What to do to get my baby's father back :-(

Kathy - posted on 07/24/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Me and my husband married for 4 years and we're happy all the time that what I think but recently I found out he's not...he felt so lonely cause so many reasons make us keep living long distance. For the last 2 months when we back together I did so many things disappointed him by reject to have sex with him sometimes,we often argued because I'm stress with our new daughter 8 months old and upset with his busy work schedule,few time I say things not nice to him like " why I need u in my life" because he can't help me to take care of our daughter and we are living in another country without help from family...my attitude was so wrong during that 2 months but he didn't give me any clue that I'm wrong,he just step back and the last mistake is when he go on long business trip for 8 weeks and he offered me to go back my hometown together with our daughter...wait until his work finished then we will be back but after we have a big argue because he didn't call for a week which is not happen before and when he call I was so upset and yell as him and I ask for divorce " this is my biggest mistake I have to carry on for the rest of my life" ... After that my husband he designed to move on and don't give me any chance to work things out, so many times I begging him to stay and give our family a chance let me show him how I change and think about our daughter but every thing is too late...now he really want we to divorce to move on and be friends cause he say it's good for us...I'm just so broke but I don't want to give up on our family...I was so wrong in the past and I just wish he give me just one last chance to fix it. I love my spouse so much and He worth for me to keep trying even though he doesn't

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Michelle - posted on 07/24/2016

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Like I said, living apart like that isn't a marriage.
It sounds like it's far too late to fix things since you have been apart more than you have been together.
I would suggest that next time you make sure you are living a proper married life, not apart. It very rarely works.

Michelle - posted on 07/24/2016

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If you aren't living as a married couple why do you still want to be married to him?
Your post is very hard to understand though.
If you want to make it work then you actually need to be living together as a married couple and working through all your problems.

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Kathy - posted on 07/24/2016

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Thank you for your reply Michelle...sorry because English is not my mother language..I really want to go back together and work things out but as I mentioned before he offer me to go back hometown while he in business trip and then I broke his heart by asking to divorce cause I'm so stupid to play hard to get game and after he come back from business trip he move out from our house and rent another house and offer to send back all my stuff back to my hometown...it seems so hopeless but I still send him an email to hope he will come to my hometown for our daughter first birthday and everything between us we can talk face to face...I will respect his decision and if we have to divorce I would love to be friends...then he said work is busy he can't make it and after our divorce finallize he also want to be friend. It's good to keep some contact for our daughter...and today he asked me if I ready to continue divorce cuz it's almost 4 months since we separated and he doesn't want to delay...I told him I'm not ready and I Never ready for it and I was so wrong to use the word divorce to push him when I was upset at him..I said if he busy I can flight there to see him so we can talk more but he said he already returned our house and move out with his new apartment and he have no play for me to stay...and divorce is what he wants,it's best for us and our daughter too...it's broke my heart when I read his message

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