What to do with a 13 month old who likes to scratch her friends face? (and mine too)

Melissa - posted on 04/23/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




Okay so my daughter is 13 months old, in day care and at first this scratching in the face was more exploration of the skin in her fist *neat* concept. Than as time went on, she learned it hurts kids and was told 'no' and one day she scratched the 3 new children in her room.

Than as time went on I noticed that when she gets mad at me, or frustrated with me, she either scratches or bites me hard.

This morning she left a mark on my arm.

What would you recommend when 'no' is not working and moving her away and saying 'no' only makes her do it again....

What form of discipline would you suggest from experience, the tapping or slapping of the hand, the 1-2-3 Magic method??

I am just tired of her hurting other children.


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Dove - posted on 04/23/2012




Keep her nails short, firmly grab her hand and say 'no scratching, be gentle', take her hand and SHOW her what gentle is by stroking your arm or cheek with her hand. If she doesn't stop move where she can't do it and ignore her for a couple of minutes.

If it were my own kid I 'might' be tempted to smack her hand (hard to say since I didn't have a consistent 'abuser' when they were little), but I can't do that to the daycare kids. I had a little girl go through a pinching phase from about 13-15 months. It takes time, but with firmness and consistency they out grow it fairly quickly. A good daycare provider will know this and take positive steps to correct the behavior.

Brittney - posted on 04/23/2012




I smack my daughters hand when she does something like that, or I keep her from being able to scratch by cutting her nails short.

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