What should i do about my step sons mother being inconsistent?

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My bf and I each have a boy from different relationships. His son is over every weekend and we have mine full time. We all get along great! But my step sons mother is a little nutty. Sometimes she says mean things about me and trys to tell her son that im bad and what not, and the next weekend she suggesting he spends more time with me. ANYWAYS. this weekend she decided that we take him for sunday night and get him to and from school, which i dont have a problem with, i love the boy like my own, but the reason for this ( and note is was 7pm sunday when she suddenly decided this) is because she said she heavily medicated and wont be home, and needs a break from life. Now i guess what im getting at is, id like to keep him here, in a stable environment until she can figure out what the hell is wrong with herself. when shes a mom, shes a great mom, but she takes alot of meds and drinks alot. i Just need some advice on how to approach the idea of keeping him for as long as it takes her to get her head together.. she will try and guilt trip us if it brought up to her, and it stresses everyone out so we push it under the rug. this is not the first time something like this has happened... I just want the boy to be where i know hes okay. i know hes not MY son, but i really love him.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/26/2012

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Well, I am telling you how to approach the situation. You NOT to approach the situation and have your boyfriend do it.

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WE ALL LOOK at it, like hes my step son. so im not married woohoo. but weve been together for years, and im having my bfs baby. marriage isnt in the plan right now. i understand that its not my place, and i wasnt asking for anyone to tell me what i already know, its not MY decision, but im ASKING FOR A WAY TO APPROACH THE SITUATION.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/26/2012

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I love that you care about this boy so much and that you want to protect and help him. But point blank, he is not your kid by any means at the moment. This needs to be between the child, the father and mother. Good luck.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/26/2012

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Ok. This is not your place to recommend keeping her son. You are not his parent, or his step parent. I cannot say this is a bad idea, just that it is not your place to say anything. It needs to come from the boys father. One way he can do this, is by speaking with her and working out a new arrangement. Another way is by seeking full custody and letting HER be the one with visitations. But really, this should NOT come from you.

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