what to do since my son fell out of his bed?

Jessica - posted on 09/08/2011 ( 276 moms have responded )

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ok i put him in his big boy bed and next minute i no he wakes up then thud!! and more crying.. eva since he fell out of his bed he wont go back in it..any ideas what i could do?

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He's scared based on a past experience. It's a natural reaction.

I'd say get some bed rails and next time you put him to bed, sit with him until he falls asleep. Tell him you'll be here for him and the rails will keep him safe. If he sees you sitting there, he will feel safer and more than likely fall asleep in his bed. It worked well with my son and I'm going to have to do it for my daughter in the very near future.

Claire - posted on 09/09/2011

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If he's still against sleeping in his bed with the rails, put his matress on the floor with the rail and let him get used to the bed before you elevate it again.

Jessica - posted on 09/10/2011

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Putting the mattress on the floor works well. We were forced with our oldest into putting him in a big boy bed before we felt he was ready (family crib). We chose a toddler bed because it was smaller and lower to the ground. While he loved it, he too fell out and was scared. Even though it was only a difference of about 6 inches, we put the mattress on the floor. Within a night or two, we put the mattress back on the frame, this time with a couple of blankets next to the bed. Soon enough we were good to go!

Joanne - posted on 09/10/2011

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A pool noddle tied to the matress can also help I got my daughter to help me put it on and she has not come out of bed since the noddle did not look as high but once they lay next to it it comes over there shoulder which can be a reminder that the edge is there. As she did not like the rail becuase it made it to hard to get up for toilet

User - posted on 09/19/2011

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USE A POOL NOODLE! Cut a pool noodle to fit the length/width of the bed. Put it under the fitted sheet & it creates an instant barrier!

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Karen - posted on 09/19/2011

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It happened with my daughter as well. We put the bed rails on and told her that they will protect her. She has done great with them for the past 6 months. If the rails don't work I would put the mattress on the floor. Another option if he does not like the rails is to put the bed up against one wall a get a body pillow to lay along side him on the open side of the bed.

Jcoupon1 - posted on 09/19/2011

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I saved my daughter's crib mattress when I moved her to a "big girl" bed. When she feared the big bed I would pull the crib mattress onto the floor next to her big bed and tell her that if she falls out the other mattress would catch her. She is 6 now and does not use the mattress on the floor idea very often, I only pull it out when she is tossing and turning alot or if she is sick (she seems to move more when she is sick). I don't have carpet in my home so this was a good solution for her. For a 2 year old I would recommend something like this if you can't get a bed guard. First I would try to get a bed guard though.

Erin - posted on 09/19/2011

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I would put the mattress on the floor, my son fell out of his bed and broken his collar bone, but he wasnt afraid to sleep in his bed!

Sara - posted on 09/19/2011

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My daughter wouldnt go back in after she fell out, so we made her a bed on the floor for the night and told her we would get her a special big girls bed. The next day Daddy painted with her while I went out and bought her some new girly bedding, a long maternity cushion and some pink cushions, I made up the bed with 2 pillows one for her head and the other at the side to help stop her from rolling off, put the long cushion against the bed and the other cushions on the floor so if she did fall out she would land softly and then when we took her upstairs to bed and she saw her 'new' bed and couldnt wait to get in. She did fall out a couple of times but got straight back into her new big girls bed.

Good luck.

Brenda - posted on 09/19/2011

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you ca get safety rails that slide under his mattress...that will make him feel safer...then eventually you can take the rails off

Susan - posted on 09/19/2011

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I don't know how old your son is but we put Savannah in a toddler bed for a few years after she got out of her crib. It has guards at the top so she won't fall out. If a big bed is all he has, maybe you should push it against the wall and put a guard up on one side (you can find these at any og the baby stores). His fear is falling out so if you secure it for awhile so he won't fall out then after awhile he will become ready to have the guard removed. If you want to step back to the toddler bed, they use his crib mattress and are at Toys R Us. Another thing is put his stuffed animals around him so he feels secure. I definitely would get the guard if you try to keep him in the big bed. Best of luck to you.

Meredith - posted on 09/19/2011

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First, I would put his mattress on the floor and put pillows around it. That way it's more of a roll instead of a thud. Also,
I would lay in his bed with him and read stories and try to make him more comfortable in his new bed. Good luck!

Kirsti - posted on 09/19/2011

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when my son went from his cot to his cot-bed i brought one of the gaurd's that you put on the side of the bed,plus i used to sit with him til he feel asleep. The bed gaurds are really good and make them feel safe.

Barbara - posted on 09/19/2011

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Let him help you make his bed one he can stay in. Roll up a BIG bath towel (Bath sheet) and put it on the outside edge of the bed under the fitted sheet, Then the two of you can pad the floor around the bed with pillows and thick quilts, etc. just in case.

Rachel - posted on 09/19/2011

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Get a bed rail and show he he can't fall out. Let him know it happens to everyone and it's ok to be afraid, the rail will keeps him from rolling off again. I put a large stuffed anaimal under my daughters covers tucked in on outside and she has a loft bed with no rail.

Billie - posted on 09/19/2011

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A child under the age of 2yrs is not too young to be in a toddler bed. I started toddler bed training my daughter at 16 months and she was trained by 17 months. She absolutely loved her "big girl" bed from the beginning.

Lori - posted on 09/19/2011

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James did the same thing! we ended up letting him sleep on the floor. then after a few months, he just started back up in his bed. he needed to have the safe and secure feeling of being ok in his room again first. hope this helps!

Lisa - posted on 09/19/2011

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put a bed guard up and put a thick quilt on the floor or an airbed. Also you can try reading to your son in his bed during the day and putting teddies to bed too. You could also get him some bedding that he has chosen himself and a special teddy.
I put my oldest into a bed at 10months because he climbed out of his cot and fell to the floor which is more dangerous than falling out of a bed and that is what we did, put a bed guard up and a thick double quilt folded up and pillows on the floor.
With my 2nd he never tried to climb out of his cot because he has weak muscles so was in a cot til he was 3yrs old.
My daughter is 8months old and we will see how she goes, if she climbs out i will put her in a bed, if she doesn't then she can stay in her cot.

Carolyn - posted on 09/19/2011

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I bought my son the biggest softest stuffed animal I could find and told him to hold on tight! it worked..maybe it will work for you.. BTW he still fell out the bed a few more times but the bear broke his fall. no more crying.

Leeann - posted on 09/19/2011

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I took a large garbage bag and put pillows clothes sblankets, anything not being used in it. Then i put a sheet around it and put it next to his bed so if he did fall then he wouldnt get hurt and he can also sleep on it to. If that doesnt work you can always by one of those safety railing that go under that mattress and keep him in his bed. Its like a side rail.

Heather - posted on 09/19/2011

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A child under 2 years of age is WAY too young to be in a bed without rails. Please get some for him before he really gets hurt.

Molly - posted on 09/19/2011

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I would leave him in his small bed until he is ready. I left my daughter until she was ready and we have never had a problem.

Jessica - posted on 09/19/2011

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There is a guard that you can put on the bed, and explain to him, this will help you stay in place. I went through that with my daughter. Since I bought the guard, she was able to feel safer from hurting herself. Now I dont need it anymore, but keep just in case. I have attached a link, this one shows pink, but they have various colors:

http://www.walmart.com/ip/Summer-Infant-...

Billie - posted on 09/19/2011

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I use to put pillows on the floor so when my daughter would fall she wouldn't hurt herself.

Carmen - posted on 09/19/2011

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They have really cool gurads that u can purchase first steps has them. Check with your local Toys R us they also carry them. You can also place pillows in front of the bed and let him know he will be among the clouds if he falls and also try those night lights saw he can some light if he wakes up in the middle of the night.

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you can buy guards now that help ease the transistion from cot to bed, and can prevent the child from falling from the bed, they are easily fitted and can be removed just as easily...

Kim - posted on 09/19/2011

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Jessica,
Some things are better taken in small steps. Perhaps a different approach is needed, one that takes more time.

When putting a child in a "big kids bed", I would recommend starting out slowly, with the mattress on the floor. There is less distance to fall, and less chance of the "thud!" followed by crying. Make sure the covers are tucked under the mattress, so it's like crawling into a sleeping bag with padding.
After a couple of weeks of no falling out of bed, add the box springs, so your son can see and feel that he is making progress towards the big bed. After he no longer falls from this height, add the rest of the bed.
I did this with all three of my kids, and it worked like a charm. My son, now 23, even used this method with my grandson.

Ossie - posted on 09/19/2011

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Hi Jessica,
first did the bed have guards on it? My grandson is 2 and he is in a big boy bed but there are safety guards attached to the side that is not against the wall. Also is the bed low to the the floor, this helps too even if he gets around the guard, he won't hurt himself if he falls from them. Try it again and stay with him till he falls asleep. My grandbaby loves his bed, both at my house and his. Stay encouragede.

Catherine - posted on 09/19/2011

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He might not be ready for a bed yet, you could put him back in the cot and try him again in a little while, alternatively bed rails are a great barrier and you could also put cushions on the floor to help him feel protected and also to cushion him if he should fall out of bed

Jaime - posted on 09/19/2011

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I would take my child to the store, or where ever I was getting a bed rail from and talk to my child about why we were buying a bed rail, and let my child help me pick it, and put it on the bed. then I would demonstrate laying on the bed, while talking to my child (all this way in advance to bed time) about how it will now keep my child safe. Then I would just forget about it. At bedtime, I would not show my anxiety about my child falling out. I want my child to feel that I trust myself and what I have done to keep my child safe. I would continue with bedtime routine like normal. If by chance the anxiety arises, i would sit with my child, and demonstrate again that the bed is safe. i would not prolong this, because children pick up quickly on an adults feelings. Then I would lay my child down, and say good night. if this didn't work. I think for me, the next choice would be to put the mattress on the floor. Good Luck. Stay strong.

Margi - posted on 09/19/2011

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I had an item called a "bed tent" for my son when he was smaller in his big bed. I couldn't find an exact one but the "treetops" one on this page is very similar. It also kept mosquitoes out because it had screens for windows. It was an army jeep! very cool and when he was bigger it just became a play tent on the floor.
http://www.nextag.com/bed-tents/products...

Karen - posted on 09/19/2011

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The padded side rails would be good and would remind him of the crib he just came from. They are about $15 or $20 at walmart or target.

Amanda - posted on 09/18/2011

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I would push the bed against a wall and get a bed rail this will protect him if he rolls over, and give him lots of reassurance. The other thing you could try is placing the matress on the floor until he has learnt where the boundries of a matress are and is comfortable in sleeping there.

Kim - posted on 09/18/2011

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We store the cot mattress under our daughters new bed and slide it out when she goes to bed each night in case she falls out.

Peggy - posted on 09/18/2011

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he is scared of the bed and big beds can be scary to a small child you can do two things. you can put up side rails, but he might get his hand caught in the railings. I myself just put the bed on the floor until my child got use to it. so when she rolled out of bed it wasn't a thud. you can also stay with him until he falls asleep, that way he will feel safe. I had to sleep next to my daughter a few times until she got use to the bed.

Jennifer - posted on 09/18/2011

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When we got the big boy bed at first our little one was scared. I found a mesh/net thing (really specific, I know) thing that straps to the bed underneath the mattress. It leaves only about a foot or or 2 open and it's see through. He didn't mind sleeping in the bed after that! Here's a link for one like it, I googled toddler bed rails. http://www.onestepahead.com/catalog/prod... Good luck!

MaryAnn - posted on 09/18/2011

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If rails and sitting with him til he falls asleep don't work in a week, move the mattress to the floor. Put the rails under the mattress when it is on the floor so he gets used to the railings. Move the mattress back onto its frame in a few months when he is a little older and more comfortable sleeping in the "big boy bed".

Mary - posted on 09/18/2011

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We started with the mattress on the floor, as Tawnya suggested. Then after success with that, we moved on to box spring plus mattress. Finally, we added the bed frame and a rail (we didn't have the same CPSC laws back then, but this railing would have met their requirements). Eventually, the railing was stored for the next child.

Does mommy or daddy lie down with the little one for naptime? If he feels secure with that, he might just need a little more encouragement.

Gemma - posted on 09/18/2011

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Put his bed cushion/mattress on the floor. Surround his mattress with rubber mats, so when he rolls off, he still won't get hurt.

Susan - posted on 09/18/2011

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I use these, they are foam and go under the sheet. http://www.gobedbug.com/



They can crawl over them since they are soft. They are good for travel as well, we just stuff them into a backpack. We also started off with the mattress on the floor. In a pinch, you can roll a bath towel up tightly and stick it under the sheet to act like the foam.

Tawnya - posted on 09/18/2011

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Someone once told me their solution to the same prob: they first put the mattress alone on the floor for a while,.until you feel he's ready, then add the box spring next then finally put him back in the whole bed but put pillows along the side where he could fall so atleast if he fslls its into pillows

Amanda - posted on 09/18/2011

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I put a body pillow where the gap is from the rail to the wall. I also have one of those soft cars chairs from Walmart that pull out like a little nap pad so I put that as the second layer with pillows around it! I started doing this when I found him sleeping on the ground under the bed!! I felt horrible!!

Ange - posted on 09/18/2011

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My pediatrician said for their kid they put pillows all around the bed on the floor, any place the kid might land if he fell out of bed. Moved any furniture he might hit if he did roll out.
I didn't do that, but I modified it because I couldn't afford even to go buy rails. I started my kid out sleeping on the floor (on the carpet) with pillows on either side of him, altho with enough room to roll around as he usually does. Once he got used to those pillows being there and marking the point of the edge of his "bed" then I moved him to his own bed but also put pillows on either edge. Yes, if he turns sideways he may kick one off, but most of the time he just rolls back and forth between them and has learned not to go any further. I haven't tried taking them away yet... the one time he did push one off and later roll that way, he did go too far and fall off -- onto the pillow, so that was ok too.
But I let him help make sure the pillows are there. He sees them as his safety net and once he knows they're there, he'll sleep just fine.

Jenny - posted on 09/18/2011

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Bed rails would be my first choice, my daughter is constantly falling out of bed, we bought some extra pillows and have it on the floor next to the bed as a soft landing and we have her bed up against the wall so their is only one side that she can fall. So we lay her as far over towards the wall as possible. Good Luck

Peggy - posted on 09/18/2011

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I agree...get some bed rails. There are different types out there so you can find the one that will work best for you. The rails will help him regain his confidence in sleeping in his own 'big boy' bed. Worked for my daughter.

Sarah - posted on 09/18/2011

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Put just the mattress on the floor - it will be different and fun, and if he does roll out, he won't get hurt. Once he gets accustomed to this and is no longer rolling out of bed, put the actual bed back in there. I would have him watch you do both of these things, and reassure him that this is a fun new experience that goes along with being a big boy.

Karen - posted on 09/18/2011

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Since I was expecting a baby the day my son turned two I put the mattress directly on the floor. He rolled out of it many times but since there was no bed frame or box springs he'd roll onto the floor. He eventually learned to stay in the middle of the mattress. When he learned that it was time to add the bed frame and box springs. I then added side rails.

Barbara - posted on 09/18/2011

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get a toddler bed that has rails or make some wooden ones out of 2x4's then put some foam and fabric over then staple it wit his favorite material email me for more specific design

Fran - posted on 09/18/2011

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1st get the mattress on the floor. (preferably in a corner) after he gets used to sleeping on the mattress then add the box spring. then when he is ready you can put the frame back on the bed. i never used side rails for my kids. i had them when i was a kid and they freaked me out so i never got them for my kids. and sometimes when i put my kids in bed i lie down with them for a few minutes too and you can't do that with rails.

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