What should I do? I caught my 8 year old son watching porn

Brandi - posted on 09/05/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I walked in and I caught him looking up porn on his phone. I took his phone away but I'm not sure if it's right or wrong to punish him. What should I do?

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Dove - posted on 09/06/2015

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He doesn't need punished... he needs educated and supervised. No 8 year old needs a phone and if they DO have a reason for one... they certainly don't need a phone that can do anything other than basic calls. He definitely doesn't need THAT phone back if it can look up porn. Nor does he need any device that has access to internet things unless it is done only in your direct supervision.

Talk to him like Jodi says.

Jodi - posted on 09/05/2015

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Well, he shouldn't have had unsupervised internet access in the first place - but that horse already bolted, so now you have to deal with what he saw. Maybe learn a lesson from it for yourself for next time.

First, you should ask him how he came upon the information on the phone (i.e. did he find it by accident or deliberately). Secondly, ask him if he understood what he was looking at. Chances are he really didn't understand it (and if he did, then you have more problems than a kid accidentally looking at porn because you let him have a moment of unsupervised internet access). You then take the conversation from there. Allow him to ask questions and you can answer them at an age appropriate level. It really depends on what he saw as to how far the conversation needs to go.

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Brandi - posted on 09/11/2015

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I agree with both of y'all. I appreciate your advice and Jodi and dove are both absolutely right about the fact that he shouldn't have unsupervised Internet. That was my fault and I should have been more responsible. The phone was given to him from a good friend of ours and it was supposed to be for games only. I made a mistake and I learned from it. I Guess I just never expected he would look that up..I definitely didn't see that coming. I took the phone away and I told him he wasn't punished since it was my mistake. But if he ever had questions about sex or something he needed to know to come to me or my husband and we would tell him what he needs to know but only what is appropriate for 8 year old to know. Thank you both dove and Jodi for responding. And I'll be sure to be more careful in the future. God bless

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