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I've got a complicated situation.
My daughter's nanny has been with us for almost 2 years, and has been great. We really like her, as does my daughter.
She's had quite a lot of financial trouble in the past and has asked us for advances on her salary, which we've always done. This is the only issue we've ever had with her. Other than that she's been, as I said, great.
Fairly recently, I referred her to my friend, and my friend's sister, as they needed extra help. I thought, great, now she's got a full work-load and her financial burdens should ease a bit.
But, my friend and her sister have both started to notice things going missing. They have had no one else in their houses other than friends and family, and they are 99% sure that it's the nanny.
Currently, they've both let her go--made up some excuse--in order to allow me to keep her on (otherwise it would be too awkward if she knew I knew she had been accused of stealing).
As far as I know, she's never stolen from us. Also, I don't have a lot worth stealing. The things that were taken from my friends' houses were expensive jewelry, designer handbags and gift certificates. I have nothing like that in my house.
But what should I do? I fully trust my friend, and to be honest, can see our nanny being capable of this, as I know how bad her financial situation is. My trust in her is shaken. I'm planning on letting her go in a few months anyway, as my daughter is due to start pre-school, but do I just stick it out until then or find someone else in the interim? (not such an easy thing to do)
Another problem is that I'm sure she'll ask for my referral in the future, and I cannot in good conscious do that at this point.
I should say that she's been accused of stealing in the past. Another family she started working for noticed some jewelry missing and let her, and the construction workers working in the house at the time, go. (This is what she told me).
So please, any advice would be greatly welcomed.