What's the point

Jennie Onita - posted on 06/01/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I'm a full time working mom and he is a stay at home dad everyday he finds something to get mad at me it does not matter how small it is he always finds something to fight with me about i don't know how much more energy I have left to n able to keep doing what i do I don't know what to do anymore.

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Sarah - posted on 06/02/2016

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Have you seen a counselor to help you guys iron out a plan? Maybe he is feeling stuck in a rut and needs some positive encouragement to get his resume together and look for a evening shift position. If you work days and he evenings, there will be a daycare need for the overlap. Also, if he works full-time, you will hardly see each other. I have done that schedule with me on days and my husband on evenings.

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Michelle - posted on 06/02/2016

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Instead of just shooting down our suggestions you need to have a think about a solution to you current conditions.
If both of you are working then you would be able to afford childcare.
I would also suggest counseling to help you communicate with each other as it seems you aren't open to a compromise.

Jennie Onita - posted on 06/02/2016

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When I say night I mean a 4 to 12 k understand all that I do cuz it's not right for him to have to watch the kids but I can't quit my job he can't get a job that can take care of us

Sarah - posted on 06/02/2016

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Every problem has a solution. It is a matter of the two of you reaching a compromise. It really is not reasonable for him to work at night and then come home and watch the kids while you work. When would he sleep? So whether he works days or nights you'd need some form of childcare.

Jennie Onita - posted on 06/02/2016

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Can't afford daycare that's one of my problems and he is a night owl that's what he wants

Jodi - posted on 06/02/2016

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Well, there's the problem. He's probably feeling resentful. Perhaps you need to look for a daycare so that he can get a job he wants and will make him happy rather than a night job that he'd possibly only be doing for the money, not the enjoyment.

Jennie Onita - posted on 06/02/2016

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We have talked many times he wants to go to work but he says he can't cuz we don't have anyone to watch the children so he has to get a job at night he doesn't try to get a job I unsterstamd that it's really hard for him to stay with the babies but he honestly doesn't try and I can't quit my job thank u for replyin :)

Michelle - posted on 06/02/2016

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I agree with Jodi, he may feel like he wants to go to work but doesn't know how to bring it up with you.
Talk to him.

Jodi - posted on 06/02/2016

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Maybe being a stay at home dad is not working for him. Have your talked to him about that?

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