Melssa - posted on 08/20/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )
I left my ex-commonlaw 21/2 years ago. He threatened that if I ever took the kids from his farm he' d drag me thru court till I had nothing! When I left him the police charged him with assault and told me to go back and get what I needed for a few days. He ended up with almost everything I owned. The sentimental things are the most disheartening but he says has no clue where they went. I had 2 horses but he refused to let me have them and and then sold them. After 11/2 years I told him that the courts will only see us as family so for the boys sake we need to start acting like it. He didn't want to be friends he wanted the whole package. I said we had to be friends 1st. I gave him the boys for school time(4.5:2.5 days), and he demanded PD and holidays as well. I wanted 4:3 for vacation time he insited 3.5:3.5 So I allowed it. We did great, I thot, for 10 months. I agreed to move back to the community if he got coucelling. He agreed to help me buy a farm close to his so we could share parenting and be there for each other for child care and help when needed, but in exchange he wanted a "blanket control" over me and the property. When I wouldn't agree he went balistic and called off everything. Now he demands his own parenting schedule and if I don't agree he tries to take it! My daughter, 14, asked for her savings and trampoline he said no get a lawyer! Police won't help he hasn't committed a crime! Back to court but lawyers say you have to get along you can't have custody. The control he has over the boys(4&6yrs) is sickening. He tells them Mummy is stupid and everything we do or buy is pathetic. He changes my appointments and when I arrive to pick up the boys he makes me wait for up to an hour. He just informed me that my things I had there in storage, cause we agreed if I was going to move back there was no point in hauling it home and then back again, was taken to the dump 11/2 months ago. I know there is alot here but this is only half of it and I'm not going to cope with much more!