What's the best way to handle step-parenting situation?

Allie - posted on 05/02/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




My boyfriend and I are having issues with our different parenting ideas, My son does not want to listen to him at all and he seems to be pushing farther and farther away. Can anyone help me figure out how to handle the situation?


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/10/2012




First, do YOU agree with your boyfriend's parenting methods, and his attempts with your son?

If not, then why are you allowing him to attempt to parent your son? If you cannot agree with him, then he needs to back down until there is middle ground.

If so, then you need to sit down with your son and explain that he needs to respect and listen to your bf, and outline consequences just as you do if he doesn't listen to you.

Your son has a point. YOU are his mom, but bf is not his dad. So, unless you've told him that bf has parenting authority, he's going to look to you for guidance, rather than listening to your bf.


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Dove - posted on 05/10/2012




Communication and compromise are two helpful things to remember in any conflict.

Kelina - posted on 05/10/2012




Parenting is kind of a broad subject are there just specific issues that you're not agreeing on or is it everything? You could always try the approach my dad and his wife used. My dad did all the discipline, she ignored me for the most part. Might not want to use what she did though, It's always best to try and forge a decent relationship with a stepparent. If he sees him doing something that he's not supposed to then he refers to you and lets you deal with it. If that's not possible then see if you can't compromise on some stuff.

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