What to do when your 15 year old Daughter wants a my space???

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Sophia - posted on 02/19/2014

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All young people wants their space... My only problem was what they did with that given space. My older son space was taken away... He wanted to make his own rules don't work under my watch... My middle son just wanted to be left alone to watch tv, have is 3 friends over,talk on the phone of his laptop. So he got to keep his space.you can close your door.. You can't have a lock on any doors in my house. The little one is just in everyone space.

Christi - posted on 08/13/2009

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My 13 yr old and I set up FB for him together. He know that I have to appreove his friends before he is allowed to accept them. He also knows that I have his passwords and check on him at any given time. It is really working out well. By the way...if the garbage does not get taken out...he looses FB for a day...so far I have not had to ask for the garbage to be taken out. Once school starts, he may have 20 min. an evening if time allows AFTER homework is completed. Break the rules he will loose FB for the week.....Good Luck!!!

Regina - posted on 08/13/2009

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my 14- year old has a myspace and a face book. We make sure we monitor her, have we have her as a friend on our page, plus have her password at all times and randomly check her page. Also, make sure you show her how people can gain information from her page if she lets them.

Natalie - posted on 08/13/2009

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Quoting Ashley:yes I totally agree

I think it would be find just check it all the time and give her rules. like dont add anyone to your friends unless you know them and if she breaks your rules that you set delete it and tell her that you set rules and you didnt listen so maybe your not old enough to have a myspace. just be firm and make sure she knows all your rules b4 making an account. there are to many crazy people in this world and safety should be first.


 

Ashley - posted on 08/13/2009

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I think it would be find just check it all the time and give her rules. like dont add anyone to your friends unless you know them and if she breaks your rules that you set delete it and tell her that you set rules and you didnt listen so maybe your not old enough to have a myspace. just be firm and make sure she knows all your rules b4 making an account. there are to many crazy people in this world and safety should be first.

Sheila - posted on 08/13/2009

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I would say monitor it, explain to her that putting anything on it can have long term affects--colleges, future employers can find her, also explain not to post anything that could be misconstrued as having a sexual or partying *drugs/alcohol* nature to it. Check it periodically, but also remember that myspace now does not allow adults to access minor accounts, unless they make a false account. Also warn her not to post personal private information, ie: school name, address, full name, and make sure none of her pictures show any of that either. I would suggest allow her her privacy, but make sure she understands that anytime you want access to the account she needs to allow it, seeing as you are allowing her the PRIVILEGE of having a myspace account to begin with. It is probably the first major trust issue, give her the benefit of the doubt at first but if her behavior changes erratically, or you notice strange people or phone numbers, look into it!

Natalie - posted on 08/13/2009

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well alotta 15 year olds have a myspace u just need to monitor her what hse does on there and if u see her doing things shes not supposed to then take it away

Charity - posted on 08/13/2009

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My 14 year old son has a myspace. We worked on it together and set some simple rules about what kinda pictures and information should be posted. I also made sure he made me a friend that way I could look at it anytime to make sure he sticks to the rules.

Shannon - posted on 08/13/2009

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the most important thing is to create her profile together. look up some of her friends and show her just how a predator could glean info from their sites: conversations about their school, use of her last name, talk about where she will be without parents. show her that she can and should delete comments from her friends that reveal too much info. if you do want to give her responsibility for her password - create a myspace profile for yourself and be her friend so that you have access to all her outgoing info, friend info, bulletins, etc. Do some research online and find newspaper articles about myspace accounts gone very wrong. There was one about a year ago that a 14 year old girl had been tricked by an "friend" and her mom into thinking a boy liked her and then dumped her. She committed suicide with her parents downstairs. There are a lot of stories that she could learn from. Wouldn't it be fantastic if our communities ran a "online safety class" for teens??

Porschea - posted on 08/13/2009

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let her have 1 but she has to agree to let you set up the page approve pics. and evrything else.

Toni - posted on 08/13/2009

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I do believe she should have her myspace, but trust isn't established with allowing her to have her own password and you not having it! Trust at 15 comes in many ways, but safety always comes first when it comes to the internet! There's many predators out there acting like kids and your daughter may not realize the difference right away. Be sure you don't put your exact city location or exact details of school info etc. Her friends won't care about that. My daughter is 15 going on 16 and I have her password. She is not to delete ANY mail and is to have open communication with me. Hour restrictions are helpful. 15 is a tough age for lots of girls and, of course, there's lots of drama in high school. It helps to monitor her friends spaces as well and see what kind of things they write too. There's lots of troubled teens out there and you, as a mom, could identify when something is wrong. Lots of things happen online, so teach safety, security, rules and respect. You may have a few issues, but most things can be worked out. My daughter has lost her privileges a few times, but has always learned her lesson (luckily). I could go on about a few other things if you want more info. Just let me know. Good luck with your decision.

Brandy - posted on 08/13/2009

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my 14 year old has a facebook and a myspace and i have a agreement with her that all friends have to be oked with me and anything she adds i have to do intill she is 16 then the passwords i know the answer to all of her questions and if they are changed she gets the facebook or myspace deleted.

TANYA RENEE - posted on 08/13/2009

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IF YOU DECIDE TO LET HER, BE SURE SHE GIVES YOU HER LOGIN AND PASSWORD SO YOU CAN CHECK IT EACH TIME. ALSO MONITOR HER COMPUTER USAGE!

Kara - posted on 08/13/2009

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wat kind of daughter do u have??? Is she a good girl does she go to school does she make good grades!!! I dont agree with these other mothers about having her password!! i think that u should let her have one and show her u trust her but yet let it be known that if u want she will let u check her myspace out!!!!! and anyways she has to use ur email address so any friend request any notes anything she gets goes striaght to ur email!!!

Valerie - posted on 08/13/2009

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I agree with everyone else... myspace and facebook are a serious part of communication for teens. I also have teenagers who have these and the only way they get to keep them or keep online access is that I have the passwords and can check on them anytime.

Lindsay - posted on 08/13/2009

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I agree...Let her have one but keep the computer in a active space in your house and check the history and make sure you have the password and make her aware that it's ok to have it but mom is also going to keep tabs on it.

Bridgette - posted on 08/13/2009

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I recently gave my teen permission to have a myspace with some rules. I have her password and have access to her page at ANYTIME.... if I cannot access her page, it will be shut down. I do access her page from time to time and I let her know that I have so that she knows that I do check up on her activity. We also monitor history, and open communication (as I am sure you know) is key to everything your child does... so talk about it and ask questions, learn about how it works and how she can set up a private account... hope this helps...

Cindy - posted on 08/13/2009

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I agree with Johanna. Sure give her one, but the computer is in the family room, and when she goes to bed you have her password and you get to peek around. Yes she's 15, but she's in your home, and it's your rules.

Johanna - posted on 08/13/2009

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My 13 yr old son has Facebook but we built his profile together and I have his password and he is aware that I check his site out periodically. We are also adding software to save his messages and chats. So far it has been working well and he is having fun on the site and not in any danger.

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