What Should I Do ?

Keitaa - posted on 09/13/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I Really Want My Baby Daddy And His Mother In My Baby Life But Its Like They Dont Want To Be Here What Should I Do ? How Can I Change They Minds ? I Really Need Their Help And I Dont Know How To Explain It To Them Because He Pushed Me Away .

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Lacye - posted on 09/13/2012

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I hate to tell you but you can't force them to be a part of your child's life. If you need help, take him to court for child support. If you can't afford a lawyer, you can go to DHS and file there and they will do it. The father and his mother are going to have to want to be in your baby's life.

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Keitaa - posted on 09/14/2012

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Hey Trista Yes I Do Want Them around Because I Want My baby To know That Side Of His Family I Dont Know Half Of My daddy Family Just My Granny Thats The Only One I get along With And I Dont Want It To be Like That For My Baby And I Agree Too .





Hey Dove, Thanks so Much And I Talk To my Lawyer And Everything Yesterday Im Sending Him A Text Now Telling Him Whats Coming At Him And Im Going To Make I Know I Will Im Not The Only Mother Going Threw This And I Know Other Moms Will Help Me Thanks You Guys :)

Dove - posted on 09/13/2012

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Unfortunately Lacye is right. The best thing you CAN do is go to court to get custody, visitation, and support all set up. Even if he doesn't have a job... most states (I think) will still 'require' him to pay child support... though actually getting it may or may not happen... what he owes WILL add up.



I'm sorry. It stinks that you can't control what him and his mother do because your baby certainly deserves to have a dad. The best YOU can do though is just be the best mother you possibly can to your child. If there's something (either material wise, education wise, whatever) that you can't provide for your child... you find a way that someone can (like an uncle, grandpa, whatever... to fill the 'male void' for your child).



Hang in there!! You can do this! :)

Trista - posted on 09/13/2012

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Is it that you miss them and just want them around? Or do you need their help in other ways? I have to agree with Lacye...

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Hey Lacye , I Understand That But Its No Way That I Can Talk To Them About This ? I Talked To A Alwyer Like A Hour Ago But I Dont Know If Thats What I Really Want To Do Considering He Dont Have A Job

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