What should i do when some moms keep sending me private messages?

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Im having private messages about comments i have made is everyone else getting this too? Some of them arent very nuce and im thinking of saying to hell with this site. Thought it was about giving friendly advice to each other not slagging each other off

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Nelda - posted on 01/18/2010

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I WOUL JUST DELETE THOSE LETTERS> I HAVE NEVER GOT ONE YET,BUT IF I DO I WILL JUST IGNORE THEM. DON,EVER LET SOMEONE ELS

I HAVE NEVER GOT ONE BUT IF I DO I WILL JUST IGNORE THEM. PLEASE DON'T LET SOMEONE ELSE RULE WHAT YOU IN JOY. IF THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT ME OR YOU EVEN THEY ARE LEAVING SOMEONE ELSE ALONE. KEEP THE FAITH THEY WILL GIVE UP AS SOON AS YHEY KNOW YOU ARE NOT GIVING UP LOL

Shanara - posted on 01/15/2010

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I would kindly tell the person/persons that you are not trying to offend anyone but if you can't say anything nice please don't send me messages. Bottom-line.

Kimberly - posted on 01/15/2010

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Please don't condemn for the actions of the ignorant few. Some people just can't seem to keep their nastiness to themselves.

Krista - posted on 01/13/2010

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Just ignore it. Many times you'll get HORRIBLE advice on this site, but many more times you'll get some really sound advice. You'll also have people who disagree with you so vehemently that they'll "stalk" your profile and make comments there.
Those are the people to ignore.

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Rachel - posted on 11/02/2012

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I certainly wouldn't leave because of them.

I would more than likely ignore them.

Paige - posted on 01/18/2010

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..my motto...if you got 'em hatin' you girl, you're doin'g somthing RIGHT!!! keep it up!!! I love the "know it alls" ESPECIALLY the ones that "book mother" that seems to be the new fad. "well I read...." "well, in this book it says..." you know, when I raised my first 20yrs ago, the few books they had then all said something different, and 20 years from now, they will all say it different again

keep pissing in their cheerios!

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Well one is still sending me messages what annoys me is that she presumes to know everything. I have 3 kids and I know I dont know it all and wouldnt even presume to but this woman has one child and thinks she is the authority on motherhood.

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I am not sure what you do about that but hopefully your post will remind us all that we are all moms and all doing our best. We are here to lift each other up; not tear each other down. I just read a really good quote this morning from John Maxwell, "Man does not live by bread alone; sometimes he needs some buttering up." Hang in there and the best advice I can give is to delete those ignorant (did I say that?) messages and do not reply as they don't warrant a reply. God Bless You.

Iris - posted on 01/15/2010

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Some pple can be just rude and obnoxious. I would ignore them and delete the emails and i think u can also block them as well.. but not sure what email provider u use.. Some u can block certain emails and others u cannot..

Glynis - posted on 01/14/2010

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I dont think your should remove yourself from the groups you like, just to avoid these people (Trolls) that`s a very negative idea. As others have said delete any e-mails from them, unread.

Sally - posted on 01/14/2010

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I was always told that it is an impossibility to make everyone happy. On that note I am one woman/ mother in this wide world. We participate in this site to help others and receive help for own situations too. With that in mind: people are sometimes frustrated to begin with and it won't take much to have things blown out of proportion unecessarily. I can't even spell correctly sometimes... I love that there are people out there who care enough to address all of these issues with us. So thank you, Suzanne, for being one of the brave women who speak out in times of need as well as for those times when responses of others are totally off-base. Also, some choose to speak and then think things through, so sometimes human error and negative pride jump right into our conversations. There are plenty of times when I have spoken before proper thought and then I regretted it. It takes a big person to admit fault. I must be super tired because I am jumping all over the place, rambling and such. Good luck to you, Suzzanne. Don't give up on us all.

Jessica - posted on 01/13/2010

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I'd say dont let them bother u. If ppl dont like what u have to say then they dont need to read ur comments, dont let rude ppl get to u.

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Well I think the ones who mailed me did over react a fair bit and also made assumptions about me that were unfair. Ive got three boys and I think I'm a good mother Ive made mistakes but who hasnt motherhood is a learning process. Last thing anyone should do on this site is try to make another mother feel like she is irresponsible and a bad parent. Thanks for all your encouragement apart from these messages ive really enjoyed this site and love adding my own experiences to the mix and getting advice about eveything.

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Hi Susan
So sorry to hear that!!! It is very sad that there are moms who are not respectful to others, it should no happens...we are here to take and give advices and help each other...no to be that rude!!!
best wishes!!! and hope it not continue happening to you or other mom!!!

Karen - posted on 01/13/2010

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may i suggest you report these people to the moderators they may be able to help. Not everyone is here to give and receive advice some people are just down right malicious. Pay them no heed,Good Luck

Beth - posted on 01/13/2010

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Hugs Momma!
I would let it go and don;t respond.. Don' give them the energy to feed off of. The Moderator above gave you some great advice.. :)

Renae - posted on 01/13/2010

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I sometimes get private messages that seem really random to me because I have NO IDEA what they are on about. I post a lot and I assume they are referring to a conversation I posted in but I can never figure it out. I usually reply asking for a link to the conversation but rarely get a response. Diddo what everyone else said... try to ignore... if abusive report them.

Sharon - posted on 01/13/2010

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It happens Susanne. Just mark it as spam & delete it. If they pm you and are abusive - then you can report them to admin.

~Jennifer - posted on 01/13/2010

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(I am in no way making light of your situation)



Try moderating this site and see how many nasty PMs you get! -LOL!!!



We are, as Katherine said, working with the developers of Com to enact a blocking option for private messages. My best advice is to copy the PM and send it to the developers of CoM using the "Contact Us" link at the very bottom of the page. (if possible, include a link to the other member's profile with the copy of the PM)



Please do not respond to these types of messages, but rather just report the person that sent it to you in the way I have explained. The developers DO have the ability to block people from the application if it is warranted.



Sorry that we can't do more to help at this time, but we have no control over Private Messages.

Amber - posted on 01/13/2010

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Sorry you have to deal with that, woman can be very un lady-like sometimes!

I would just ignore it. There is a post on here about " opinion vs. attack" that talks about this very thing. when you get an upsetting private message, maybe include that post in a link and let the woman know you appreciate their concern, but you have a right to an opinion and don't appreciate their attack.

Sarah - posted on 01/13/2010

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Hey I just got my first PM and it wasn't all that nice and actually wen it came down to it she had read what i had said wrong and over reacted, I did respond and haven't had a reply, however in most circumstances I would of just ignored, dont give up the great parts of this site for the sake of a few people...

Lisa - posted on 01/13/2010

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Honestly, I would ignore it. This site is very informative and most posters are very friendly. I'd say unless you know the person who's sending you a pm, I wouldn't even open it. It's not worth the hassle. You will have "these types" anywhere you go...they thrive on getting the best of others.

Sanja - posted on 01/13/2010

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Hy Susanne, i'm Sanja...i never have recived that kind of msg, but i think that this site i very helpfull and you shouldnt look at people who dont have nothing alse to do than disturb others....Big hug from me and my baby...stay with us..by

Veronica - posted on 01/13/2010

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I agree they dont need to be sending you private messages unless they want to be your friend I would go to the people in charge her and maybe they can be kicked of of this website. Or aleast give them a warning Because if it keeps up I am sure people will start leaving.

Mandy - posted on 01/13/2010

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No I haven't gotten any just report them that' snot very nice if they don't like something you say they should just ignore it that rude.

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I've had private messages sent to me too. You can either respond to them or delete them. Sometimes ignoring it is probably best. I read a lot of negative stuff out there and it's sad! I don't think that's what this site is for.

Julie - posted on 01/13/2010

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lol its a sad day when ppl act like that i really cant understand why they like to up set others lol

Maggie - posted on 01/13/2010

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I've never had that problem. Maybe remove yourself from the group that those people are in?

Sue - posted on 01/13/2010

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That's unfortunate. I guess some people can't take real advice. I'm new to this site and I figured that that was what this site was for....I thought we were supposed to post tips. I say ignore the "private ones" and move on. Why should you stop getting tips because of that? LOL Can't help everyone u know..LOL



Susana.

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