What to do if my menstrual cycle is causing violent outbursts?

Kelly - posted on 08/31/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




I have recently realized that whenever my husband and I get into a pretty bad argument it is when I have my period. And I don't just mean an argument. These actually get very physical with me shoving him, throwing things and then him retaliating or forcefully holding me down to try and get me to stop. This just happened today, and now he has a scratch on his arm, a sore shin from me kicking him there and a dent in the wall, while I am sore all over my body with bruises on my chest, arms, chin, legs and a sore head from him punching me in the back of it. I don't want to make him sound like a monster, because let me be the first one to say that I deserve it. I just go off, sometimes over the simplest thing. He does instigate a little, but that is still no excuse for me to act the way that I do. I just can't help it though. I did just have a baby three months ago, and we realized that while I was pregnant there were no fights, and now since she was born, there have been a couple, both towards the end of my period. It doesn't happen like this any other time. Does anybody else deal with this and is there something that an be done to eliminate my period? I had tubes tied, so I wont be having any more kids, so does it really matter if I get my period. It just sucks, because we both love each other more than anything, and I feel awful after this all happens. Plus we have three kids and I don't want them growing up seeing violence and thinking that it is okay. Especially my two boys. I don't want them seeing their father and thinking that it is okay to hit a woman. So, I am hoping that I am not the only one dealing with this and that I can get some advice.


Kristi - posted on 08/31/2013




You need to go see your doctor right away. You have to get something to regulate your hormones before someone gets even more seriously hurt, God forbid your baby or one of your children...because they can instigate things, too, without even meaning to, sometimes. You can discuss options with your doctor about different forms of birth control all the way to having a hysterectomy or whatever to stop you from having your period but the hysterectomy could send you into early menopause and then you'd be dealing with an entirely different set of hormones. For your safety and your family's safety, make that phone call first thing Tuesday morning, unless your doctor is open on Labor Day. You are playing with fire. Please call asap.

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