Kellie - posted on 06/09/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )
My nearly 8 yr old son has always kept us on our toes with discipline techniques. Nothing ever works for long. Most techniques last 3 weeks tops. Then it's like he's immune. Punishments make him laugh. Rewards bore him. If you take away a favorite toy, he just moves on to another toy without making a fuss over the lost one. If you offer a special treat as a reward for a week well done, he loses interest in that treat after about 3 times. (Treats are special outings, toys, or a little bit of candy, staying up a little later on the weekend...etc.) Even if he picks the treat, he starts to say, "I don't care what I get."
Punishments like not getting to do something he was looking forward to just make him shrug and actually say, "I don't care." He doesn't say it in a disrespectful tone, more like stating a fact. No real voice inflection.
Recently at school, he had a particularly bad day. He had missed recess because of some behavior in the classroom, and when I asked him how that made him feel, he said, "It was OK. At least I wasn't doing work." (The school is set up that there isn't anywhere else for him to go but with his age group.)
A few days ago, I asked him (when there wasn't a current behavior issue going on) what he thought we should do about inappropriate behavior. He told me he couldn't think of anything because he didn't care about much.
I don't know what to do. This actually scares me to death. I could use some advice!!