then make your choice for what you want!! People kept trying to give me advice! NO Thank you. I had a wonderful and painful experience!:O)

Gwen - posted on 02/02/2010

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How many BODILY FLUIDS would be involved.. before, during AND after!!

LOL :-)

Joni - posted on 02/02/2010

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No one ever told me that you dont really stop having periods while your pregnant. That it just kinda gathers in the uterus. Also, no one told me how painful it was the first time you poop after giving birth.

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No one told me how WONDERFUL the urge to push is! I was freaked out about that with not knowing what to expect.

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Nobody told me much. Mainly my impressions were that being pregnant wasn't that hard and LOL. I was miserable when preggo! Even my healthiest one, all the emotions, nobody told me about that. Nor did I know how awful pushing would be. So many moms said that part was easier, should have taken more to heart what the midwife said that everyone is different. So true. Thankfully I knew most of that after the first one.

Erin - posted on 02/02/2010

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Nobody told me what happened to the imbilocial cord after the part was cut off from the baby.

Courtney - posted on 02/02/2010

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Noone told me that I would pee myself after I sneezed unless I clinched really well. Gah that one sucks big time!

Samantha - posted on 02/02/2010

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well i was young with my first and looking back wasnt told alot but one thing i never thought about was delivering the placenta it hurt and my doctor kept telling me not to push cuz i could get a major infection if it broke then after 15-20min of waiting she finally let me push it sucked

User - posted on 02/02/2010

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obody told me how inconsiderate doctors can be to yor pain.. espailly when they are men.. like they know wtf i am feeling..hahahaha. also no one told me about the rectal bleeding from pushing soo hard

Angie - posted on 02/01/2010

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No one told me that there was not one part of my body that would be affected by pregnancy. From my toe nails to the hair on the top of my head, everything changed - and some things never returned to pre-pregnancy state. The strangest thing??? My shoe size changed and never went back :(

Carla - posted on 02/01/2010

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That when you get an epidural you are so numb that you become incontinent and everytime they check to see how dialated you are you end up going to the bathroom on the nurses. Oh and you don't know when you have to release gas and there is a room full of family. Also, the recovery is very hard, especially if you end up with a fourth degree tear and you have to have more surgery.

Cassie - posted on 02/01/2010

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That you will think you need to poo something cronic but you don't and even if you do lots of woman poo on the bed, they take care of it, screw it your in labour, don't worry haha.

Oh use KJ Jelly for a few months before on your um whatsit, gooch? I used it with like 2 weeks to go and thank god it still helped, i think, google it and i got lucky with this because i didnt want to do anything wrong, DON'T push when the midwife tells you to not push only push when she says so, i had the biggest baby of all of my friends and im well, ehm the tightest i know from very open relationships with them and they all teared horribly and i got LOTS of grazing on the inside not one stitch or tear.



If you want your birth recorded read below:

I don't know where your from but I'm from Queensland Australia and it was all in my birth plan to have parts of and then the end of the birth video recorded, whilst I was contracting and everything and the midwives weren't there my parents recorded away but then when it got to the end (the bit i REALLY wanted to see) my mum started recording and the midwife pushed her out of the way and told her to turn it off and started explaining why they can get sued if something goes wrong and stuff. So check :)

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I didn't know passing the placenta was going to HURT. I had just passed a 7lb baby, I was thinking that the afterbirth was going to be a breeze. NOT. My only yell the whole labor was when I passed the afterbirth. That part was more painful than the baby!

Tanisha - posted on 02/01/2010

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ok well i agree with most of them they tell ya that its goin to hurt like crazy and it does but at the same times its amazing!! c they tell you not go eat meats unless they are cooked or ride fair rides or even go into hot tubs... now idk if i got lucky or not but i did al of that just within the first trimester!!!! my son is healthier then i am sometimes, and he was born a big baby.... dont get me rong i dont mean for ne one to just go out and do any of it... idk i mean he only thing that hurt for me was when the started induceing me and they had me contracting fully when i was only dialated to 2!!!! other then that i slept most of my labor till right before i had him... I DO NOT RECOMEND HOLDING IT IN!! WHEN U HAVE TO PUSH ... PUSH... i held it in for my sons sperm donor to get there and it was horrible.. other then that it was the whole peeing thing... i only had 2 stitches so i mean i guess i got lucky thro out the whole thing..other then that its been an amazing thing.. my son will b 2 in june.. and i cherish ever moment!

Paige - posted on 02/01/2010

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Yeah I know what you mean after the epidural! Your legs are just like jelly! When I had to go from the bed to my wheelchair to be taken to my room, I needed help cuz I would have fell flat on my face, and even a couple of time after I needed help to walk!

Tanisha - posted on 02/01/2010

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no one ever told me about the "after birth" i guess u can say... i mean i knew about it but i didnt kno u were goin to bleen from n e where from a week to 2 months after.... and along with that they never told me how hard it is to walk after you get n epidural and when its all over!!! i almost fell when i got out of the bed!! but i was also laying there for 11 housrs straight!!!

Michelle - posted on 02/01/2010

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that if breastfeeding is NOT working for you and the baby don't be a martyr and persist or keep at it because of peer pressure (even when you are producing hardly any milk and your baby is starving and you are so sore you dread each feed), switch to formula for a happy mother and baby! I am totally for breastfeeding but it doesn't always work. I tried with both my children but ended up having to bottle feed them.

Lynsay - posted on 02/01/2010

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nobody said how much it hurts for the immediate few days after the birth showering and weeing etc..

User - posted on 02/01/2010

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No one told me how forgetful I would be during the pregnancy. When I finally mentioned it, all my friends just looked at me and laughed. Apparently, they were all too familiar with the pregnancy haze.

Melissa - posted on 02/01/2010

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That it could go so smoothly. I had a perfect pregnancy and childbirth. All natural, no epidural or anything.

Sandi - posted on 02/01/2010

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Oh and no one told me that you could have a blue eyed chinese baby with a full head of black hair with blonde highlights!

Sandi - posted on 02/01/2010

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No one told me I would get 2 midwives during the homebirth or that they would be there constantly. I was happy I got 100% attention from them. They got sandwiches in return.

No one told me if you take long deep breaths you go light headed which gives the same effect as gas and air (but milder) so you can save the awsome gas and air for further into labour.

No one told me how light you would feel after the birth like you are floating. Or that because there's no pressure on your lungs you can't catch your breathe.

Also no one told me that if you have a homebirth you don't need to go with your husband for your babies first hip check at the doctors the day after birth. We were 20mins late and I was trying to "rush" walking like John Wayne and almost crying.

Oh and I knew you could lose hair, but not enough to make a small poodle. Now I have all these 2 inch tufts sprouting out along my hairline and my parting, no amount of anti frizz will keep it flat :(

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