Jacqueline - posted on 07/21/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
My 11 year daughter came to me yesterday and told me her and her brother tried looking up their Father on the internet. I ask her why and she said she wants to know her Father. The Father that has not be in her life for 10 and half years. The one who does not support them finanially, physically, and emotionally. I have been real good about not saying anything bad about him, but now I just want to scream why. Why do you want to know someone who has no problem with not knowing you? Then sanity overcomes me. So I let them search for him and his facebook page come up. Now I am pissed. He is posing with a beautiful woman in evening wear, exspensive evening wear, with a big smile on his face. He doesn't look at all upset or hurt he has not been in his children's life, and from the look of the picture, he is happy and doing well with his fancy suit on. But again I can't show that I am pissed off and hurting inside. They were excited to see him. He looked good unlike me. So now they want to send him messages. What should I do. Should I let them send him messages? I don't want them to get hurt, but my heart goes out to them. What if they contact him without me because they don't want to hurt me? What if they message him and he doesn't respond back? Please let me know your thoughts on the matter. I love my children and at times I wish they had their Father in their lives. Then I remember how abusive and hateful he was towards me and them. It this a smart idea? Was I wrong to let them search for him? I just wanted them to do it in front of me and not behind my back- but now I am regretting that decision. Please help?