what to do when your child does not care for your boyfriend?

Marandamercer - posted on 10/24/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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okay so i have a 3 year old, me and her dad split like a week before her 1st birthday. i have never introduced her to any guys that i went on dates with etc. but i just recently started dating this guy well about 6 months. i introduced her to him because we are pretty serious. he has two kids they all get along but she seems to not like my boyfriend the kids she loves but not him she says that i am her mommy etc. what should i do?

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Lakota - posted on 10/24/2012

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Give her time. It may be jealousy. Your daughter is not being disrespecful, she's being 3 and never had to share her mom before. I wouldn't tell her that "you do not intend on losing this man." If he is a decent man, he will be patient with her also. Have you asked her why she doesn't like him? Listen to her. You have only been with this guy for 6 months. You have been with your daughter for 3 years and she needs you much more than this man does.

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Dove - posted on 10/24/2012

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Time and patience. If he's a good man who treats her well and she likes the kids... she will come around.. especially if you don't push it. She's 3 and kids at that age are difficult creatures anyway.



Reassure her that yes, you are her Mommy and that you aren't going anywhere, but that 'whatever his name is' would like to be a part of her life too. Most important is to give it time. Obviously don't tolerate disrespect towards him just as you wouldn't tolerate disrespect towards yourself, but she is 3.... and these things take time.

Holly - posted on 10/24/2012

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i didn't MEAN to tell her like THAT just flat out, just make it known that you don't intend on leaving him on a silly whim... or just because "she doesn't like him"

Holly - posted on 10/24/2012

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well, it will take a while for her to get used to sharing mommy, but you NEED to let her know that you do not intend on losing this man... and you NEED to let her know that she HAS to be respectful to him. but no matter how much you may love him, you will never love her any less.



I see so many relationships go in the dumps because of disrespectful kids... so i can not URGE you enough, PLEASE do not let her be rude and disrespectful to him

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