Betty - posted on 03/21/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have been with my husband for around 22 years, only been married 12 of the 22 years. My husband has a job where he works out of town a lot..I have stayed at home and not worked cause that's where he has wanted me to be said he can work better to take care of us knowing im home taking care of kids and house. He recently told me he loved me but wasn't in love with me anymore. that he was bored in our marriage and felt I didn't care cause I always stay home and don't travel with him. That our sex life is boring and our life is boring. He was ready to end it all and just move on. We talked I started going out of town with him, spiced up our sex life, tried everything to make him feel important and that I do love him. On way back from one of trips he broke down and told me he was talking to someone else said he felt he couldn't talk to me and I wasn't there for him. This broke my heart we talked so I thought we got it straight. Traveled some more with him, he said he was happier he got the old me back said he promised to give us 100% and wouldn't bother with other woman again. I honestly don't know if he did stop talking to other woman cause he has a work phone through his company I have no way to check who he talk or texts. I decided to take this trip off with him to spend a lil time with my kids, they are older 16 , 19, and 23. And cause I had an old friend coming in to see me that I haven't seen in years. He made comments about me not going like oh u care more about her then me, or I cant believe your gonna make me travel alone. I talked to him about it and he said he was just picking with me. That he understands I cant go every trip, and it was fine. So I thought we were fine then he waits till hes out of town to post on facebook how being on road gives you a lot of time to think, that hes stuck by his kids and his wife and so on and so on but now its time for him to just worry about him. Im like are you serious? Never said anything to me like something was wrong again had a good time when he was here and then leaves and says that and of all places facebook. I don't know what to do I love him and have tried to do what I can to prove my love to him but feel its never good enough. I don't understand whats going on with him, cant fix what I don't know. Am I wasting my time? What do you think is going on? Should I talk to him and tell him how I feel or should I just let him go?