What to do when it comes to privacy for my child?

Cynthia - posted on 04/23/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




What to do when your child won't let you hold/see his phone, Facebook, etc.?

Acts like he has stuff to hide but you know in your gut there is nothing so what is the problem?

Should I demand all passwords or be one of those parents that don't and say I wish I knew what he was doing after something bad happens ???????????


Jodi - posted on 04/24/2013




It depends on the situation. If my son refused to allow me to see, he would have his phone confiscated and be grounded from internet time except for his schoolwork when I can fully 100% supervise him (as well as grounded from other activities in his life). It isn't just the not giving up the passwords I would take issue with, but the act of defiance too.

Sarah - posted on 04/23/2013




I am with Dove. I have the passwords to their items and they know at any time I can read what they have typed. I like Dove do not read everything, but they are aware that at any time the possibility is there. I have also told them that if they are open and share with me when I ask them questions I am less likely to read their texts.

I feel we are the parents and we need to parent. In todays world that is much different then it was when we were growing up. When I was a teen we did not have cell phones or even a cordless phone. My parents could hear our conversations and know what was going on. I also think it is important to respect their "privacy" Just like my parents were not sitting right beside me listening to the phone conversation I am not right there reading every text. If the trust is broken then so is the privacy. The phone, ipod, etc. are all privileges and can and will be taken if misused.

Dove - posted on 04/23/2013




My kids don't have a Facebook yet (they are under 13), but do have a cell phone and are well aware that I can read any and all texts and if they delete anything or don't let me read it.... the phone is gone. IMO, these are rules that need to be established prior to the privileges being allowed and if the rules are followed... they suffer the consequences.

I actually DON'T read everything, but they know I can and will anytime I feel the need.


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