WHAT SHOULD I DO ABOUT THIS?

M. - posted on 09/30/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I AM BLACK AM MY HUSBAND IS WHITE, AND WE LIVE IN A TOWN WHERE HE WAS BORN AN RASIED. WHICH IS A VERY NICE PLACE TO RASIE AN CHILD. I GO 2 LIKE 3 DIFFERENT LIBRARIES ALL ISNT THE SAME. THE ONLY THING IS ,MOST OF THE MOMS AT STORY TIME, THE PARK, THEY SPEAK TO ONE ANOTHER AN ACT AS IF IM NOT THERE. I ALWAYS SPEAK TO THEM ,BUT THEY ACT LIKE THEY DONT WANT TO TALK TO ME. SOME JUST STARE LIKE I SHOULD NOT BE THERE. AND IT MAKE ME FEEL LIKE ARE THESE PEOPLE SERIOUS?



ONE LADY HAD THE NERVE TO ASK ME" HOW DID THAT HAPPEN?

TALKING ABOUT MY HUSBAND AN I. HOW SHOULD I RESPONSE TO THESE VERY RUDE PEOPLE?

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M. - posted on 10/01/2012

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AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH, I CANT WAIT UNTILL THAT DAY COMES WHEN THERE IS NO MORE STARING. BUT JUST TO ANSWER YOUR ? THE LADY WAS AROUND 38. AND YES I DO SHOW NOTHING BUT KINDNESS, IT MAKE ME FEEL SO GOOD. MY HAIR IS NATURAL CURLY AN HAVE ALWAYS BEEN LONG, AND IN SCHOOL WHICH WAS A URBAN SCHOOL. I WENT THREW HELL BECAUSE OF MY HAIR WITH THE OTHER BLACK KIDS. AS I GOT OLDER I STARTED EDUCATING THEM ABOUT GENETICS AND HISTORY.



THE GOOD THING IS THAT WHEN IM IN THE STORE I SEE ALOT OF BI-RACIAL KIDS, SO MY SON WILL GO TO SCHOOL WITH THEM. I WANT TO WALK UP TO THE PARENTSSOMETHIMES TO TALK, BUT I DONT BECAUSE THEY ARE SHOPPING WITH THERE THERE HUSBANDS. SO I DECIDE NOT TO. AGAIN THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR FEED BACK.

Bobbie - posted on 09/30/2012

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How rude! Bet she was old. Older people are have no filter and use no common sense when speaking to strangers.

I do not face prejudice so I can only imagine how that made you feel regardless of her age.

I was recently thinking how nice it is that we as Americans are getting to be more blended and more connected through the joining of races. Closing that divide. It seems my town is being filled with couples sharing their heritage and the result are the most beautiful children of different skin tones and hair textures.

I brought my children up to not point out race or to use labels. I told them that if we had lived 100 years ago they would be shown prejudice because they have a mixture of Native American and English decent. This was frowned upon and children from these marriages were called heathens and not permitted to even go to school with the white children. My son was horrified when he learned in history what had gone on in the south so recently again with another race. He asked me "why" and all I could say was "ignorance" That is my answer to you when people say things such as how did it happen. A sweet person I know, married to a white man uses the best down to earth kindness and true sweetness for such questions. Kindness is always the way to go when challenged by others rudness. You don't let them see it bother you, they see who you really are ,and hopefully it helps their ignorance a little. I can just imagine her being asked that question and her response being something like, "how did what happen, you mean the proposal or how we met? " How did you meet your husband?"

More info about prejudice......

Turns out that my children have even more heritage than I realized. I didn't know until just recently that my grandfather was not only Indian but black as well. My mother had always "passed" as they called it back in the day. So she was raised to not mention it.

It always amazes me when I mention that I am Native American that many people act pleased , point out my cheek bones or straight black hair and ask what tribe. I am hoping that as the great melting pot that we are, that we get to the point soon where there will be no need to ask questions.

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