What should I do my son doesn't want to go to his dads.

Holly - posted on 07/27/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hey all, well basically my sone is 2 1/2 and the arrangement with my ex has been he gets him every Sunday 10-3 it's been like this for a year the times slowly increased from 2 hours to now 5 hours and the older my son is getting the more upset he's getting when his dad comes for him, and today he was just sooooo upset it breaks my heart making him go he was clinging to me howling as soon as he seen his dad and his dad just grabbed him off me and forced him into his car, what should I do every Sunday is getting worse been like this for about 4months now.

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Dove - posted on 07/27/2014




Talk up his visits w/ dad like they are a great thing. Don't let him cling to you. Just give him a hug and a kiss, tell him you'll see him soon, and hand him off to his dad.

Assuming your ex is not harming your son.... this is a perfectly normal stage. 5 hours once a week is not a 'lot' of time, but it's certainly a lot more than some kids get. At least it is consistent time.

If you and your ex have good communication you could ask him how your son is once they are out of your sight. Hang in there!

Ev - posted on 07/27/2014




To be honest, if all the dad is getting is a few hours on Sunday afternoon, its not enough time for a child to get used to the other parent. And since he is two years old almost three, he does not yet understand why he has to do this. He may not like it but his father has the right to be a parent to him just as much as you do. If this visitation is through the courts, you can not stop the visitations unless you have absolute proof that the dad is a danger of some sort to the child. You need to keep sending the child to the dad's for the visits. If there is not visitation set up then get it set up. But the child is not going to get to know dad well if you stop visits.

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