What should i do?

Saranya - posted on 07/25/2016 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Last week i found that my elder daughter have litty bit lesbian affection. I searched her computer and a folder full of lesbian videos and stories . Laterly I know very sad news she was misused her younger sister. I questioned her then she revealed the story where she got this mistake..she misused by her aunty that was my little sister from her 8 birthday onwards. How i can help ma daughters from these sin? I can't ask to my sister to stop that because I don't have any proof please help me..

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Michelle - posted on 07/26/2016

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Stop coming up with excuses. You can't make the adult go to counselling but you can get the younger one in.
I also suggest that you don't snoop on your adult child's computer. She is an adult and has the right to her privacy. There is nothing wrong about being a lesbian either. I suggest you accept your daughter for who she is and if she has abused your younger one then you she needs to be kept away.
You can file a police report on your sister, you just don't want to.

Dove - posted on 07/25/2016

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Well... at 21 whatever your daughter does about the situation is up to her. I'd get the 11 year old into counseling whether she wants to or not... and I'd keep your daughters separated from each other as well. 10 years older than her sister she should have been old enough to know not to do that (I am assuming you are talking about molestation when you say 'misused') to her sister and I would say if the older one will not seek counseling that you should strongly consider pressing charges against her for molesting her sister.

Protect the 11 year old from any future abuse by keeping her away from both of those women..

Dove - posted on 07/25/2016

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How old are your daughters? If they are under 18... you take away their computer and internet access and keep them away from your sister.... Then you file a police report and get both of your daughters into therapy immediately.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/26/2016

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These things are just as common in India as elsewhere, but your culture chooses to ignore the abuse and prosecute "deviant" sexuality.

Your eldest is a lesbian. Live with it. Prosecute your sister and your eldest for the abuse of your youngest.

Stop making excuses as to why you "can't". The only reason you "can't" is because you don't wish to.

Dove - posted on 07/26/2016

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I'm so sorry. It IS a tough situation. No one wants to believe that their children are going to get hurt by a family member... or that their child is going to be capable of hurting another family member. It happens... a lot... no matter what country you are in.

I have no idea what is available in India, but you do have counseling services and you do have police... right? You tell your daughter that you are sorry for what happened to her as a child and you should have been there to help her, but that there is NO excuse for her repeating the behaviors w/ her own sister. You love her and you want her to get help to heal from the abuse, but you also have to protect your child that is still a minor. You tell your daughter that whether or not she seeks help is up to her, but if she does NOT seek help... you will have no choice, but to speak to the police about the abuse she inflicted on her little sister.

Saranya - posted on 07/26/2016

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How can i change my elder ones mind? Because both are my daughters even they did mistakes.i want both as my cute angles. I am very confusing

Liliane - posted on 07/26/2016

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Yes you can file a police report, and you should! Sister or not sister what she did I'm suprised you came on here for help instead of going to the police. If it had been my sister is would have gone over to her house and beat the living💩 out of her then called the police. I'm shocked you haven't done anything yet

Saranya - posted on 07/26/2016

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Yeahhh...I should consider this as serious issue. I am going separate my daughters by sending elder one to hostel. I think that could be best way to protect ma younger one. Thanks for your suggestion. I am not excuse myself . I am from India and these kind of things not so common in our society so I didn't take any precaution thats why i lost my elder one. Really I should cme to this circle before.now I realize that keeps a limit with everyone if u have daughters . Once again thanks for your advice

Liliane - posted on 07/26/2016

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I completely agree with you. And you should go to the police even if she is your sister. That's just so wrong. If it had been a male you would probably have gone already..... I'm very sorry for what happened to your older daughter but that doesn't give her the right to abuse her little sister, she's obviously old enough to know right from wrong. I wish you and your daughters all the best and hope there is something or someone that can help the poor angels. But your sister needs to be reprimanded for what she did it will also show your older daughter that your on her side and that there is consequences for what she did so she doesn't keep doing it to your younger daughter or someone else's daughter. Wish you all the very best

Saranya - posted on 07/25/2016

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Elder one 21 and younger one 11 . I can't file a police complaint against my sister.soon she will go states with her husband. My daughter doesn't like counciling then that way also blocked

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