what to do when you find out your grandchildren have done sexual things to each other, and the age is 5, and ten. boy is 5, girl is 10. and the boyis 5 years old has done it with the neighbor boy who is 7. My daughters think it wont happen again, becuse the 5 year old was punished. And the 10 year old was talked to. dont know how the neighbor boys mother handled it.

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Dove - posted on 06/18/2012

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You don't specify what 'sexual things' and I don't really want to know, but if it's more than curious looking and touching... at FIVE years old, I'd be getting him into counseling asap. If this is his third time, it is obvious that punishing isn't working and I'd be concerned about what he may be being exposed to... I do hope his mother WILL handle it.

Lisa - posted on 06/18/2012

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Krista my mother did the opposite when she caught me at 5 with my best male friend and freaked out like a nut. Which of course ensured we continued the playing until he moved at 11.

Lisa - posted on 06/18/2012

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Sex play is pretty normal among kids and often an older child closer to puberty more curious will initiate it. The best thing is to not flip out over it, discuss what it is and open a door for her to feel comfortable to talk to you about things. Doing that seems to put a halt to the play and get the child to move on. Freaking out tends to create what i call naughty syndrome. In which kids continue doing it because now there is an added thrill to be naughty.

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Terri - posted on 06/18/2012

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The 5 year old boy told his mother about the 3 times, and who with, so he was honest about it. I agree about talking to a professional, and they will be watched closely. thank you for your response.

Terri - posted on 06/18/2012

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Thank you for your response, I worry more about my grandson who is only 5, and has done this three times, but I agree to leave it up to the parents, and hope it doesn't happen anymore.

Krista - posted on 06/18/2012

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It very well MIGHT not happen again. When I was about 6, I was doing similar exploration with my best friend. My mom caught us and gave us a firm (but kind) talking-to. And that was the end of that -- once we knew that this was not a good thing for us to be doing, we never did it again.

Frankly, this is up to your daughter to handle, NOT you. You have to trust that she will keep an eye on the situation.

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