Jessica - posted on 08/30/2012 ( 19 moms have responded )
I am 26, with an 11 month old and I live with the babydad. We own a house together and have been together 5 years, we are just not married and it doesnt look like it will ever happen anyways. I give up on it. I have suffered a nervous break down because of this and I am considering all my options from an ultimatum to leaving with the child in march.
The people that harass me are supposed to be friends of my bf's or they work with me but say offhanded things. His gma introduces me as married and then says "arent you lucky i gave you a one up?"
I wear a fake ring at all outing with my child because when i see someone who knows me i am afraid of what they are going to think. anytime someone mentions how i should be married i ended up extremely depressed.
I am in therapy but it is not helping me much anymore. because even when my therapist helps me find ways to cope i get worn down. i suffered ppd and my therapist helped a great deal with that.
the day o learned to be happy that i was a mother and had a child was the last day i was allowed to be happy. Because that is when this harrassment started about me not being married.
I am tired defending myself to everyone and i just want to be left along and not picked on anymore. what magic words can i say besides "f**ck off"?