what should i do here?

Maria - posted on 10/18/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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hi my name is maria am a mother of 3 boys alan is 9 and last nigh i when to the bathroom since he was ther to long and when i open the door he was sitting on the toilet while the water was on i ask him for how long this was happening and he said 2 weeks he also admiret to not brushing his teeth either am worry what should i do?

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Maria - posted on 10/18/2011

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thank you and yes theres a stepfather that have been there since he was 2 and half years old ....

Denikka - posted on 10/18/2011

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This is about that age...I don't know why, but both my brothers did this. Total rebellion against hygiene. I have no idea why.
I would suggest sitting him down and talking about the importance of good hygiene. Make it more about stuff he cares about than medical problems. (if you smell bad, your friends won't want to be around you) but definitely emphasize that not being clean can lead to infection and make him sick. For the teeth, you can tell him that if he doesn't brush, he could get cavities and that will make his teeth hurt and he won't be able to have sweets anymore. It's okay if you stretch the truth just a little bit :P
I would also suggest making shower time about him. Get him his own soap/body wash, shampoo etc. Make it manly (Old Spice or something similar). Maybe get him some deodorant too.

If that doesn't work, you may have to start treating him like a baby. He needs to shower, and it may end up with you sitting in there with him while he does it. Same with brushing his teeth.
Good luck :)

Jane - posted on 10/18/2011

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If he isn't showering on his own, explain to him that he is acting like a baby, that showering and brushing teeth are important for keeping healthy, and that as his mother you need to make sure he stays healthy. Thus, he has a choice. Either he needs to take showers and brush his teeth on his own or you will make sure he does it by being in the bathroom while he is doing it.

Sure, it would be better if his dad could do this, but if dad is not in the picture, you have to do it. At 9 he has not yet gone through puberty so I believe it is okay for you to supervise him directly. He can, however, cover his midsection with a towel until he gets into the shower and then hand it across the door to you. Then he can get it back when he gets out, in order to maintain some privacy.

Maria - posted on 10/18/2011

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2 weeks with out a shower that what worrys me the hole point here is should i get in the bathroom with him to make shore he showers ?

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I don't understand what you are worried about, but if he's not brushing his teeth you could just tell him that you'll have to do it like when he was a little boy.

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