User - posted on 06/20/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )
My 20 month old daughter has always had stranger/separation anxiety since she was 8 months old. She recently had tubes put in her ears due to constant ear infections. She is better now, however, her stranger anxiety has gotten worse to a point where if we are in a public place, she starts hyperventilating as she buries her head into my husband's or my shoulder. As she hyperventilates, she gets flushed and hot and will not lift up her head if she is out in public. The only person she goes to is me and my husband. She won't even go to my mom who took care of her the first year of her life. When we go to kid's birthday parties, she doesn't want to play with the other kids and run around. She'd rather be carried hiding her face the whole time and not once will she want to be put down. It's very frustrating!!! At first, I thought it was maybe now she can hear clearly after the surgery, but she's comfortable at home with loud noise. I just wanted to know if this is normal for toddlers or have you experienced this extreme shyness/stranger anxiety with your child, especially with the physical burying of the head and hyperventilating. I understand she will outgrow this, but she has had this for a year now and has gotten worse instead of getting better as she is getting older. Please help! Any tips, advice, or recommendations would be greatly appreciated!