What should a step dad be called ?

Nelly - posted on 05/11/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 year old and lately I've been having an issue about her calling my boyfriend "Daddy." To begin with my daughters biological father hasn't been in her life since I was pregnant nor tried to contact her, in fact they have never met. Over a year ago I met my bf and to my daughter he is a father figure, and only dad she knew. She started calling him "daddy" and he was totally ok for the whole year we been together. Until couple days ago. His mom told him that she doesn't think it's ok! which, I find it hard to believe yet funny because she was adopted and my bfs father adapted her daughter from a different relationship. Ever since she told him, she is not ok with my daughter calling him "dad" he has decided for my daughter to not call him "dad." I'm disappointed in him because his letting his mom take control of his life even though he is a grown up man and provides for him self. Also my daughter really care for him and sees him as a father figured! Any advice ?

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Michelle - posted on 05/12/2016

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I agree with Dove. You need to sit down with him and ask him what HE wants to be called, not what his Mum thinks.
Explain that your daughter has been calling him Dad for a year and why should that change. The only reason I could see it being a good thing is if he isn't going to hang around.
I would also make sure that as she grows up that he isn't her biological Dad but has chosen to be her Dad.

Dove - posted on 05/11/2016

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She's been calling him Daddy for a year and his mom never said anything before now?

She does need to be raised w/ the truth that this man is not her biological father, but it sounds like he absolutely IS her Daddy.

How confusing for that poor little girl if she was allowed to do something for a year and now he's going to try and change that. :( Other than sitting down w/ him and explaining that to him and tactfully trying to let him know that it's none of his mom's business what goes on in your family... I don't know. Good luck!

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Nelly - posted on 05/11/2016

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First I'll like to thank you dove for taking the time to respond. It kills me inside because we live together! She only knows him by "dad\ daddy." I just don't know how to deal with this type of situation! It's an awkward situation because he picks her up from day care. When she sees him she gets excited and starts to say, " daddy is here!" The teachers are going to be puzzle about this. Although not as much as my poor daughter!

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