Alysha - posted on 08/15/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
My ex just recently moved back into his folks' place and had been bugging me for days to see his daughter for the 1st time. I agreed for him to meet her, under one condition, that he and I meet up and talk before hand. We planned on meeting one day, then we didn't bc my daughter wasn't feeling good. The next time we were suppose to meet up, he doesn't tell me that he already had plans with his folks to go help a family friend move and that he had already left his house, but I was already at his house and I could see him inside. So I left. Then finally the day we finally did meet up, he claimed he over slept, didn't hear his alarm, didn't get any of my text messages and we ended up meeting some place else an hour after we were suppose to.
The very next day I pick him up with my daughter in the backseat and head off to the zoo. We spend the whole day together, and before dropping him off, we go to the store and buys her a lil fishy, that she LOVES! So when he gives her a kiss goodbye, he tells her that he loves her, will talk to her soon and see her real soon.
The next day we were suppose to meet up again for his birthday, but no one would answer their phones and till this day have not heard a word from anyone on that side of the family.
I put out there on Facebook that I was mad at him and asked him how he could do this to his 2 year old daughter who cries everynight for her daddy. To see her daddy and talk to him on the phone again. I told him that if he wants to see her again he'll have to prove to me that he can be trusted.
He and I have had our issues before and trust issues, but I've chosen to clean the slate so he can have a relationship with his child. But I don't want to be the one to push him into having that relationship. I just wonder if I made the right decision in allowing him to see her?
I have a feeling that if I don't let him or his family to see her anymore, that things are going to get nasty and things will be brought into court and the only person that's going to get hurt is my daughter.
Which I know if things are brought to court that way things can be settled and either he'll get visitation or none at all. Which I know for a fact, if it goes to court, he won't be getting custody or his rights back. I refuse to have to ask him permission to take my daughter on the road with me for when I travel around the USA and also to different countries.
What do you all think? Am I doing the right thing? Or am I being stupid?