What to do about 8 year old tattle tale. It's getting out of hand.

Elizabeth - posted on 01/13/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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So my stepdaughter is a pretty big tattle tale. She tells on class mates and such but the issue is that she goes to her mother and tells her EVERYTHING that is said at our house. Example: She tells me all the time how mean her brother is and that he hits her and bites her. I tell her to tell her mother so she can handle him. She goes and tells her mother that I said she needs to handle her son better and that he's a heathen. She's even told her mother I hit her in the head with a toy and didn't even mention it was an accident. So of course me and my husband got an earful so we had to explain everything. My stepdaughter has already tried to get her stepfather in trouble saying he hit her when really it was her brother. We finally got her to admit it. She knows what she is doing is causing all this drama. There's enough of it without her starting more between all of us. I've tried to explain to her about her behavior but it's not getting through. I've told her if she keeps it up I'll be calling or texting her mother about her daily progress report I get from her teacher. We''re both at a loss what to do about this child's constant tattle telling. Any ideas?

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Elizabeth - posted on 01/13/2013

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We've already discussed we're not talking about her mother, stepdad, her brother or sister anymore. I'm not giving her anything to tell her mother. I spend quite a bit of time with her, she may be doing it for attention from her mother bc she's got a new baby sister and her mother doesn't spend a lot of time w her anyway. never really thought about the attention thing. Thanks

Cecilia - posted on 01/13/2013

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it sounds like its attention seeking behaviors. Children don't really care if its positive or negative attention. Try ignoring it. don't feed into it. Try to focus on good behaviors and tell her you're proud of her for [put in act here]. Try spending time playing a board game or something that doesn't require her to talk too much. She knows talking gets your attention, show her positive acts get your attention as well.

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