Shauna - posted on 11/10/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
My ex and I have joint custody of our little girl who is 6 years old. I love on my own and have an 8-5 job Monday-Friday. My ex husband lives with his mom and works in the late afternoons until late at night. During the week that she is not in my possession and with her dad (in his possession), due to his schedule, his mom takes care of my daughter (I don't particularly like this bc of reasons). At both homes my daughter gets the things she needs and is very loved hands down. I'm so torn because since my daughter hardly sees her dad, she is being raised by his mom when he is not home. To me this makes no sense and a part of me wants to do something about it, but then part of me doesn't want to change it because my daughter loves her daddy and grandmother. Me and her dad have two different lifestyles; when she is at his house; she is with his mom 90% of the time, she is definitely babied and spoiled. When she is at my house, it's a routine, we get home from school and work, get dinner, do homework, play, read, watch tv and then get baths and go to bed. I don't baby her and she doesn't get everything she wants at my house. It makes my weeks with her a bit challenging to say the least. I feel at times joint custody is so unhealthy and I feel like at times I'm letting him and his mom get away with taking advantage of our agreement. I really just need some advice becauSe I'm torn between what to do.