what should i do about being on the mirena and possibly being pregnant and it not my husbands baby?

Rayana - posted on 11/07/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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ok... my name is rayana and i am married. been married for goen on 2 yrs.. my husband and i are extremley depressed and want to save our marriage.. we recently split up and now are back together trying to work things out but its very difficult.. i am goen to be straight up honest.. when me and my husband split up i "messed around" on him.. i have the mirena in but my husband and i both feel like i may be pregnant.. i took a pregnancy test and it came back negative but i still feel weird about it.. i am soo scared because it may not be my husbands.. what do i do?? any suggestions? i am so scared and i feel soo helpless :( i love my husband and i cant believe that i did something so selfish!

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

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Well first of all, go to the doctors office instead of guessing. From what I understand, if you have the Mirena, it can cause all sorts of problems if you get pregnant.

Second, if you ARE pregnant, discussing this with your husband is the only way. Can you imagine if you try to pass it off as his kid, and he finds out later he is not related to him? What a kick to the stomach....and more that would be.

Rose - posted on 11/08/2011

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Hey I had mirena and didnt have a period for 2 years and felt pregnant the whole time thats why i got it removed. It is common to feel pregnant but not be with mirena. you can look it up. plus if you are pregnant it can be dangerous for you and the baby. I used to get flutters in my stomach like a baby was in there kicking and nausea, sore breasts. it was horrible and some women just get those side effects with mirena.

Tinker1987 - posted on 11/07/2011

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I would tell your husband about the messing around pregnant or not...if you decide to work it out you dont want hanging over your shoulders. Blood work is your golden ticket. your probably just feeling really nervous if your pregnant then having to deal with who is the father has gotten your nerves rattled,But you sound guilty and i think you should talk to your husband. there is nothing worse then having guilt weighing over you even if you were on a bit of a time out!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/07/2011

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Heck, he could have been with others when you were separated. Sorry to bring it up, but have you thought of that?

Stifler's - posted on 11/07/2011

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you were split up so you weren't messing around on him. you were having relations with someone else. get a blood test to see whether you actually are pregnant and then decide whether you want to keep the baby on the possibility that it is your husbands or still keep the baby anyway or have an abortion.

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Rayana - posted on 11/07/2011

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well thanks for the advice. i guess tha only thng to really do is get blood wrk done.. and jus to put it out there my husband knows i messd around on him and he knows that if i am pregnant, that it myte not b his.. i feel terrible.. but i guess jus one day at a tyme.. also i havent even thought about what if he was messing around too... i know for a fact that he wasnt.. but thanks for the advice!

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